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Your post really touched me, having organized my own family's photos, and what was left of those of my parents. Each picture functions as a memory prompt, and multiple prompts can produce sensory overload as we re-live portions of our lives in a short span of time, though through different, wiser eyes and minds. Perhaps your father disconnected because his own childhood forced him to do so to emotionally survive. In any case, his ability to empathize with how his behaviors made you feel seemed minimized for some reason. You are a Survivor, have transcended his deficiencies, and have let it go, I feel, leaving only the shadow of the memory on your psyche. Good for you, and may the light of your beautifuly decorations shine thoughout the season for you and your family!
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on December 17, 2019 at 11:21 PM
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Well, his daughter has become as open and communicative as he
could never be. Being discounted or discarded by dad is tough and in my case fostered a lot of resentment. Took more than 50 years to convince myself it was his loss. I know your decorations will be spec-tacular!
posted by
Pat_B
on December 17, 2019 at 11:24 AM
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Autism wasn't even acknowledged i believe when he was a youngster but it does sound at least Aspergs syndrome that he had. Very difficult to live with for you all.
posted by
Kabu
on December 17, 2019 at 11:02 AM
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Sad of course Ciel. One looks at some things and wonders.
posted by
C_C_T
on December 17, 2019 at 10:52 AM
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