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That is very sad. I will try to remember to be praying for you as I know this is not easy for you, your mom or dad.
posted by
mariposa75
on April 3, 2009 at 10:28 PM
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Sorry to hear about the situation, happens so often. Try to be understanding, can be an ugly thing separation or divorce.
posted by
piggens
on April 3, 2009 at 8:56 PM
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I see that economics and not the status of the relationship determines
whether a couple will file for divorce.
posted by
Straightforward
on April 3, 2009 at 6:51 PM
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As metalrat says
you're adopting a really mature attitude to this but I can feel the hurt. I'm sorry this has happened and there's a lot to be said for being direct sometimes, isn't there, rather than just leaving people hanging on. Stay with it as best you can
posted by
malcolm
on April 3, 2009 at 1:15 PM
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Former
A divorce, at the best of times, is not easy but when there is a family business involved it makes the disentanglement even more challenging (or at least I would imagine it does). No… keeping someone “dangling” is not a kind thing to do though in all fairness to your Dad maybe he did think there was a chance he would return. Maybe he needed the time to do some personal inventory but unfortunately it sounds like your Mother paid the price. I'm sure this is a difficult time for you as well .....
posted by
Troosha
on April 3, 2009 at 7:51 AM
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Sorry to hear this. It will not be easy time for you as you try understand them and to give both of them emotional support.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 2, 2009 at 9:37 PM
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Yes, so sad. I am sorry.
posted by
RASSE
on April 2, 2009 at 4:44 PM
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Tough situation, FSI...all around.
I am impressed, though, with your mature take on things. You seem to be wise beyond your years. You have my sympathies.
posted by
metalrat
on April 2, 2009 at 3:57 PM
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Interesting analysis of your reality!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on April 2, 2009 at 12:47 PM
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Re:
whoops that should of been 20 years instead of two, it must be the lack of sleep
posted by
Lanetay
on April 2, 2009 at 8:27 AM
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thats too bad about your parents. It seems couples have a way to drift apart. What brought them together when they met wont keep it together anymore. Maybe its menopausal for your dad. Your mom should do alright she still owns half the business, how would her finances change? I know when I got a divorce the split was was without a separation it was just over, I had done nothing at all other than being a wife and a mom for 2 years, at least your mom has the book keeping. I am woman hear me roar
posted by
Lanetay
on April 2, 2009 at 8:25 AM
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I think it is unfortunate! I don't blame you for venting! It was insensitive on his part! But it seems that when he had the finality in his mind he said it! I don't believe he meant ill will! sam
posted by
sam444
on April 2, 2009 at 7:23 AM
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Cheers...wish you all the best...
posted by
Kayzzaman
on April 2, 2009 at 6:39 AM
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You sound like you're holding up vey well, but you're not one to
write about deep feelings. I feel for you. I would think it must be hard on you since you're older. My kids were very young when Their dad and I parted. Best wishes for you, your sis, your Mom, and Dad, as well.
posted by
hazel_st_cricket
on April 2, 2009 at 6:28 AM
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I'm really sorry for your parents and for how all this probably affects you
You seem calm and very matter of fact about it, but just know it's okay to grieve the loss of a family unit as it was before...I wish you the best through this.
posted by
Ariala
on April 2, 2009 at 5:45 AM
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