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TAPS.
That certainly didn't sit well with me either, the idea that she, a stranger, knows me better than I know myself.
posted by
Talion_
on February 27, 2009 at 7:35 PM
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Kabu
She didn't mean it so much as an insult as gloating for supposedly figuring out my secret. Sometimes I wonder with the way society is today if we really have the right to privacy.
posted by
Talion_
on February 27, 2009 at 7:33 PM
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FormerStudentIntern
You know what they say. Great minds think alike.
posted by
Talion_
on February 27, 2009 at 7:30 PM
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It's Parts and Parts...
Part of me, grown out of some thing 'learned' at an early time, holds a judgemental belief, brings it out whenever deemed needed, to assess a moment, a situation.
Another part of me, having 'learned' other things, holds contrary beliefs...
Somewhere at the center, I, who am the source of both those parts, have my most current truth in hand.
One situation can trigger both parts and my self, and as each tries for dominance in how to react, act, feel... I experience all their cherished truths and feelings. I, my self, stifle those unruly parts like kids acting up in the car, but they are still there and will act up again most likely.
posted by
Ciel
on February 24, 2009 at 12:49 PM
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There's a reason she said that. This young woman probably saw you
as a charming put-together guy with a sense of fashion, good manners and faultless grooming, but if he wasn't hitting on her -- he must be gay. She's probably used to slobs.
posted by
Pat_B
on February 24, 2009 at 4:53 AM
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Interesting post.
Perhaps what really bothered you was that she would not accept your word of what you are or are not. That would bother me more than whatever she thought I might be. I don't much like for someone to keep insisting that I am lying, hiding something, denying something and insisting that they know otherwise.
posted by
TAPS.
on February 23, 2009 at 10:08 PM
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My immediate reaction to this great post is that she has a problem
what business is it of hers if you're Gay, straight or AC/DC. Does it change who you are? No you're a human being(very much masculine from reading you over the couple of years I've been here at blogit) and a person has a right to their privacy their life. I could keep writing but she's pissed me off big time so I'll just leave it at that.
posted by
Kabu
on February 23, 2009 at 6:33 PM
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Your beliefs for why she thought you were gay are spot on. I was thinking the same thing when reading your post.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 23, 2009 at 4:50 PM
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lustorlove
In any other day, a gay person had to hide it much better. Out of sight means out of mind. Yes, the world has changed, but we still have a long way to go.
posted by
Talion_
on February 23, 2009 at 3:56 PM
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TIMMYTALES
That's the thing. Had it been any other wide accusation, I would've handled it better, coming up with some smart-assed come-back. She pushed that button, one that I was sure didn't exist prior to this point.
posted by
Talion_
on February 23, 2009 at 3:51 PM
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Troosha
I frequently rage against the machine. With self-righteous glee I point out what's wrong with others, their philosophies, opinions, and attitudes. It's only right and fair that I aim my critical laser at myself. Sometimes I don't like what I find.
posted by
Talion_
on February 23, 2009 at 3:47 PM
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my daughter has a lot of gay friends, and can detect one the minute they come close to her, in my day we would of never even thought about gays. Boy how the world has changed
posted by
Lanetay
on February 23, 2009 at 2:23 PM
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Talion
There is no cure for ignorance. Maybe she was hitting on you? Me? Back in my carefree youth, I would have told her that I may be gay and asked if she was wanting an opportunity to make me go "straight".
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on February 23, 2009 at 10:24 AM
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Talion
The “not that there’s anything wrong with that” position can sometimes be tested and we are forced to revisit our true attitudes. I like, however, how you drew from this experience that the woman had probably never experienced a close, non-sexual relationship.
posted by
Troosha
on February 23, 2009 at 9:59 AM
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