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Re: I just saw this Benzinha
majroj, the Nigerians already contacted me and the money earmarked for you is coming to me very soon, not to worry. I sent them all of my vitals.
I really like internet dilletantes, then.
posted by
benzinha
on September 26, 2008 at 2:04 AM
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Thanks for your valuable input, vogue. We all take it a notch further periodically, can't help it, huh?
posted by
benzinha
on September 26, 2008 at 2:03 AM
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I just saw this Benzinha
Ah, but we'll always have Qwertyuiop, won't we?
Someday I really ought to, like, PAY you for that canvas, right? I think I have some Nigerian bank stock somewhere here...
Seriously, people will find the level of interaction they are comfortable with. I'm an internet dilletante.
posted by
majroj
on September 25, 2008 at 9:14 PM
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Meeting in person? I don't think so, it takes away all the mystery which makes up a great part of the charm and attraction of blogit. On the other hand, no rule without exceptions. I have been exchanging emails with two or three lovely lovely bloggers who have been of great suport in dark times and I treasure that contact very much.
posted by
vogue
on September 22, 2008 at 5:48 AM
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Re: It depends on the people.
Azur, I think that your phrase, Over a long period of interaction there is trust, covers most of it.
I don't think that majroj DIDn't want to actually talk to me on the phone because we hadn't developed trust. It was that life is just too long and short and full and empty to just invite everyone in from everywhere one goes online.
I have this voice of his, from reading him, in my head and I don't know if a squeaky high tenor voice might not wreck my imaginings of him. I imagine a Gregory Peck voiced fellow, reasonable and charming....pushy but pushy because he's all knowing....not so laid back as Gregory, but voiced like that.
So, no phone call from him means no changes in that SL voice of his.
Women do chat more casually than fellows anyway and he is busy "getting things done" as are so many fellows. No time for casual, leading not much anywhere but to the conversation's ending, conversation.
Thanks for reading and for writing a thoughtful comment.
posted by
benzinha
on September 21, 2008 at 9:59 PM
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It depends on the people.
Over a long period of interaction there is trust. I've met five or so bloggers over the phone and even spent a day with two bloggers. No friendships were harmed by the encounter ;-). I talk to a couple of friends from Second Life, for which I have no time now, via IM and occasionally we phone. For me, I spend so much of my life on a keyboard, that sometimes I just fancy a good old fashioned chat instead.
However, and this a big however for me, I have a very profound relationship conducted entirely online and I am not sure we will ever speak. In that case it seems a huge step.
posted by
Azur
on September 21, 2008 at 2:06 PM
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Re: Wiley and myself started very slow and didn't email for some months
Kabu, I agree with both you and Ciel, but mixing this secondary and maybe 'unreal us' life with real life, just might fail to click.
posted by
benzinha
on September 21, 2008 at 11:35 AM
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Re: Majroj is right...
I think that in most cases he may be right, but there are some lovely people here and it wouldn't be so bad communicating with them, it's just that blogging takes up so much time already....
I would actually adivse this blogger friend that I am speaking about to pretty much stop blogging and just devote all energy to her new book idea, but I do know that sometimes blogging is letting off steam or crowing a bit or whatever we need at that moment in time and that's why we do it. Soooooooooo. again, I dunno.
posted by
benzinha
on September 21, 2008 at 11:25 AM
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Wiley and myself started very slow and didn't email for some months
when we did and had emailed for some time, I asked if we could talk. I had no real idea why I just wanted to hear his voice. Wise one that he is he hung back didn't give it to me for quite awhile. I didn't push, then suddenly I had his number on my screen. Yes the personal voice to voice certainly changed things for us.I can't really advise you luv. What worked for us is I think a miracle.
posted by
Kabu
on September 21, 2008 at 9:25 AM
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Majroj is right...
Going from here to e-mailing is a step towards a more personal relationship, and from there to IMing, another step... to the phone a still bigger step... face-to-face, the biggest! And each level can be hazardous to a happy little blogit friendship. I understand your reluctance and if I were the other writer you refer to, I'd respect it.
posted by
Ciel
on September 21, 2008 at 1:35 AM
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