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I enjoy frequenting garage sales. There's always something to see.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on June 2, 2012 at 11:09 AM | link to this | reply

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Every time I have a garage sale I say I'll never have another one. There's so much work!

posted by tamijo on June 1, 2012 at 7:23 PM | link to this | reply

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Thanks Jay.

posted by tamijo on June 1, 2012 at 7:20 PM | link to this | reply

I hope you have a very successful sale! I have mine ready but no time to fit it in as yet! sam

posted by sam444 on June 1, 2012 at 4:42 PM | link to this | reply

Life is too long and too sweet to put finality's on it. Because this is happening now does not mean is must last forever. The world, and the good Lord have ways of rearranging and changing things. Turning things upside down and inside out until the fit becomes real and comfortable. There is no past, and there is no future, there is only now, and now cannot last forever.

posted by UtahJay on June 1, 2012 at 4:15 PM | link to this | reply

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lovelyladymonk, what a beautiful post! I thank God every day for my friends here. You have all been so encouraging. My husband has moved into the halfway house where he can get some treatment and is getting a physical on Tues. He seems determined, but like I told him, I heard this all before. Now he needs to back it up with action. My heart aches for him and I miss him so much. But I know he needs to do this by himself and for himself. Thank you for kind words. It means so much to me.

posted by tamijo on June 1, 2012 at 3:32 PM | link to this | reply

Tamijo,

I ache for you, sweet lady. Yes, alcoholism is a disease, but it is also, whether the alcoholic believes so or not, a choice that they have made. Both of my parents are alcoholics, and I praise God that I myself am not.

I am so sorry this is happening to you. I am sorry for your husband and for your daughters. But know this, you cannot control what your husband chooses to do or not do. Sadly, you are right when you say that he cannot see the tragic affects this is having on you all-least of all upon himself. Know this too, you are much stronger than you believe yourself to be. God is with you. He holds you in His arms this very moment. When you are weak, call upon His name and He will make you strong again.

So many victims of this disease try for too long to hide in its shadows. We honestly believe that if the drinker loves us enough, that this love will be enough to make them stop. Love is never enough. They have to want to stop. We blame ourselves for their choices. Maybe if we could just stop saying or doing certain things, they wouldn't be the way they are. They drink because we make them sad or angry or hurt their feelings when we call them out on it.

None of this is true, of course. The only person who can stop your husband from drinking is your husband. But, he has to WANT to stop, and it's painfully obvious from your post here that he doesn't yet want to give it up.

I will pray that one day very soon, God will show him the light of your love and that he will finally want the hell to come to an end.

Don't be ashamed to have these little breakdowns. Whether you know this or not, you're actually entitled to them.

Don't be afraid or ashamed to lean on your friends here. Our shoulders will gladly help to ease the least little bit of this burden. I am so very sad and sorry for all your sadness and pain. May the Lord our God guide and comfort you and grant you His everlasting peace.

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your therapist is your life line right now. She needs to know these feeling