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If you're a man...
you're assumed to be the perpetrator. That's the assumption under which the current DV system is set up - that women are the victims and men the perpetrators, to the point where - unfortunately - women can do just about anything.
You know, I don't have any stats at hand, but it's theoretically possible that we are more commonly verbal abusers. I've known some real dillies of control freaks in the older, "play dumb or else you won't get a man" generation of women. My MIL was one of them.
Really makes it easy for lesbian batterers to run for cover - they can always pin it on the male ex-partner of the victim, if they aren't crying "I did it because I'm oppressed."
posted by
kidnykid
on February 27, 2003 at 1:56 PM
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your story on DV
I am currently involved in the "injustice system" of a DV case, however, I am not the one who is the alleged victim I am supposedly the "criminal" . Although I was physically injured as well as verbally abused, which the police saw, I was the one who went to jail and have to go through the red tape. The laws are great when they truly do thier job of protecting the innocent, but they can certainly fail a lotof ppl
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PastorB
on February 27, 2003 at 1:31 PM
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