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Re: mneme
Oh I know that Naut, only too well! It's an expression we both use, almost daily, and with good humour. I hope!
posted by
mneme
on June 18, 2015 at 3:34 PM
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mneme
Having been a witness to your 'scene' for quite a while now, and understanding (up to a point) its complexity, I am tempted into the position a very good friend of mine adopts when there really doesn't seem to be another answer - 'It is what it is'...
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Nautikos
on June 18, 2015 at 3:18 PM
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Thanks Justi, for stopping by and for good advice. It's what I tell my daughter... but I sometimes forget that it also applies to me.
posted by
mneme
on June 18, 2015 at 1:55 PM
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Well, FSI, we have been having a nice 'chat' over skype and it's amazing how a few emoticons and a few jokes can break the ice. Watch this space.
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mneme
on June 18, 2015 at 1:53 PM
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Hi Taps, nice to see you! There are times when I think I can't handle it either. But then I remember his kindness... the one quality that was most lacking in my ex.
posted by
mneme
on June 18, 2015 at 1:52 PM
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Well, thank you CCT ... you are a true gentleman. It's true that I don't stay down for long (usually).
With regard to the matter in hand ... I'm reminded of that scene in Paint Your Wagon, when the mormon preacher says to one of his wives (who has been bid for and won by the Lee Marvin character) 'but you don't know what you'll get...!' Her answer would be my answer, concerning my ex.... 'I know what I've had!' Brilliant. And because I know what I've had, I know this is better.
posted by
mneme
on June 18, 2015 at 1:51 PM
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Mneme . You seem to fly through problems and remain calm and dignified. I love reading of your experiences if only as a reminder that there are still gentlewomen amongst us.
posted by
C_C_T
on June 18, 2015 at 11:39 AM
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I have caught up now on all of your recent offerings. It makes for interesting reading, but I'm not sure I could handle a relationship like that. I get hot under the collar and spout off too easily.
posted by
TAPS.
on June 18, 2015 at 7:47 AM
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It will be interesting to see what happens.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on June 18, 2015 at 6:03 AM
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Maybe you should not think of things you haven't any control over. It is tough but it is also smart. If you have to control things to have them work you will always be busy and at some time wonder if any of this was worth all the work. Cool Out!
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Justi
on June 17, 2015 at 7:48 PM
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True. I have amused myself by researching the son's condition (which is hardly, any more, an incapacitating illness), and making my own observations as to his abilities. Now that I know the lie of the land a bit better, it will give me something to work with and, yes, I do have to take more care of myself so as to be able to take care of my bloke, who isn't getting any younger. What riles me most is how his son can sit there and let his dad do everything for him.
xx
posted by
mneme
on June 17, 2015 at 6:51 PM
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re my blog love, I forgot about the tree in Australia, no we just got a maple leaf pin as a gift Oh and I go on line and have a year free pass to get into parks and museums and stuff. Yes my Peonies are coming out everyday. I have quite a lot of bushes because they are one thing that does come back each Summer. Take care of you and if you love this guy from the bottom of your heart then you just have to accept he has some odd moments and a son with problems that he is never going to separate from himself.
posted by
Kabu
on June 17, 2015 at 5:27 PM
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Thanks Kabu... we've had a nice evening with old friends and I know they will always be there for me no matter what.. which is a great source of strength for me. I don't know what to make of the silence, there has been no response to my little note to say we would be out and so saying goodnight early. I don't know whether to tell him how this makes me feel or to leave sleeping dogs to lie - probably the latter is the wiser course. If only he would do something about his son's independence... it would be one less hurdle to be overcome every day, and we could sell both houses and choose somewhere we'd both really like to live.
posted by
mneme
on June 17, 2015 at 4:11 PM
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There you have the answer to his little odd remarks, the penciled in date left for you to find, the sighing for his lost beloved wife, the snarly little remarks...You are with your daughter and his jealousy is running out of control. He is terrified of losing you, terrified you prefer your children to him. He makes life miserable as he can with his games, with this form of abuse. Then when all is over with, he will win you around.
I am not condemning or wanting to add to your misery dear one...I have lived it.
posted by
Kabu
on June 17, 2015 at 12:16 PM
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enjoy your visit
posted by
Annicita
on June 17, 2015 at 12:08 PM
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