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I would learn a lesson from this; always keep a spare joke up the sleeve. Lol.
(B)
posted by
A-and-B
on April 2, 2006 at 3:13 PM
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Thanks
I've heard women actually deny that the procedure is sometimes done in that fashion.
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on April 2, 2006 at 2:34 PM
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Thanks, Billy ...
I can appreciate that it's a very difficult decision for any woman to be forced into making, however.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 19, 2006 at 9:06 PM
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MPO - Bravo...I agree...abortion is a horrible thing to do
posted by
FreeManWalking
on March 19, 2006 at 8:52 PM
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Fortunately, una ...
I don't encounter very many grown-ups I like,
either.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 18, 2006 at 11:13 PM
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M.P.O.
Like you, I am not fond of children. I don't think I will have any myself in this life. I have never envied my friends for having their own childre.
But when I see very nice grown-ups, I envy their parents very much.
posted by
una01
on March 18, 2006 at 10:55 PM
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Quoth M.P.O.:
I remember asking my boyfriend once whether he would expect me to automatically end a (hypothetical) pregnancy. He replied, "I don't believe in abortion. I'll just kick you down the stairs." Well, he didn't actually say that (in so many words), but I know it's what he was thinking.
So,
you see, James
never really said he'd "kick me down the stairs".
P.S. I am 20.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 18, 2006 at 8:07 PM
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Which words are those, lilaznthug85?
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 18, 2006 at 8:01 PM
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That's not a bad idea, Blanche ...
I'll have to file that one away.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 18, 2006 at 8:00 PM
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I appreciate those sentiments, TAPS-.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 18, 2006 at 7:58 PM
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I agree with you wholeheartedly (regarding abortion), Krisles ...
for the most part, anyway.
Other issue is a moot point now ... which I'll explain momentarily.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 18, 2006 at 7:57 PM
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How old are you?
Kicking you down the stairs is hardly a response I would expect a feminist to take lightly. It implies he is placing all the fault of pregnancy on the woman and therefore you must bare the brunt of correcting it. You going to take that?
It's true, parenthood isn't for the faint-hearted or doubtful. You shouldn't be one until you're ready or have grown up, which ever comes first. You do know what causes pregnancy, don't you? If you need any advice, get back to me.
Sorry, my attempt at humor was a bit patronizing. Forgive me.
posted by
dhayen
on March 18, 2006 at 3:19 PM
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your words are touching
posted by
lilaznthug85
on March 18, 2006 at 10:19 AM
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MPO,
Last year, your boyfriend's idea of an April's Fool Day joke was to propose (I suppose waiting for a reaction such as a stunned blink or gasp) before the requisite "April Fools" and this year you're plotting your revenge by informing hin that you are preggers? Have I got that straight?
What are you two going to do for an encore next year? Propose a joint murder-suicide and then wait to say who says, "You first"?
posted by
Blanche.
on March 17, 2006 at 9:22 PM
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M.P.O.
All I can say is that since you don't want any, I am glad that you do not have children. I have spent too much time with children who were not wanted by their parents. So heartbreaking. Please note, I do not think any less of you because you do not want children. No one should have children to please someone else.
posted by
TAPS.
on March 17, 2006 at 8:01 PM
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Madame
I agree with the group that thinks you should find another joke....I simply know too many horror stories around the issue....and too many heartbroken childless women....to consider it an issue to be joked about, personally.....but, for you, I never think it a good idea to tempt what fates may be in play - even you don't know everything about how the wheels all turn - and I would hate for anything you do now to ever be a thought that comes back to your mind in the future in the form of a deep regret. As for the right to choose...this always causes me to laugh...this discussion....because it is such a shallow one in terms of how that phrase is tossed about. And let me say, I would never take away other womens' rights over their bodies. That said, I do not play word games. The vast majority of abortions are not performed due to accidents...but because someone made the
true choice....the choice not to use birth control....plain and simple. And that is the choice that women have, the powerful one, the guilt free one that they give up in the heat of passion, or for convenience or whatever....and then whine about this "right to choose".....and that is what sickens me ....have the guts to admit that you (the generic "you")didn't make the initial choice and so now you want to suck the brains out of what will become a human being - forget all the arguments about at what point it matters so you aren't inconvenienced by a life plan change. It's the cavalier attitude that angers me.....the refusal to acknowledge there was already a choice. Rapes and incest account for very few abortions....blown choices are what account for the horror of abortion....and I think women need to look it in the eye and maybe they'll be a little more careful in the first place. Also, adoption is always an alternative.....why there is no "choice" of that mentioned here is interesting to me. Again, I would not take your right to choose away, Madame....not any other woman's. And, I'm not unaware of the emotions and problems.....I was pregnant, got married to put a name on the certificate, was a single mom for several years.....I've also taken my roommate to the e/r after she tried to kill herself because of the pain from an abortion; then talked to her 26 yrs later as she cried, drunk and thinking that God was going to punish her by taking one of her living children for the sin she had committed those years before......
posted by
Krisles
on March 17, 2006 at 5:44 PM
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It's positively revolting, Ariala.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 5:20 PM
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I doubt anything that dramatic will occur, Freelancer ...
more than likely, he'll just start screaming like a little girl and, then, take off running down the street.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 5:19 PM
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Yeah, scriber, at this point in my life ...
it's waaay down on my "to do" list.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 5:15 PM
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Thank you for your support, Layla ...
though, my resolve is starting to waver just a bit.
