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The Shadow Effect

There is a book and film called the Shadow Effect.  Might be something to read.  It states basically that anything you repress will eventually come to surface.  We all have a dark side.  Embracing it and exploring it is healthy.  Dwelling on it however is not. We all need balance and so while it's good to express the darkness, try to balance it with gratitude, forgiveness, gifting and other spiritual endeavours (not to be mistaken for religious endeavours).  Focusing on the positive aspects of life will bring more positive things to you eventually.  It's the Law of Attraction.  What you put out, comes back to you.  Send out negative energy all the time and it will return.  It's not that the negative stuff isn't there.  But there is always something good too.  Always.  Seeing it and being grateful for it is a tiny step towards getting more of it.

posted by asurvivor58 on December 20, 2013 at 6:13 PM | link to this | reply

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Being compared to Wednesday Addams actually made me feel good. I loved her as a kid, still do obviously.

posted by WaterKat on March 13, 2012 at 9:29 PM | link to this | reply

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Sometimes we really love the Wednesday Addamms in our lives because she gives it such a wonderful charming perspective. LOL.


posted by WednesdayAddams on March 13, 2012 at 3:58 PM | link to this | reply

Re: Yes , How true...

posted by WaterKat on March 11, 2012 at 5:30 AM | link to this | reply

Soem of the best stuff ever written has come from the same state of mind! sam 

posted by sam444 on March 10, 2012 at 7:57 PM | link to this | reply


I can tell you from my own personal experiences...Write whatever you need to write.  Happy and sad, good and bad.  I have a friend who doesn't like to let people know when he hurts and almost a year ago he almost died as a result of his inability to let people see his dark side.

I praise God every day for sparing him and bringing him back to me.  He left me for two and half years, and as a result I went through a very dark period myself.  I feel no shame in admitting that I'm still working my way through it all.  Some recent events have left me feeling hurt and sad and dark again but if God means us to be together(as I believe He does)I will slowly work my way through it.

Pain often affects the people we are on the inside.  Don't ever let that pain DEFINE you.  Don't let it take away from you.  The pain may have changed you in some ways.  But let out that pain so that it can't ever control you again.  One day, you'll realise the pain is gone and that you're free again.

If people don't like seeing the pain, that's their choice.  Don't ever let anyone judge you by what you write or the way you write it.

My prayers that your pain will leave you forever very soon.  Be blessed.

posted by lovelyladymonk on March 10, 2012 at 5:36 PM | link to this | reply

Of course writing here, one can cry with words whenever one likes.

No one here is judgmental. If they don't like your words, they can choose not to read. but that is rare.

posted by Kabu on March 10, 2012 at 10:23 AM | link to this | reply

I can't cry any more either, mine have all dried out but fortunately

I am blessed with having found Wiley and our happiness allows for me to bury most of the old pain.

posted by Kabu on March 10, 2012 at 10:21 AM | link to this | reply

Re: But like I said, my tears ran out. I cant cry anymore.

posted by WaterKat on March 10, 2012 at 6:57 AM | link to this | reply

I cried almost every day for over 3 years and hated my tears but then I realized, that's what God gave us (especially women) to relieve our hearts of sadness and sorrow and pain. I don't think He wanted us to hold any of it in but to come to Him who is the great Healer and Counselor of all. Cry on... and we, Blogit readers, will feel your tears and know that your healing will come in God's Time.

posted by Butterfly-1950 on March 10, 2012 at 4:54 AM | link to this | reply