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This post takes me back to my grandmother's funeral. My Dad never gossiped or told family secrets of things he thought people did not need to know, or might hurt someone. But, you know how people are after a funeral, sitting around eating together and all. At my grandmother's funeral some family secrets from the past came out of the closet, things that would have been better left there. My dad hated that so much that he actually got physically ill and I had to drive him back from Oklahoma to KC. He never mentioned it again, but I never forgot that day.
posted by
TAPS.
on December 18, 2014 at 4:57 PM
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There are people who I am more willing to talk to about things than others.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on December 17, 2014 at 6:19 PM
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There are secrets, and there are secrets...
Sometimes, the sharing of a secret is more for our own relief than for the one we reveal it to: I think we have to consider why we are letting the secret out, and consider how it will affect the person we let it out to.
Personal truths that are wrapped up in shame--maybe revealing those can help us see that the shame is pointless and obsolete. But we still have to consider who we tell, and why.
posted by
Ciel
on December 17, 2014 at 5:05 AM
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A friend of mine once said the following:
"Everybody's got skeletons in their closets. My closets just ain't got any doors on 'em."
Pretty bold words for a politician, methinks!
But as a writer, I think I have to get it all out, one way or another. It's that obligation to the truth thing.
posted by
strat
on December 16, 2014 at 12:50 PM
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Well somethings I find would have been just be too painful at the time to reveal to others.
I fear I have many ghosts that I keep screwed down although they sometimes slip into my mind and reveal what I should have done, but one has to be realistic this is now.
posted by
C_C_T
on December 16, 2014 at 12:26 PM
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Krisles
As always - very stimulating! So much so, that I will probably write a post of my own on this subject...
posted by
Nautikos
on December 16, 2014 at 7:11 AM
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Hi, Krisles - this business of keeping secrets has long been a facet
of my life. Everyone has at least one or two personal things they don't discuss - either at all or only with people they trust implicitly. Seems to me it's an obligation to keep someone else's secret if they've trusted you with it. Sharing your own, as you did with your daughter, is done if it will help the other handle their own issues, if it doesn't harm anyone else. I hope you two will be even closer now. ☺
BTW, you commented on my blog about clarity and how the story gets sidetracked - same here. That's why I go over it after it's written. I delete side issues that my octopus brain has latched onto as I unwind the main thread, maybe cut & paste to make it flow better. It only looks like the words fall onto the page that way when I edit carefully.
posted by
Pat_B
on December 16, 2014 at 5:57 AM
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