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Then she is doubly blessed.

posted by majroj on January 14, 2009 at 8:43 PM | link to this | reply

majroj
Yes, majroj, she was un-distressed.  Her husband has always had her back.

posted by johnmacnab on January 13, 2009 at 4:28 AM | link to this | reply

But was she un-distressed?
If so, someone's "got her back", and that's a damnfine thing to have when you're hitting the stops.

posted by majroj on January 12, 2009 at 9:26 PM | link to this | reply

TAPS
I'm sorry for bringing back unhappy memories, TAPS.   I hope I just shuffle off naturally, and not like my sister.  My late wife was given a 'deadline' when she was diagnosed with cancer, and she was aware up to her last breath.  That I don't want either.  I want to go the way my other sister went - in her sleep.

posted by johnmacnab on January 12, 2009 at 5:53 AM | link to this | reply

When my Dad's Alzheimers Disease was so bad that at times he couldn't even remember who he was, he would still sound so normal talking to people on the phone.  Then he would hang up and ask, "Who was that?"  Your post brought back lots of memories about my Dad's AD and dealing with it, and the sad feelings seeing him regressing.

posted by TAPS. on January 10, 2009 at 10:56 AM | link to this | reply

mneme
Thank you for that 'almost real' hug, mneme.  It cheered me up.   i don't know how my brother-in-law copes so well.

posted by johnmacnab on January 7, 2009 at 2:34 PM | link to this | reply

Pat_B
Thank you Pat.  I know you are having a horrendous time just now and my last few words will probably ring a loud bell. You take care!! 

posted by johnmacnab on January 7, 2009 at 2:31 PM | link to this | reply

Azur
There is no answer Azur, but you are correct about the ones left behind.  My sister is unaware, and probably will be....    Thank you for your comment.

posted by johnmacnab on January 7, 2009 at 2:28 PM | link to this | reply

Hi johnmacnab
this must be hard for you... I do have some inkling as to how you feel, having felt similarly helpless when  confronted with my mother's OCD, which had become very restricting for her in the years that I was away.  Sending you a virtual hug (((((((mac)))))))

posted by mneme on January 5, 2009 at 2:29 PM | link to this | reply

I am so sorry. To have someone there but not there is the worst.
I agree with your last few words. It's a bit like that around here these days, too.  Take care.

posted by Pat_B on January 4, 2009 at 11:46 AM | link to this | reply

I've no answer to this. I expect you helped your brother-in-law with your call. This is so much harder for those left.

posted by Azur on January 4, 2009 at 3:15 AM | link to this | reply