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Uh huh. You have me walking on a line here, Chuck. 
I don't disbelieve in the spiritual presence or higher authority; but I do believe there are decisions we are competent enough to make--as the higher authority has given us free will--that we can control our own family, our own household, our own communities. Respect, honor, love, and loyalty within ourselves and our officials should maybe go along with our respect and love of God. Thank you for commenting, I appreciate your feedback.
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RamfamilyWritings
on November 4, 2012 at 1:44 PM
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As do we all, FS. I suppose we have to also live with the "side effects" of free-choice. Thanks for your feedback.
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RamfamilyWritings
on November 4, 2012 at 1:33 PM
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Well, I suppose I didn't specify the "spouse being chosen by parents" clearly, adnohr. But no, the familes in America don't practice forced marriage openly. However, there are many states where there are parents that practice this method indirectly. I know there were many young women that my grandmother didn't approve of. And if one goes against the wishes of family, the family may just ex-communicate them. Also, there are religious functions that many of we Americans follow--catholic should marry a catholic, mormon should marry a mormon, etc. And I really shouldn't get into the issues of racial acceptance..? So, maybe not forced marriage but "pressured marriage" is alive a well. Does this help describe my meaning? Thanks for your comment and for reading, my friend.
Isaiah
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RamfamilyWritings
on November 4, 2012 at 1:31 PM
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Here, here! Yes the sexual expectations and material needs have changed many aspects of our reality. Thanks for commenting on this, CCT
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RamfamilyWritings
on November 4, 2012 at 1:21 PM
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Re: I believe in love true love isn't mushy spoiling everyone , it can be harsh
Quite true, Kabu. Thanks for reading and commenting.
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RamfamilyWritings
on November 4, 2012 at 1:18 PM
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I myself prefer to be able to have the freedom of choice.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on November 4, 2012 at 9:52 AM
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As time progresses we will be crying for the old days when everything in our life was more precious. Respect within the family, honor, loyalty, and the existence of God within us. As long as God is becoming less important the family values will become non existence and we shall pay the price.
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Chuck_E_Ibrahim
on November 4, 2012 at 5:25 AM
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Hmmm - although it happens elsewhere and in other cultures, I never associated forced marriage (spouse being chosen by parents) to Americans. I'll have to read up on this.
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adnohr
on November 3, 2012 at 6:58 PM
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There was probably much more stability in the old system and people usually married with in a set community where thought and religion was pretty standard. Possibly now folk expect too much from their human counterpart, that which was once normal married life has been so exploited by sexual expectations and material needs that it has a job to work within the harsh boundary of reality.
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C_C_T
on November 3, 2012 at 1:31 PM
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I believe in love true love isn't mushy spoiling everyone , it can be harsh
at times. But if there is love for self and love for each other by all the family members then it is happy Days.
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Kabu
on November 3, 2012 at 1:01 PM
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