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Re: Re: A very sad story - it was very rough for you. My mother was generous,
Too bad we don't have a say in who we get as parents huh 2902? At the very least there should be classes on parentling BEFORE we give birth, it should be mandatory but I guess that would be against some kind of human right. We can be forced to pay taxes, take a test before we drive, and purchase health care, but we can't be forced to learn how to be parents before we give birth...go figure...
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RamfamilyWritings
on August 27, 2012 at 8:14 AM
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True, CCT, I made it a point of finding out as much as I could about my mothers life before she died and found out that she didn't have it so good herself. She got pregnant with me at a fairly young age and married my father because of that. She had other aspirations and a baby was not in her plans so I think you kinda resented having me. I have a younger brother and sister who had it a little better, though not much. They turned out pretty successful and can't understand what happended to me...? Lol, I don't really try to explain, let their memories be theirs and mine be mine, no sense in tarnishing her memory for them. 
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RamfamilyWritings
on August 27, 2012 at 8:11 AM
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Re:I heard a lot of yearning when I read this poem.
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2902
on August 27, 2012 at 3:10 AM
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Re: A very sad story - it was very rough for you. My mother was generous,
and very depressed anda little nuts all her life. I tried to be a good son, but left homeand got work as soon as ever I could!
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2902
on August 27, 2012 at 2:58 AM
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A very sad story - it was very rough for you. My mother was generous,
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2902
on August 27, 2012 at 2:55 AM
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I suppose sometimes we have to wonder what our parents have been through to understand the motivation behind their actions, you have broken a possible link and hopefully your children will choose this path.
posted by
C_C_T
on August 26, 2012 at 10:32 PM
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That is so true Annicita, and now that I have children of my own I can truly appreciate the truth in that statement. I never considered myself "abused" I was older when that was brought to my attention and I was so angry with them, Lol. It was normal to me. I simply thought I deserved it because I had done something wrong, I had been "bad" I see today how it's affected my life, some of it I can change, some of it will stick with me for the rest of my life, but it is what it is, the past is the past, and I can't dwell on what was or how I wish things had been. I can only do the best I can today and allow my own children to have their complaints about the things they perceive I've done wrong and the way they wish things would have been. I guess it's all a part of the circle of life that will go on as it has since the relationship between children and parents were created. I have few regrets today. I am who I am partly because of my mother, so without even knowing it she shaped my life and made me a better person. She knew though. Before she died, in one of the moments we had together, she told me I was a better mother than she had ever been. I wanted to tell her what she wanted to hear, that it wasn't true, and that she had been a good mom, but I couldn't. All I could say was "yes, I am" and selfishly, it felt good. Thank you my friend for the visit, the read, and your, always insightful, comment. 
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RamfamilyWritings
on August 26, 2012 at 6:02 PM
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we all look to our parents to be perfect and that is something they can never be.....it's when we come to terms with it that we are able to love them unconditionally
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Annicita
on August 26, 2012 at 4:41 PM
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Thanks Jay-It seems many writers have had similar pasts, maybe that's what makes us so good at what we do-we tend to feel things more than most. I appreciate your visit, your time, your cocmment, and most of all, your insight. 
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RamfamilyWritings
on August 26, 2012 at 2:03 PM
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We grew up a lot like each other, the same mother, the same addictions, and the same questions un-asked. That must be why I like your poetry so much.
posted by
UtahJay
on August 26, 2012 at 12:32 PM
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