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Re: CCT,
Parents seem so much more aware of what kids really need emotionally and mentally in this generation. I like what I read recently: Instead of "The child is just seeking attention," reword it as, "The child is just seeking connection." So much more understanding, and less judgmental--It sets up meeting needs and making connection, instead of punishment.
posted by
Ciel
on October 9, 2019 at 11:32 AM
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Re: Shams-i-Heartsong,
That's a good policy, or right after if we aren't quick enough to see it coming...!
posted by
Ciel
on October 9, 2019 at 11:28 AM
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Re: RPresta,
First kids and last kids--so precious, they get away with tyrannies we wouldn't allow from anyone else's kids! Sooner or later--I believe, as soon as possible, some boundaries need to be clarified and established. Others--don't matter so much, and letting the kid 'win' is not always a bad thing. That seems to be the routine here. Daddy is a much softer touch than Mommy, though, and for sure Elsa knows it!
posted by
Ciel
on October 9, 2019 at 11:27 AM
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Re: Pat,
My daughter has requested more Elsa photos of these days she is missing. I am going to take pictures of what Elsa has for breakfast and what she gets dressed to wear to school every day.
posted by
Ciel
on October 9, 2019 at 11:24 AM
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Re: Carolyn,
It isn't about setting boundaries so much as making sure kids can rely on them being strong and intact. There are tests kids want parents and authorities to pass, for the kids' own sense of security. And some, kids want to get around to become independent people. It's tricky to walk that thin line, for parents! To know, and to allow now and then.
posted by
Ciel
on October 9, 2019 at 11:22 AM
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Re: TAPS,
I never had either... could sure have used one 40+ years ago!
posted by
Ciel
on October 9, 2019 at 11:19 AM
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Re: Kabu,
Dads sometimes imagine there can be such boundaries as make it possible for their comfort zones to remain intact. Silly daddies!
posted by
Ciel
on October 9, 2019 at 11:18 AM
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I suppose things are different to the time when we were kids. So many incentives to assess . Good job Gran is around to help out.
posted by
C_C_T
on October 7, 2019 at 9:21 AM
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Re: I think we need to set boundaries as they are close to bing resspassed
should read being tresspassed
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on October 6, 2019 at 10:57 PM
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I think we need to set boundaries as they are close to bing resspassed
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on October 6, 2019 at 10:57 PM
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A busy time. I'm glad they are watching your daugher closely and they feel it safe to do a C-section. I do believe in boundary-setting, especially at Elsa's age. I always spoke to my children from the day they were born and gently but firmly set boundaries, as needed. Meltdowns occurred. In fact, I have been thinking about that. Enjoy your time with Elsa. It's so precious.
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on October 6, 2019 at 8:15 PM
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On second thought, it's probably too busy for journaling. Photos will work.
posted by
Pat_B
on October 6, 2019 at 6:23 PM
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Sounds like all is going fine in Issaquah - thanks to the family working
together. Sounds like a good excuse to keep a journal, with all the changes under way.
posted by
Pat_B
on October 6, 2019 at 6:22 PM
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i graduated lbi issaquah in 1981 with an aa in biblical studies... now it is no longer... ker plunk it sunk... beautiful stained glass was saved... fed ducks at pine lake park and drank beer underage too.
posted by
Carolyn_Moe
on October 6, 2019 at 5:52 PM
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My great-niece in Kansas, Little Abby's mother, is a Certified Doula. Until she became one, I had never heard of them.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 6, 2019 at 4:33 PM
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The father of my kids brought me home from hospital with a whole list of silly boundaries which I gradually broke but there were always boundaries about manners and cleanliness when and where to play and when and where to help out in and around the house. When to have friends over and when we did something as a family. sadly daddy was the one who broke so many of the sensible boundaries.
posted by
Kabu
on October 6, 2019 at 2:47 PM
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