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Re: Kabu
It's hard to explain to someone the depth of your grief. I know ya didn't post this to get a book excerpt, but it explains my thinking on the matter.
This is from another book I am cleaning up, "Who Cares For The Caregiver When The Caregiver Hits Rockbottom?"
This is after Judy's funeral.
Alone
The best thing that I had done was to have made all of Judy’s funeral arrangements over a year before she passed away. I had lined up her services, the music that she loved, and a minister who had been a school friend of mine. We both talked with him for several hours, and from that visit, he could make plans for her funeral and memorial service.
Then comes the loneliness I talked about earlier.
The funny thing about the funeral service is all the people you will meet there. You need to know you’ll probably never see most of them again. They’ll tell you they will call you, or they will stop over. They will tell you you would be welcome to stop over and see them ‘any time you need to talk.’
Fat chance.
Most of the time, you’ll never hear a word from any of them. If you stop over at their home, there will be an awkward moment and then the excuse that they were ‘just leaving!‘
It’s not that they don’t like you. It’s that they don’t know what to say to you.
posted by
BigV
on May 30, 2023 at 7:48 AM
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I stopped crying many years ago. No one wanted to know about grief from being divorced; I was young, I had my life ahead of me etc. I learned not to cry...except at 300.am in the morning when no one could see. same when I lost a breast to cancer. 3.00am in the morning i would sob for my lost body part. now I don't cry.
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Kabu
on May 30, 2023 at 7:38 AM
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