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Have you met my mother?? ..smile... we always give her a time at least half an hour before she needs to be ready, and even then she takes hours to get herself organised. Sigh.
posted by
mneme
on May 19, 2013 at 8:24 AM
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Nautikos
I have heard about that too. It sounds like this: how can you measure time or if you lose it, how can you get it back. Thanks for the comment.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 16, 2013 at 9:13 PM
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DrJPT
'Temporal ordering' can be problematic for many of us, of course, but the virtual absence of any sense of time is one of the chracteristic symptoms of mental illness. Having said that, there are physicists (e.g. Barbour, with whose work I am somewhat familiar) who have neat ways of demonstarting that there is no such thing as time...
posted by
Nautikos
on May 16, 2013 at 9:05 PM
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I APPRECIATE ALL COMMENTS
each of you shared what I have experienced with those who seem unable and clueless about time. I need to write about SPACE next.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 16, 2013 at 8:09 PM
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missed your posts and I will catch up dear friend when I am rested.
posted by
Kabu
on May 16, 2013 at 5:38 PM
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we have a sister in our family that needs to be the center of attention no matter what is going on....so she is always late...the topic of conversation of why she isn't on time ... my mom will wait meals for her and only her...she creates drama from the moment she walks in the house....i have learned to just let it go and find something else to talk about and now since my older sister and i do most of the holiday cooking if she isn't there on time ... well then eat it cold!
posted by
Annicita
on May 15, 2013 at 11:10 PM
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This is very good information. Thank you for sharing.
posted by
Justi
on May 15, 2013 at 7:24 PM
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So true and excellently written!
The friends I have who are bi polar have issues with getting to a job at a prescribed hour and then if/when they do make it, can't seem to wind down and prepare to call it a day or night at the end of their shift. One is on disability but tries, with difficulty to volunteer part time.
posted by
Katray2
on May 15, 2013 at 7:17 PM
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jeansaw
Under the blanket of mental illness are many indicators, traits, variables, etc. I am using the term loosely to show small things can be indcators that the mind may not think well which leads to behaviors that appear abnormal.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 15, 2013 at 5:34 PM
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CCT
Time flies then for some.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 15, 2013 at 5:25 PM
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FormerStudentIntern
I think most of us have at some point in our life.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 15, 2013 at 5:24 PM
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TAPS
You are correct. Leave them alone for your peace.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 15, 2013 at 5:20 PM
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JimmyA
My husband is on same schedule as your wife. I have learned to JUST GO WITH IT, unless it is important for me.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 15, 2013 at 5:19 PM
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Re: BC-A
True!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 15, 2013 at 5:17 PM
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i never thought of time management as being a mental illness
i also have a dil that is always late when i invite her family to dinner. at first it upset me and i thought she was being inconsiderate but then i started telling everyone what time dinner would be served and whoever is there will eat and those that are late can warm theirs up, she is still late, i am not upset and she doesnt seem to mind warming up the food. problem solved.
posted by
jeansaw
on May 15, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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Also the case where time does not move and one has to endure the prolonged wait of each second as one grows older.
posted by
C_C_T
on May 15, 2013 at 10:36 AM
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I used to have a lot of time management problems. I am pleased to write that I have worked out most of the kinks...You make great points about haste making waste. Often I think we tend to forget that with many seemingly believing that being early/fast is "good."
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FormerStudentIntern
on May 15, 2013 at 9:24 AM
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I have found that in dealing with a person who has time-management problems, it does no good at all to try to chnge them. One of my DILs has always frustrated everyone by her inability to be considerate to others about time. She makes anyone and everyone wait, and wait, and wait.
posted by
TAPS.
on May 15, 2013 at 8:53 AM
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Better late than never .
posted by
afzal50
on May 15, 2013 at 7:07 AM
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I must admit, this is one of the few areas that my wife and I are complete opposites on. I believe I have a wonderful sense of time management for one simple reason: I can gauge fairly accurately how long something will take, whether it's a chore, project or task to be performed, or a distance to be traveled. However, my wife simply cannot! Something she thinks will only take 5 or 10 minutes ends up taking a half an hour, and as a result, we are late for many an engagement! And for some reason, trying that ol' trick of saying "We have to be there by 6:30!" when we actually don't have to be somewhere until 7:00 simply doesn't work! And what confounds me even further is that she has a watch she wears 24/7! You would think that a quick glance down at it every once in a while might help, but hey, you can lead a horse to water . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on May 15, 2013 at 5:41 AM
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Dr JPT
$Catching the bus an hour earlier also helps love. BC-A, Bill’s R®st
posted by
BC-A
on May 15, 2013 at 5:09 AM
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