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Re: Anibanerjee, thank you!
I have been studying/living this a long time!
posted by
Ciel
on August 1, 2017 at 6:12 AM
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Re: Thanks, RPresta!
I appreciate your appreciation!
posted by
Ciel
on August 1, 2017 at 6:10 AM
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Re: CCT,
I agree, what happens in childhood--our first experiences--teach us what to expect of life. Some children have better experiences than others and carry forward with optimism and strong self-esteem. Healing those old scars is not impossible, but it takes tremendous conscious intent. As you say, we often find solutions to the immediate or most acute pain, and feel better so we stop there. Distraction is a great anesthetic!
posted by
Ciel
on August 1, 2017 at 6:10 AM
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Re: Kabu,
Have to wonder what goes on in her head--Maybe she thinks that she is making him feel better, maybe she is isolating him from you to have him to herself. Maybe she has her own issues with parents. Some natual healers, I've noticed, heal by exposing pain then comiserating, thinking this is emotional support. They really do mean to help, and have no idea how to really be a healer.
posted by
Ciel
on August 1, 2017 at 6:05 AM
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Ciel
This is so well, written from great understanding, and that makes it a meaningful quality article. Such topics always gives me insight to the deeper. 
posted by
anib
on July 31, 2017 at 5:52 AM
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An excellent, well-written and well-thought post, indeed. Kudos to you. 
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on July 29, 2017 at 11:41 PM
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I have always believed that negative or strange things things in early childhood has a bearing upon ones emotional life. Even when one discovers the reason for negative thoughts the scars as it were remain and try to assert there existence, so it is really hard to overcome such things as phobias. Sometimes they even lie dormant to be triggered by some unknown event. I think sometimes the mind tries to solve ones problem and may even produce a result which really does not solve the problem,but replaces it with a fervor for something entirely different.
posted by
C_C_T
on July 29, 2017 at 11:49 AM
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excellent and gives me an insight into what my DIL is fostering in the mind and heart of son #2...divorce of his parents all those years ago, and the issues his parents faced and the way we dealt with our own pain left scabs, later picked at by her.
posted by
Kabu
on July 29, 2017 at 10:16 AM
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