Go to I am here and I am not silent
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- Go to Because I remember terror, Father, I remember you
It's a humorous instruction
AND a promotional tactic (thanks for giving me the chance to respond).
posted by
kidnykid
on April 21, 2003 at 4:36 PM
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Bump? Is this instruction or warning?
posted by
garrie
on April 21, 2003 at 12:31 PM
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Bump
posted by
kidnykid
on April 21, 2003 at 12:28 PM
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A change in focus sounds like a good idea
I don't mean that I plan on stopping the abuse thing entirely, but that I'm kind of drying up what I can do without doing something illegal, immoral or excessively fattening. That's why I went to some of the other blogs, like Potpourri, for example (I hope people start reading that one, by the way), which has a deliberately generic focus, being the grand "dumping ground" for my rotten-to-awful Epinions.com stuff as well as the new stuff I can't fit anywhere else.
And that's also why I specified "lively debate" as opposed to "nasty TOS-violating comments." The latter can get any one of us banned, while the former really does clear the air while informing people.
posted by
kidnykid
on April 21, 2003 at 11:08 AM
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Fighting
Fighting isn't necessarily a bad thing. It can serve to clear the air sometimes. And, in some families, it is considered the norm.
You do what you think is best.
Another option is it might be time to "reinvent" your blog. Change the focus or the direction.
If whatever you try doesn't work, you can always try something else.
Good luck.
posted by
Whim
on April 21, 2003 at 9:41 AM
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While I'm thinking about it...
DREAH just posted something in her blog entitled DUH! (I'll have to look up the URL for the blog) about how a healthy BN is a fighting BN. Although I don't agree with her totally - if I think a comment is simply being made to stir the stinky brown waste product, without being helpful, I'll delete it without hesitation - I think she has an excellent point. An honest and lively discussion which informs the reading public is different from poop-stirring comments designed solely to start a nasty, TOS-violating argument.
Does anyone have anything valuable to add about their own abuse experiences? Post 'em here if you feel comfortable. Let's start an honest and informative debate for once.
And yes, I am trying to get this blog out of the doldrums (and I need a life so start the discussion without me this afternoon).
posted by
kidnykid
on April 21, 2003 at 9:28 AM
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Thanks, Garrie!
(Breathing sigh of relief) At least someone is reading this thing! I'll likely post my review of Love Sick in my blog called Potpourri, because Love Sick is not strictly about abuse (while Because I Remember Terror, Father... is).
To the rest of you reading this comment, I'd appreciate it if you read the actual entry itself, then purchased Because I Remember Terror, Father... for yourself. Sue Silverman's unique way of telling her story can't be beat for getting the point across. Besides, the book itself exposes the dark, seamy underbelly and complex matrix of a well-placed, prominent family. Abuse happens as frequently to people in Silverman's social class as to people in the neighborhood in which I live (where you're uncool if you're not on the free-lunch program). It's just that the rich and prominent are better at covering up their abuse than are the poor (who are constantly monitored by welfare and school agencies for one thing or another).
posted by
kidnykid
on April 21, 2003 at 9:20 AM
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Oh, and hey -- Have gone to the beginning of your blog here and am reading it. You present as a very intelligent individual and I enjoy reading your blog.
posted by
garrie
on April 20, 2003 at 10:54 PM
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Yeah, think I'll read it.
posted by
garrie
on April 20, 2003 at 10:39 PM
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