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cynthia, it was the living in sin phrase that got me. I married them
instead. Of course, I now see what I should have done in my life, but, it is much too late. You were to marry, settle down on some small 400,000 acre Brasilian "fazenda" have tons of babies and live happily ever after. No? Prince Charming and Rescuers from boring average life and other youthful and childish silliness, which always aided me in selecting the next husband.
posted by
benzinha
on December 21, 2003 at 8:54 PM
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From one Grandma to another...
This ws great! but why the H... did you feel you always had to marry them??????? Loved the doggy photo too. Reminds me of my Cassady.
posted by
Cynthia
on December 21, 2003 at 11:57 AM
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katray, no man has stopped nor stepped one foot in my direction to speak to
me in over ten years. I am invisible and that is good for me. I had a need to be seen and noticed in my youth and am busy erasing all the body language and things which do that for a person. I can finally say that I have succeeded and am resting in life, doing only what I please. Except when ruled by dogs or grandchildren, I forgot to add.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 9:21 PM
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Fascinating post, benz.
I love reading about your experiences and life. So much beautiful wisdom and spirit (I wouldn't be so sure about being invisible!) Thank you for sharing.
posted by
Katray2
on December 20, 2003 at 9:04 PM
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mikemanc, well, maybe not brilliant, but entertaining, no? marieth, yes,
only marry your very best friend. I stopped dating so long ago that today I couldn't tell you how long it's been anymore. Way over fifteen years of single bliss and I am now invisible to men, sending no residual signals anymore, and happy, so happy this way.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 8:33 PM
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marieth is right
but i suppose our taste in friends can change
posted by
beachbelle
on December 20, 2003 at 5:51 PM
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YES ONLY MARRY IF HE/SHE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND ......
posted by
marieth
on December 20, 2003 at 5:50 PM
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What a brilliant post Benz.
Absolutely loved it. Thanks.
As for the man........
posted by
Mike_Manc
on December 20, 2003 at 4:42 PM
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beachbelle, yes, to write, but internet writing is multi-dimensional, isn't
it? My posts are so long that if I don't come up with something different, people won't come to read the many words that create the final thought or idea. Anyway, I always wanted to put Makeda's photo up online, even if I had to disguise her for purposes of anonymity. She can't give her permission to be placed online and so, I protect her.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 4:24 PM
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Benzinha
have you seen ME post any pictures yet? You are way ahead of me. I have just learnt the
basic html. My excuse is that I am here to write.
posted by
beachbelle
on December 20, 2003 at 4:14 PM
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gome, at least you Have some standards. I didn't, I don't think and thus,
my stupid past. I dated fellows who were blind and in wheel chairs, war traumatized and regular. I dated presidents and paupers and fools. They all dated a fool. Poor fellows.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 4:06 PM
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benzinha you know I'm just kidding.
I am very fussy about who I date. I tend to count the number of legs a girl has first...no more than 2 is a rule. They can be a bit hairy as well but no fur......and if they bite forget it. Wigs are okay though.
posted by
gomedome
on December 20, 2003 at 3:46 PM
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beachbellote, it took me five hours, as a cavewoman to post the photo.
I had to steal it from another site where I have it posted and then put it in villagephotos.com and then find the correct HTML to connect it and then find the right way to place it and where and it kept coming up empty and then it finally appeared at five a.m. I went to bed exhausted by my own stupidity.
I really want to post it under the calendar on the template, permanently, but couldn't figure that out even reading the encoding on page after page of people who had done this successfully. I am too old to try to understand and retain HTML, but I refuse to give up. My learning curve is about as huge as my butt and that's a big, slow curve.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 3:45 PM
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gome, That Was YOU???!?!?!???
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 3:41 PM
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Woke up with a girl that looked like that once
swore off drinking for a good 30 hours after that.
posted by
gomedome
on December 20, 2003 at 3:39 PM
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Checked back for the pic Benzinha
- you do not only write for gome
posted by
beachbelle
on December 20, 2003 at 3:16 PM
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gome, how do you like my bride photo?? You didn't say.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 3:00 PM
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gome, when friends ask at highschool reunions, I hold up both hands and
and begin to curve down one finger at a time, slowly, as though remembering, and re-raise one finger, shaking my head and then put another one down and then put two down quickly and say, "Nine, well, maybe ten if you count so and so, but I don't really count him, so.....eleven, in reality." They laugh and give up. Give up????!?!??
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 2:54 PM
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benzinha ....being bold of nature I gotta ask
How many times have you been married ? Just curious...I understand if you suggest it is none of my business.
posted by
gomedome
on December 20, 2003 at 2:39 PM
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gome, I write just for you, sure I do. Thanks.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 2:29 PM
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benzinha...what a great story
Sat down to check out BN today wondering if it would be the same old or something new...said to myself " great benzinha's online today " and clicked to read this.....absolutely loved it.
posted by
gomedome
on December 20, 2003 at 2:20 PM
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dknowles, at least you finally decided, on your own??!?!, that it was right
RIGHT??? Many people married in the sixties and seventies and had their lovely children in attendance. Better to get it right the first time than marry eighteen, fifteen times, a fool for love or men or just a plain fool, and divorce almost as many. Turns out that in this Wedding Buffet, I forgot to divorce one about seventeen years ago, thought that he had divorced me, neither of us really wanted to deal with it. Dunno what all this means. More interesting stories, I suppose.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 2:11 PM
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ifyouplease, trust in whom you trust and pray and light candles
and attend services and speak to your gods alone on a hill. If you choose, you must discriminate some in your gathering up of a husband, then I say gather carefully, listen to what they, your future wife or husband, say about themselves and believe them when they say that "they are not good for you" are "probably not good for your health" or "not really, their kind of a person".
I don't know that anyone's gods do a better or worse job of forming marrying couples, but if they have something to do with it, then, they need to hit their books and restudy their matings, as more than half are failing today. I took full blame for my foolishness and placed no guilt nor partial blame on God's Whim or Plan for me. I do understand what you are saying "IYP" and wish that all prayers came true for those who were right to ask and be rewarded. Have I alienated you more? Sorry.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 2:02 PM
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Both my children attended my wedding
We were, of course, making sure it would last, before we made the ultimate commitment. :-)
posted by
dknowles
on December 20, 2003 at 11:41 AM
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Yeah, OK. So that means, Trust NOT in the Lord with all your heart
and lean unto your OWN understanding. In all thy ways, IGNORE him and YOU shall bring it to pass.
posted by
TARZANA
on December 20, 2003 at 9:33 AM
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beachbelle, no darling, I shall pretend that it was not me.......
if we ever meet in person, I'll claim that it was a very stupid friend who went through this. Thanks for reading. Come back and see Makeda's picture which I added to take the place of the bride's photo.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 4:42 AM
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Benzinha
It would be wonderful if this tale could spare someone but some people are destined to live through such things. And some put themselves through this again and again. Can you believe that this was you?
posted by
beachbelle
on December 20, 2003 at 2:26 AM
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dewdrop, Abuelita is a diminuitive for Abuela, adding affection.
It does mean little grandmother in Spanish, but also connotes affection. It is what my grandchildren call me. Thanks for reading and commenting.
posted by
benzinha
on December 20, 2003 at 2:13 AM
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Abuelita? is that a name or just spanish for tiny grandmother??
lol
posted by
JustJilly
on December 20, 2003 at 1:48 AM
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