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Re: Re: Kabu,
i meant what I write beautiful thing and no I just go Vancouver Sydney....but we both know that you are coming up here ...
posted by
Kabu
on February 28, 2014 at 6:07 PM
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Re: Naut
I would love to give you a useful answer, but I don't know you well enough. I do know you deal with some of the same issues as members of the CPTSD club. I recommend you visit the linked site, which will give you, who know all your issues, a better idea if you should get the T-shirt.
posted by
Ciel
on February 27, 2014 at 6:59 PM
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Ciel
Interesting! (I'm quite familiar with Bruno Bettelheim's work, incidentally.) So what do you think - am I a member of that club? 
posted by
Nautikos
on February 27, 2014 at 6:04 PM
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Interesting it is to read about CPTSD.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 27, 2014 at 5:19 PM
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Re: TAPS,
You have hit upon precisely why I write about it. I know one can learn a lot from seeing other people's problems and solutions. It's a difficult road, and signposts help!
posted by
Ciel
on February 27, 2014 at 4:46 PM
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Re: Pat,
Well, that goes to show my disguise is working!
Seriously, this is not a place where anyone will see me lose my balance or my temper, though you may well see bits and flashes between the lines.
I think everyone has these symptoms from time to time, the thing about the disorder is that they are extreme and appear to be unreasonable, from the outside. The link to Pete Walker clarifies many of the symptoms, and helped immensely in seeing that all my abnormal responses were, in fact, normal in the circumstances.
From what I've read here, you have had the challenges of the absent father and the seemingly unfriendly mother, but you also are insightful, and aware of how people are.
posted by
Ciel
on February 27, 2014 at 4:40 PM
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What a wonderful post. By writing such as this and sharing it, you help not only yourself, but also anyone who reads it. For in reading, people see such symptoms in themselves and that there is hope for improvement in their attitudes and change in their lives.
Great! Keep writing and helping others. There are so many.
posted by
TAPS.
on February 27, 2014 at 3:59 PM
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Ciel, I never noticed any of those symptoms you write so well about.
You've always seemed remarkably balanced and accepting of others just as they are, so if you have CPSTD, you've learned to deal with it very successfully. I have long recognized some of those symptoms in myself - at times I can get pretty defensive, but the simple understanding that everyone's been through the mill and is acting out their own scenario has helped gentle me a bit. The world is full of heroes.
posted by
Pat_B
on February 27, 2014 at 3:24 PM
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Re: Kabu,
Yes, it is a matter of who's driving: you or some part of you with its own particular agenda. And yes, everyone has some God in them. To validate that makes it stronger, and I do hope that last lovely thing you said is what you say every time you look in a mirror.
I thank my friends on Blogit for the support that has been part of my on-going healing. Some of you have taught me the value of not making judgments, and especially, pre-judgments.
I do so wish I could be sitting beside you on that flight to Australia... I don't suppose you have a long layover in Denver...?
posted by
Ciel
on February 27, 2014 at 2:03 PM
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Re: UtahJ,
I'm sorry to hear that you are, in this way, one of 'us.' I am glad you know it, it puts so much power in your own hands to fix some, even a lot of what went wrong.
I have noticed others here in Blogitland who also have their membership cards waiting for the day they realize that they, too, are in the club.
posted by
Ciel
on February 27, 2014 at 1:59 PM
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The thing is for you to control it instead of it controlling you. it will be with you always but it doen't have to rule the roost. And I agree love. It wears one out to be angry and full of hate and hurt. everyone I have ever met has some good in them. I try to look for that and concentrate on it. of course with you , you beautiful thing, it is so easy to love you for who you are.
posted by
Kabu
on February 27, 2014 at 12:09 PM
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I live with it, as does Wiley, thanks for the information.
posted by
UtahJay
on February 27, 2014 at 11:55 AM
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