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My Mum.....

.....also, in my opinion, neglected me when I was a child. However, now that I am in my 40's and becoming a writer after being a housewife and mother for 11 years, I have realised recently that my mother had hopes and dreams of a beautiful life herself which never panned out. She got pregnant when she was 19; got married; had three children in three years; and found herself at home with three babies, dawn 'til dark five and a half days a week while Dad, a 20 year old carpenter on 7$ a week, was at work. She had been a beauty queen; she was a talented artist; she wanted to be a hairdresser, but at her parents' insistence trained as a shorthand/typist/secretary. Her life didn't come even close to her imaginings of what it would be; she was great with people, a terrific organiser, and loved to party, but she was often depressed, (although, at the time, being ten yrs old, I did not know that that was what was wrong); she drank to excess. There's more, but my point is, she was unable to help herself; she didn't have the freedom and the education that's available now, she did not know how to get help - did not even know she COULD get help! For reasons lost to history, no-one around her helped either..... So, although Mum did not parent all that well, I think I can see some of why, and although it may not be an excuse, it is a reason, and we are all only human..... I may be doing some stuff now, with my children, that they may one day look upon critically, so I'm cutting my Mum some slack.

posted by Scribit on June 10, 2004 at 8:59 PM | link to this | reply

Moms can be tough to deal with-remember your kids are watching and this

could influence them in the future so tread lightly.

posted by Original_Influence on June 9, 2004 at 5:07 PM | link to this | reply

that sounds like a great idea

thanks scriber

posted by _Symphony_ on June 9, 2004 at 12:10 PM | link to this | reply

Use her as a baby sitter, and cook. love scriber

posted by scriber on June 9, 2004 at 12:06 PM | link to this | reply

thank you everyone for sharing

reading and commenting, and thank you for all your support and for letting me write my frustrations away. it means a lot to me, I can not thank you enough. take care

posted by _Symphony_ on June 9, 2004 at 10:17 AM | link to this | reply

Sounds like a tough choice is heading your way. What about explaining how

you feel to her? Would that help?

posted by Jay9 on June 9, 2004 at 2:43 AM | link to this | reply

Yikes! It sounds like the universe is pushing you to set some boundaries. Please hang in there. You've got lots of support here.

posted by passionista on June 8, 2004 at 7:47 PM | link to this | reply

I live with my Pappy..

actually, HE lives with ME....since I own the house and he pays me rent.

It's not too bad, really. He still has to teach me how to make a fire that won't get out of control. (I almost burnt my garage down................twice)

posted by Mahnarch on June 8, 2004 at 7:22 PM | link to this | reply

I cant live near my parents either! Maybe if you give her some boundaries from the beginning???