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Sounds like a twisted situation
Especially considering that he hosts slumber parties with no children of his own. That is the last thing in the world that a normal childless man would want to do with his time, that alone is suspect to me. Now, I'm not condemning all co-ed slumber parties for young children, I know when I was young my mom sanctioned some and they were completely innocent of any sexual occurences. It was a bit different, though, I had a younger brother and two younger sisters, so we each just had our friends over. This sounds like the neighborhood pawn-off, which is strange to begin with, then you add in the element that you KNOW your ex thinks strangely about little girls. It definitely sounds like traumatic experiences waiting to happen, I would avoid letting Matt go with him at all costs!
posted by
calia14
on January 23, 2009 at 8:59 AM
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i do not believe in them either. say no.. he can spend time
in a different venue with his father
posted by
riri0322
on January 21, 2009 at 2:01 PM
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What a thing to have to worry about. Yuck, yuck, yuck.
Follow your heart and stand for what you think is best for your children no matter what.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 21, 2009 at 3:00 AM
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You've written it like it is, straight from your mind!
posted by
Straightforward
on January 21, 2009 at 12:31 AM
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No problem, MandaLee!
Just felt the need to check on you.
Take your time...I know how busy life gets.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on January 20, 2009 at 2:22 PM
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Sam...
He seemed truly sentimental about getting to see his son... yet this is the man that has been so deceptive (and he is good at it) and has gotten so much by me for at least 1-2 years of my life.
I find it hard to go by instincts because of that. Even if I feel the request is genuine....my mind tells me everything this man has done and still does to deceive.
Thank you!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on January 20, 2009 at 2:21 PM
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Afzal...
Thank you sweetie. You know how I value your thoughts so much.
I wish you were here.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on January 20, 2009 at 2:18 PM
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Norwood...
It is a shame that so much of this kind of thing goes on...isn't it?
While child abuse laws are definitely better than they were when I was a child, they are still far from perfect.
Thank you so much for your thoughts on this. He knows my thoughts on the overnight thing. I'm hoping he will neglect to call back now as is a usual habit of his for not dealing with things.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on January 20, 2009 at 2:17 PM
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thank you for your email. I am well and will write you when I am less busy
posted by
Amanda__
on January 20, 2009 at 12:36 PM
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I think it is important to keep the child safe and your instincts will let you know what to do! sam
posted by
sam444
on January 20, 2009 at 10:45 AM
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It's truly a very difficult situation . I think you should not let Matt be
in such company if all what you said goes around in the society there .
posted by
afzal50
on January 19, 2009 at 7:16 PM
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Sunny You need to do what is in the best interests of your child
I made the decision which to this day I feel is the right one, to get full custody of my son and allow his father only supervised access for the following reasons.
1. He threatened to take him to Nigeria and also told him to 'Shut the F#@k up you bloody kid', when he was a seven months old baby
2. He had a rough pub slut as a girlfriend and there is no way I will let a child of mine be around people who are drinking and smoking and maybe taking drugs
3. He wanted to use the child to punish me and I was afraid that he would hurt our son in an effort to get at me and maybe she would, who knows and why take chances anyway.
4. His associates and in other words I didn't and don't to this day trust him to take care of my son properly. He is a weak individual who gambles, drinks and smokes. His own needs comes before that of my little boy.
He has seen him once since January 16th 2005 and that was for my ex's birthday on the 23rd of April 2007. Since then a few phone calls.
If you gotta cut off the diseased limb to save a child, you need to do it. Frankly if I thought there was EVEN a HINT of the possibility of sexual abuse of my child NO WAY HOSEA would that child be going.
DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR BOY AND BUGGA THE CONSEQUENCES! There are a lot of sickos out there and they are very cunning.
posted by
Norwood
on January 19, 2009 at 5:22 PM
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