Oh, well! I still have a few weeks left to decide.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 5:12 PM
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We do, Ben ...
but, of course, accidents still happen. (Nothing is completely foolproof.)
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 5:09 PM
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I think the death penalty is a little different, AC ...
seeing as it's a legally sanctioned punishment for a conscious act on the part of the criminal.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 5:06 PM
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I never had children, but love kids (as long as they're someone
else's responsibility. LOL) I never knew about the abortion process because it's never been something I had to deal with. Sounds brutal...
posted by
Ariala
on March 17, 2006 at 2:24 PM
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When did they stop...
using hangers?
I hope your boyfriend doesn't have heart failure when you play your April fools joke. I'm sure I would.
:-)
posted by
FreelancerX
on March 17, 2006 at 2:06 PM
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M.P.O. --I agree and feeling as u do, u shouldn't
have children before u are ready.
posted by
scriber
on March 17, 2006 at 1:38 PM
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Madame--you sure do have balls!!! ;-)
(And I mean that in the NICEST possible way...)
You KNEW that this would be a touchy subject, but you posted it in that way you have that we've all come to know and to love...
I AM a mom--but I believe in a woman's right to choose.
My first husband--we weren't married at the time--said he'd punch me right in the gut if the pregnancy test came back positive. It did--and no, he didn't. I wanted my son, even if it was inconvenient!
But I adore your wicked sense of humor--so if you must pull this prank on him, then you simply MUST, I guess...
;-)
~LB~ xo
posted by
Anony_Miss
on March 17, 2006 at 1:31 PM
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A child is one of the biggest commitment and sacrifice in Life. Three lives are intertwined thereafter, assuming the basic family unit stays together. People would do better to take precautions against the joke becoming reality.
(B)
posted by
A-and-B
on March 17, 2006 at 1:03 PM
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MPO ~
I know a gal who's had two abortions. It makes me nauseous...
...but I still don't think it's my place to judge.
I also think of the death penalty....why do we kill people to show that killing people is wrong?
posted by
AC_Allyn
on March 17, 2006 at 10:53 AM
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Quote:
"It is a woman's choice to have or NOT have children. I just don't think abortion is a good option for birth control."
Exactly, Kyra.
I really don't, as of this moment, want to have children. Of course, who knows whether that will change in the future ...
I'm already older than my mother was when she had me, however, and the same age as she was when she had my younger brother. Thus, so far ... so good.
P.S. Seriously, seven? Wow!
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 10:08 AM
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As a mother of 7 children...
(Yes that is S E V E N) children, I have to put in my 2 cents worth here. (It's required, you know. *grins and winks*).
I absolutely love children. It's a good thing too since I have so many. You see at one point in my life I asked God to grant me patience and She sent me seven children so I would learn it. God has quite a sense of humor. However, this is besides the point.
Madame, you have EVERY right to choose NOT to have children. On one hand, I can understand completely, since I have four boys that never left their "terrible twos" (They are now 19, 18, 13 and 7 now) and it doesn't look like they will be getting out of the condition anytime soon. Girls, however, are a bit more mysterious and understandable all at the same time, quite an enigma, (mine are 21, 16 and 2 right now) and it take quite a bit of patience, sacrifice and fortitude...(not to mention the ongoing prescription of Valium. *grins*) in order to handle the lot. I choose every one of my children...even the "surprise" ones...and still mourn the ones I lost. It is a woman's choice to have or NOT have children. I just don't think abortion is a good option for birth control.
That said...be careful about your joke. As I said, God has a (sometimes) twisted sense of humor. You may find yourself in the very condition you're joking about. That would present some problems for you.
Again...I am a babbler and I've babbled quite enough now. Good luck, Madame!
posted by
Kyra_Reynolds
on March 17, 2006 at 9:50 AM
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You might not say that, Mason,
if
you were the
embryo. (Assuming you still,
somehow, had the ability to speak.)
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 9:33 AM
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...a woman's choice, period!
posted by
MasonGarrett
on March 17, 2006 at 8:54 AM
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Thank you, Medusa ...
and, I will take your (and, Nanaroo's) advice under consideration.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 8:35 AM
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MPO.....Very interesting post, here.....
I liked what Nanaroo commented to you. I agree with her advice. And I also enjoyed the comments you wrote back to her.....Yeah, think of a better April Fool's joke....There are tons of other ones....I hate kidding around with serious matters. I'm too afraid the joke would backfire on me someday....
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on March 17, 2006 at 8:19 AM
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I am already aware (based on email) ...
that this is not going to be a popular sentiment.
At any rate, Nanaroo, just to put things in context ... would you like to know what my boyfriend's April Fool's joke (on me) was, last year?
He proposed.
Perhaps, that will clarify the healthy sort of relationship he and I have.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on March 17, 2006 at 8:02 AM
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M.P.O.
As a non child bearing woman, I too very much agree with a woman's right to choose. I decided at a very young age not to have children and have not regretted it. If I were you, I would think of a different April Fool's joke to play...
posted by
Nanaroo
on March 17, 2006 at 7:53 AM
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