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Re: There are many others with this same issue
It's possible. I do get along well with my colleagues at school now. I do try to listen well, and that really works, once a conversation has started. But in between conversations, I get so anxious, I mostly stare at the floor, which helps to keep me isolated, whether I want to be or not.
posted by
mousehop
on November 18, 2008 at 4:54 PM
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Re: Well, you're an amazing writer, so take consolation in that...and like
Thank you. Your very kind. But I do find it hard to believe you're shy.
posted by
mousehop
on November 18, 2008 at 4:48 PM
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Re: I get like that sometimes
For me it's most of the time. Thanks for stopping by.
posted by
mousehop
on November 18, 2008 at 4:48 PM
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Part of my worry is that I also make other people uncomfortable. I do have social anxiety issues, and I've been on Paxil in the past. It didn't help. I think you're right, that this is a personality issue for me. I'm learning to live with it.
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mousehop
on November 18, 2008 at 4:47 PM
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Re: Hi Goddam Genius I can so relate with this
wow, scary stuff. My doctor won't trust me with Valium. For good reason.
Thanks for stopping by.
posted by
mousehop
on November 18, 2008 at 12:21 PM
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Well, you're an amazing writer, so take consolation in that...and like
Ammon, in social circles I usually ask the questions to take the attention away from me...(In fact, the other day I was being interviewed, and took over the questions within the first two minutes, LOL...I realized what I was doing and backed off and let the interviewer interview me.
I'm an introvert and have the same struggles you do, but unlike you, I overcompensate and "act" like the social butterfly I'm not. No one knows I'm shy as a result.
posted by
Ariala
on November 18, 2008 at 4:51 AM
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There are many others with this same issue
and the best therapy is to find them and interact socially with them. You will find out there are others who have it worst than you and you will thus gain confidence in your interactions, by reaching out to them and helping them with their similar affliction. Often there is at least one in every social event.
Intellectualism is loved by others who share it and envied by those who don’t. Display your intellectualism openly. Put on no airs. Don no masks. Just concentrate on remaining relaxed, calm, and unperturbed no matter what happens. Often I play a game at such social events that helps me and that is to see what I can learn from the people I’m conversing with or how I can help them. This turns the focus upon the other person and leaves you more relaxed. You never run out of anything to say because you always have questions to ask.
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ammon
on November 18, 2008 at 2:23 AM
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I don't care for those events at all. I am not all that sure that anyone "knows" what to say to anyone at those gatherings, they just smile or not smile and say the same old things everyone else is saying. How boring.. no wonder they make people uncomfortable. Here is an idea.. imagine them all naked.. and just nod your head a lot. You will be smiling (maybe).. always acceptable.. and you will have some fun with it. ~Peace, OTA
posted by
Blue_feathers
on November 18, 2008 at 2:17 AM
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I'm quite the opposite as i usually make everyone else nervous and scare some people quite a bit.
Sounds like you have social anxiety but forget psychaitrist/pills. You could try paxil. But I believe this is just your personality
posted by
mordent
on November 17, 2008 at 8:14 PM
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I get like that sometimes
posted by
shelly_b
on November 17, 2008 at 4:26 PM
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Hi Goddam Genius I can so relate with this
Which is hardly any consolation. I wonder how many others are out there posing with their brave face on this very minute. Surely more people than we imagine. If it were me I would take a half of one of my Valiums. I have a script of 5 mg tablets from my psychiatrist. I don't take them often if at all especially at full dose as they tend to make me sleepy but a half can really help me get through uncomfortable times. I have HUGE panic attacks when I have to go to the dentist. My mind sees way too many correlations with the abuse I experienced as a child. i.e. in a small room, a man is there, I'm in a chair, he reclines it, starts to inflict pain on me, I'm bleeding and I can't get away! It's just horrible. On intellectual levels I know better but still there is that part of me that doesn't understand. In order to make it through the appointments, other than a cleaning, I have a script for 10 mg Valium, and I tell you what, the difference is night and day. He could saw my head off and I wouldn't care!!! I wish you peace and strength and send you my support as someone who knows the feeling
that's you surrounded in love and support...
posted by
mysteria
on November 17, 2008 at 1:42 PM
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