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yes....growing up on the streets doesnt give you the same advantage in this arena...
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Annicita
on November 14, 2012 at 7:20 PM
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So boundaries-issues are not too surprising. I imagine that a simple explaining will help more than getting all excited about it. It's funny, how knowing the other person's story changes how we feel about what they've done that is a problem for us.
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Ciel
on November 14, 2012 at 9:43 AM
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apparently she used to live on the streets since a young age...so i am trying to cut some slack....
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Annicita
on November 12, 2012 at 9:07 PM
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That makes good sense to me, too. I wonder what that woman was thinking... or maybe she just wasn't.
posted by
Ciel
on November 12, 2012 at 8:21 AM
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I was talking to another member of the church...(she does my healings)....she agrees...since i am in charge of the kitchen i should say something if she does it again to let her know that there is food already out there and if she is in there doing that then others will follow suit and it will make it hard to accomplish anything and if what is out there isn't to her liking perhaps she would like to bring her own snack....
of course today she didn't do it....
and the other lady didn't show up today
posted by
Annicita
on November 11, 2012 at 6:20 PM
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Sounds like a good plan. It may be that there are conventions in that place different from your expectations, and the minister can clear that up, or it may be that by any standards, those two women were out of bounds, and the minister can clarify what your authority is to boot em out of your kitchen!
Venting to the wrong person doesn't resolve a problem, and I also know from experience, it ends up adding to the problem. It always left me upset with myself, and still facing the same trouble, because the one who needed to know how much they were upsetting me, still didn't. It's a 'speaking truth to power' thing, when we've given so much power to another person, over our self-worth, well-being, contentedness...
Good luck--I hope you can get this happily resolved soon!
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Ciel
on November 11, 2012 at 6:36 AM
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Re: I think you need to speak up when someone offends.
well i used to just get really upset and vent...now i don't and feel better but still it upsets me and maybe i will talk to the minister...i think i will talk to larry and not his wife...
posted by
Annicita
on November 9, 2012 at 10:37 PM
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I think you need to speak up when someone offends.
If it's hard to do that, then maybe these are the lessons sent to poke you into leaping the hurdle. It's also part of the curriculum to keep it cool and courteous when some part of you is simply seething inside!
I'd maybe start by talking to the minister about how upsetting those situations were to you personally. What's a minister for, if not to help one resolve inner crises?
posted by
Ciel
on November 9, 2012 at 7:01 AM
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hhhhhhhhhhhhh kabu.....you got me choking from laughing so hard....believe i thought of it but didn't want to react to her bad manners with bad ones of my own!
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Annicita
on November 6, 2012 at 8:02 PM
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and I wouldn't blame you but first say to that rude woman....you want cake ...here and in the face it goes! now that would start up a stir and if you tell them Kabu made me do it well it wasn't your fault was it!!
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Kabu
on November 6, 2012 at 2:33 PM
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Re: You fixed on a fascinating moment and presented it powerfully!
maybe....we will see
posted by
Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 10:19 PM
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yes and i don't think i like her much...but will keep an open mind for the coming week
posted by
Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 10:18 PM
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yes lionreign very much so...
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Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 10:16 PM
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yes lionreign very much so...
posted by
Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 10:16 PM
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i just call it lack of proper training in manners
posted by
Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 10:15 PM
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i think the minister would just look at me like what's the big deal?
posted by
Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 10:14 PM
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my mom would make us sit at the table until all our food was eaten ... sometimes we sat there for hours cuz we didn't want peas etc...
posted by
Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 9:33 PM
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Re: they died when all this over the top Political correctness got outta hand
hope you are wrong....cuz i was so aggravated i was thinking of stepping down
posted by
Annicita
on November 5, 2012 at 9:32 PM
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You fixed on a fascinating moment and presented it powerfully!
Is there a poem in it?
posted by
2902
on November 5, 2012 at 3:23 PM
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That is one nervy person you described there.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on November 5, 2012 at 9:28 AM
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Those do sound like some poorly mannered people
posted by
lionreign
on November 5, 2012 at 4:50 AM
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This is a very strange behaviour.
posted by
Chuck_E_Ibrahim
on November 5, 2012 at 2:05 AM
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I wouldn't let them behave like that A. it spoils it for the meek. I would hand them a bag with some bread and cheese amd say until you behave in God's house that's all you get. Or better still tell the Mnister to kick ass.
posted by
C_C_T
on November 4, 2012 at 11:25 PM
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Oh wow. My grandmother would have let us go without, if we didn't want what she cooked--and leave the meal for leftovers the next day, and the next...until it was eaten. 
And it usually did get ate. Thanks for sharing, A.
Isaiah R.
posted by
RamfamilyWritings
on November 4, 2012 at 8:03 PM
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they died when all this over the top Political correctness got outta hand
went beyond careing for others feelings and loving and caring and became me me me you can't do a thing to me.
posted by
Kabu
on November 4, 2012 at 7:16 PM
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