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My dear dear Kabu I reach out my arms to hug you in a warm embrace that will let you know God wants to wash away all the hurt, it is never too late. I shall add them to my daily prayer, just keep praying and loving them. They do not have the strength, wisdom and faith you do, it will come. I am so so sorry this has happened to you. Remember they are live and there is never an end until the end. keep praying, expecting and I will join you in that. 
posted by
Justi
on December 6, 2011 at 7:13 PM
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Sweet sorrow, you have my thoughts, Dear Kabu..
Such a special person you are and I'm sure those Grandchildren hold the memories close too. 
posted by
Raye09
on December 6, 2011 at 2:59 PM
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This is hard, but there is power in sincere prayer. 
posted by
mariss9
on December 6, 2011 at 12:26 PM
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Kabuiepie-;)
You are very special and I love you of course so I'm not biased. Oh how I understand your hurt from your son, we both understand that and a I had learned and spoke to you, we can only turn it all over to God love. You and your Christmas decorations always make this l'il house sing with joy darlin.
posted by
WileyJohn
on December 6, 2011 at 10:31 AM
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This time of the year can bring about many tough emotions.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on December 6, 2011 at 9:44 AM
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and you listen to me with my problems and I dont know what I would do if any of my kids did that to me, why would they?
posted by
Lanetay
on December 6, 2011 at 8:31 AM
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Well, what's keeping you from writing to them and to your son? You write, don't you? You write to all of us and keep us sometimes on the straight and narrow when you tell us your thoughts and how we love you for that. So, dear Kabu, write to them and send them the biggest Christmas card you can find and send them pics of you and Wiley and your cat and your home and anything else you want to and tell them you LOVE THEM! Believe in your love for them and believe in the God who gave you that son and family and will one day bless you with an answer to your prayers. Give them your love through the airways; whether it be in cards or email but believe this will come in time. Blessings to you and yours during this season of giving. 
posted by
Butterfly-1950
on December 6, 2011 at 8:05 AM
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Kabu, I'm sure this still hurts when you think about it...
Best to dwell on the good memories part when you feel down...interesting, in my own family, there was never any animosity between sibs, just age gaps and mileage gaps...I ask myself at times, do I really know them? Sometimes the answer is a firm "yes", but at other times a hesitant "no".....
posted by
Rumor
on December 6, 2011 at 8:02 AM
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I know this has to be hard. Thinking of you.
posted by
Samantha39
on December 6, 2011 at 5:45 AM
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I think one of the things that went wrong here is in her illness she was rather jealous of you, healthy, taking care of the kids, the chores with delight, not for any other reason than it being important to help so she could get well and the kids not suffer. When she recovered she went into this mode (and you and I both know it wasn't necessary) of omitting you from their lives because of her fear! Why on earth no one has pointed this out to her is over my head! And it happens with friends too. A friend of mine dropped everything in her life to care for a ill friend and at the end of it all she gave her the boot in a most distasteful way! Her shrink is the one who told her about the jealousy because she was healthy and doing all the things she wanted to be doing. They make it about you but dang, it's about them all the day long! So unnecessary~ I wish there was a way to enlighten her, you were never a threat and she can't see it. You and the grandkids suffer, too sad!~ And there are no words other than I am deeply sorry this is happening to you and especially the grandkids, they are too young to understand and when they find out the loss with tremendous. Parents play a wicked game with their children's emotions when they allow this to happen! sam
posted by
sam444
on December 6, 2011 at 1:02 AM
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My dearest Kabu, this definitely is the time of year for mixed emotions...and I can feel your sadness and loss. But, this is also, a time of blessings. And we all need to count our blessings. I believe that when we are grateful for the blessings in our life, that's when the door opens for more blessings, and for the opportunity for miracles to appear. My wish is that you will receive the gift of miracles this Christmas.
posted by
Whisperer4U
on December 5, 2011 at 6:25 PM
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I know exactly what you are talking about. I love three of my grandchildren from afar. They are Grandson Phil's brothers that stayed with their mother when their family broke up. She has kept them separate and apart not only from us, but even from her own mother and her siblings. She seems to want them just to herself.
posted by
TAPS.
on December 5, 2011 at 6:04 PM
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This is the season for such things, I have lost contact with my two children from my first maraige, and all though they are right here in town, they may as well be lost in the out back. I am looking forward to the rest of the story Kabu.
posted by
UtahJay
on December 5, 2011 at 2:56 PM
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Theres some of this in many families -- I still don't know
why the ties get ripped asunder. I hope things mend one day, but meanwhile we have to remember we've done our best and let it go.
posted by
Pat_B
on December 5, 2011 at 11:59 AM
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No, one can't go back; one can only hope the Spirit of Christmas brings
all together including those with whom we may have lost touch.
posted by
reasons
on December 5, 2011 at 11:31 AM
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