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Holygrail...I can't even imagine that...that is horrible!
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 5, 2005 at 7:20 PM
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Thanks spitfire, thats good to know.
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 5, 2005 at 7:20 PM
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alf
I hope she's home and doing well now! My old Montana recently had something called vestibular disease (do a google search on it - it's terrifying, and I thought he was dying.) He stayed at the vet clinic for 2 days...and I visited him 3 times! It was so hard having him gone, even though I have my other dog Charlie.
posted by
Holy_Grail
on May 5, 2005 at 6:43 PM
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Alf, I know she'll be home by the time you read this,
but just think of it as you doing her good by spaying her. I see way too many dogs get Pyometria, an infection of the uterous and many times, it's fatal. All they had to do was have her spayed and could have avoided the whole thing. As far as the vet staff looking at you like that, don't worry, they don't think you're weird. We're used to people being very nervous about leaving their best pals with us. I assure you, it's always harder on the owner than it is on the pet!
posted by
SpitFire70
on May 5, 2005 at 4:58 PM
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Passionflower...
I was laughing...you were supposed to laugh too.
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 4, 2005 at 9:16 PM
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Alf, I was kidding. You were supposed to laugh.
Not that I don't think it might be great!
posted by
Passionflower
on May 4, 2005 at 8:59 PM
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Georgia...LOL! It's funny how we all seem to have
Some odd or peculiar behaviour that we believe others will find strange, so we avoid telling them. I completely believe you when you say your dog can read your thoughts.
posted by
Passionflower
on May 4, 2005 at 8:57 PM
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Oh, Alf! Is she home now? I see you wrote this yesterday ... what a lucky pup she is to have such a caring Dad! Hang in there ... I'm sure you have an excellent vet and all went well. I have that feeling with Oliver - it's weird, but we are so connected that I can come home from work, let him out, and when I'm ready to turn in, I just think about him and he comes in for the night. I know logically it's his routine and he knows approximately what time to come in, but I do think he reads my thoughts! No kidding - I promise - he just walked in the door now as I am writing this! All the best to Adrienne for a very speedy recovery!
posted by
Georgia
on May 4, 2005 at 6:40 PM
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You're just a big softie who cares a lot about his dog, who is like a child to you. Nothing odd about that or wrong. Blessings to you both!
posted by
Julia.
on May 4, 2005 at 6:10 PM
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Alf - yes, dearheart, you are dreaming. We can not manipulate love--
in my opinion. It is nice to think we can control our emotions--but when they are as strong as yours are for Adrienne--they do become overwhelming. Think how over-wrought I was when Thumper was attacked. I cried for days--there was no controlling it. My vet was great--he just kept handing me tissues and bringing me water--though I had to really pee by the time we got home--LOL.
And think again--animals give unconditional love--do they not deserve ours also--no matter how much the observance of that may disturb others?
Sometimes it bothers me that I love my dog and, now, my cat, so much that I well up and yet I don't do that when I speak of my love for anyone else except my children and mother. I think it's because I have yet to find such dedication in love as I have found from my four-legged family.
Maybe that's what Passionflower was getting at?
Lordy, this is a long comment--sorry.
posted by
Hollee
on May 4, 2005 at 4:20 PM
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Thanks Whacky46
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 4, 2005 at 4:14 PM
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Thanks Ciel, I gave that a whirl...it seemed to help, thanks.
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 4, 2005 at 4:13 PM
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Hollee...
Yes, I know I love her....it just seems like I should be able to intellectualize, give myself rational advice in times like these so that I can operate un-impaired. To be able to over-ride the effects of love without compromising the emotion. Am I dreaming?
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 4, 2005 at 4:11 PM
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Passionflower...
...um.......I'll get back to you on that one
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 4, 2005 at 4:07 PM
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Alf - it's called love--and separation anxiety. I know it well.
posted by
Hollee
on May 4, 2005 at 3:52 PM
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Norseman...So you're pondering the good doctor's theory???
I could use some residual paternal behaviour. Could you be my 'Daddy'??? LOL!
posted by
Passionflower
on May 4, 2005 at 3:45 PM
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Man-boy...
Thank you. That is a touching story about your cat. My kids are all grown now, I thinks Adrienne gets a lot of risidual paternal behavior from me. It's good to be a Dad.
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 4, 2005 at 2:22 PM
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I love my kids & animals
In the same way. I tell my children that I love them every time I drop them off for school. I feel so connected to them. I can't see how people can come to ignore their children. I don't think my feelings are cloying to them because they know that Dad is no more than a guide to what they determine their wants and needs are.
Love the post and I pray Adrienne recovers fully. My cat is bonded to me after I was with her constantly after her near death from ripping open her spay stitches. I treated her the way a mother cat would as much as I could, staying at her level and being calm and talking in bass tones which seemed to comfort her.
After two weeks of recovery and she emerged from her carrier with her wee cone around her head, she was so disoriented that all she could do was crawl across the room to where I was seated and crawl up on my foot and wrap her forelegs around my ankle as if she was going to fall off of the world.
I love my cat.
Manboy
posted by
man-boy
on May 4, 2005 at 1:49 PM
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I've been "shrinked"
I'm not disagreeing though........
posted by
A_Norseman
on May 4, 2005 at 1:24 PM
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Okay, here's the explanation my shrink would give you
But it's not as good as mine!
It's simple transference. You don't have a significant other in your life right now. Someone wonderful, that you love and adore, someone to share your day and your bed with. So you are confering all those feelings upon Adrienne.
She is trustworthy, kind, true. Her love for you will never diminish with time. She'll never lie to you, betray you and hurt you if she can help it. All your life you've searched for another female with these qualities and been sorely disappointed.
At this time in your life, you've simply given up and found a 'female' who IS worthy of your love and attn:::Adrienne.
posted by
Passionflower
on May 4, 2005 at 12:49 PM
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Adrienne is a beautiful animal. Her smile is genuine.
Don't know if you believe in the Pet Psychic or not, but I used to watch it all the time and cry with those folks over their beloved animals that had passed over.
I think if you ever took her to see the Pet Psychic, you might find out that she has been a faithful loving companion in former lives or previously in this life. My cat, Seven, has the spirt of a dog I owned when I was 16 named Candy Girl.
Lots of people think this sort of thing is 'hoo-ey' but I believe in things I can not see or understand, like love and forgiveness.
posted by
Passionflower
on May 4, 2005 at 4:24 AM
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She will be so glad to see you when you pick her up!
I don't know exactly what it is but animals seem to make your heart smile...Hope you get you smile back quick.
posted by
Whacky
on May 4, 2005 at 3:57 AM
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Sometimes that bond stretches really, really thin...
It's hard because you know she doesn't really understand as you do what is happening, why you have left her with Those People... But she may know more than you realize, and might just be reaching out along that same thin thread to send you the same comfort you send her... If she feels you are not upset and afraid, I have no doubt that she will take comfort and find her own grounding in that certainty.
From the energy-healing point of view-- I would build up that thread, make it larger, stronger... make it into a cable that can carry a lot of energy both ways!
posted by
Ciel
on May 3, 2005 at 11:34 PM
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