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TAPS
Thanks for reading.
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Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 10:30 PM
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Very interesting post. I don't have any answers, thoughts or comments about that, but I enjoyed reading the comments of others. 
posted by
TAPS.
on July 8, 2013 at 10:02 PM
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Nautikos
Exactly.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 9:42 PM
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Annicita
True. The problem in my community and what I see is that the one who attempts to take place or follow the patterns are not trained nor have the innate ability. They just want the same perks the had as entitlement rights.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 9:41 PM
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KABU
It could be all of them.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 9:37 PM
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BC-A
It may be love.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 9:36 PM
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DrJ
Well, it's a long story! In his particular case, I can only say I didn't like Bill as president, and I'm sure I wouldn't like Hillary either! There's a certain sameness about that...
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Nautikos
on July 8, 2013 at 6:57 PM
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well who is to say that they can't be? Why shouldn't they choose that role? Just because their spouse once upon a time did doesn't eliminate it from their list of possibliities.
posted by
Annicita
on July 8, 2013 at 3:21 PM
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Hunger for the lime light, the power, the money....or all of them!! 1 don't really know.
posted by
Kabu
on July 8, 2013 at 2:15 PM
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Dr. JPT
Could it be love? BC-A, Bill's R
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posted by
BC-A
on July 8, 2013 at 12:46 PM
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FormerStudentIntern
I agree.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 10:21 AM
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lustorlove
True. You are right, they feel they can carry on but they looked on and were not taught or trained.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 10:20 AM
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JimmyA
Count yourself truly fortunate. This may be more cultural than anything else. I think lionreign is on target.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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lionreign
You described it exactly.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on July 8, 2013 at 10:12 AM
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I guess it has to do with our individually centered one is.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on July 8, 2013 at 9:57 AM
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I guess maybe they learn from the spouse and feel they can carryon
posted by
Lanetay
on July 8, 2013 at 8:22 AM
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Good question, but I personally don't believe this behavior is really all that common. Neither my wife nor I have any desire to compete with anyone over anything, or with each other. I've occasionally been in the limelight, so to speak, over my books or some of my illustrations, while she's enjoyed the occasional spotlight over her photographs or graphic projects. We would rather enjoy each other's accomplishments and boost each other's self-esteem than worry about anything being a "competition" . . . 
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JimmyA
on July 8, 2013 at 8:14 AM
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My opinion would be "low self esteem": one part of the couple feels they have no value and therefore over values the other, having defined them as all things good they must then force themselves to try to become as much like the other as possible, all the while looking for approval from the other for doing it, which pushes them into the role of judge. It all seems very unhealthy to me
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lionreign
on July 8, 2013 at 2:47 AM
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