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Damn. Every time I think my favorites list can't hold anyone else, I have to add another name. You have a way of opening up your very self and make things understood, in the several articles I read. Bet you'd have the same way of opening up someone else, too, if you had a mind to. And I have a hunch you can/could write killer fiction, if you take a mind to. You see things with more than your eyes.
posted by
invinoveritas
on May 5, 2004 at 11:15 AM
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You speak of the struggles that many mothers have with their daughters. In the past (I've erased most of it now) I have fought hard and long NOT to be my mother. She was so selfish. She was always the center of attention. There was no room for any star but her.
We eventually forgive them and forget for our own survival. At least you won't make the same mistakes she did. You'll make fresh, new mistakes with your kids. Just don't ever make this one--don't ever refuse to love one of your children for any reason. No reason is great enough to withhold your love from flesh and blood. Learned that one the hard way.
posted by
Passionflower
on May 4, 2004 at 8:49 PM
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ps
Don't forget to go outside, lay on a blanket, and stare at the stars together, watch sunsets, etc. Very important stuff here and all free. Let them get dirty and play, play, play as long and as much as possible. It is good for the brain ya know? Read to them. It's so wonderful for vocabulary and reading skills and it's close, warm and just cuddly.
posted by
poetjpb
on May 4, 2004 at 8:49 PM
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wow powerful writing and very well said. Hey I don't say this about too many writers dearie.
Great job. Keep loving those babies, kissing them, talking to them. Talk, talk talk. Even when they are brats, pain in the butts and teens that drive ya nuts. I have a 17 year old and 23 year old. Knock on wood, so far , so good. I have made mistakes, who hasn't? I spanked too much, yelled too much, got depressed, but I always , always loved them, love them now, I just keep telling them they can do great things, they are beautiful, they are smart.......etc. I always hug them, kiss them, even now. Love covers sins. WE laugh a lot!
Laughing is critical. Say yes whenever you can. Especially when teens because there is so much to say no too. Give them curfews, rules, expectations. But always love. I see too many uptight, demanding, expecting way too much mothers. They need to chill. I am old fashioned in many ways but I allowed them freedom to dress, even when I hated it. I allowed rock music even though I hated it. I would buy the edited now though. I dragged them off to church and they are both thankful now, They have stronger faith than I do. They are great kids. Good luck you are off to a wonderful start.
posted by
poetjpb
on May 4, 2004 at 8:46 PM
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