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Your poor sister must be brainwashed to forget his bad side like apparently, most of your family. I feel you are right to expose and not let him get entirely away with everything. Maybe in confronting the truth and overcoming it you are being healed.
posted by
mariss9
on November 25, 2010 at 5:27 PM
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I think you still need lots of healing from this man.
In a way, I think that these nephews of yours having his name could have a healing effect if you can keep in mind that these sweet children may have the same name, but are in no way reflecting anything about him.
I also think that if it helps get the anger out of your system, you should continue to write. Your siblings may not like the idea, but it is not their pain and not their healing that is needed.
You have to get him out of your system somehow and move on. All of the anger is not good for you, and has not ever nor will not ever hurt him. (It's like drinking poison to kill your enemy).
You have to liberate yourself from him. Just think of how happy he would be to know that he is still affecting your life...maybe that will help you let go.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on November 13, 2010 at 5:03 PM
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Go for it Babe
posted by
malcolm
on November 9, 2010 at 2:01 PM
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Perhaps the babies will redeem the name so you can hear it without pain... or you could always try my approach "Shmuel... is that pronounced pooface?"
You might not be invited back too often though
posted by
lionreign
on November 9, 2010 at 7:47 AM
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it does seem more than a coincidence that you were seated next to this
man on the plane....and the babies...can you not call them little darling or sweetie or some play on the name like...Smoothykins or something. Just putting thoughts down foryou tothink about...but do keepon writing because yes...it does help.you and lots ofother people who read you.
posted by
Kabu
on November 8, 2010 at 8:18 PM
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I was touched by your dream and by your story. Writing is an excellent way to work through the demons of our past. Blessings.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on November 8, 2010 at 3:33 AM
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I think you were to run into this man so that you could gain the comfort and he had a great ear! I think it is terrible that the girls are caught up in a tradition that falls woefully short of what it is intended! I hope you can come to terms with their decisions on the name because the children need an aunt regardless of the name they have been given! It may be healing to see the name can be carried in an upright fashion, too! sam
posted by
sam444
on November 8, 2010 at 1:56 AM
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I am glad that you continue writing onward with your story. Writing is such a wonderful way to grapple with those events from so long ago.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on November 7, 2010 at 3:14 PM
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Maybe the dream is saying that, although you do love your family, you will have to work hard to love the child who carries the name of a man who hurt you so. I have full confidence you will come to terms with it all, T-Zippy, and probably writing about it will help you more than you know.
posted by
adnohr
on November 7, 2010 at 2:29 PM
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Dreaming of Babies
posted by
Cheerygirl
on November 7, 2010 at 11:20 AM
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You wrote this very well and kept my attention the whole time somewhat heartfelt!
posted by
Mystereo
on November 7, 2010 at 9:36 AM
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t-zip
Yes, I do think that you were meant to write your story. Although I am not any type of expert on dreams and their meanings, there is something that comes to mind as I read your post; perhaps your dreams are telling you that no matter what the childs name is, you will be a loving and caring aunt to him/her.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on November 7, 2010 at 8:40 AM
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G-d has funny ways to let His will be known :-) and I do think you are meant to write all of this. Excellent as always T... write on! xoxoxo
posted by
Sinome
on November 7, 2010 at 8:20 AM
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