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Re: Sira890
Thanks Wiley!
There are more than a few people who think I'm a bit nutty, to be so cautious about it. But then, I'm like this with most things--being spontaneous isn't something I'm good at, especially when it's something that's going to have such a huge impact on my life! Heck, I even hesitate when making "impulse" buys like gum or candy.
And yes, Pat's comment was excellent--as usual, she's full of great advice and wisdom!
I don't know about Gripe Water, but my dad used to rub vodka on my gums when I was teething...he said it shut me right up--and so far, I haven't had any negative side effects from the early-age drinking!
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Sira890
on May 14, 2008 at 8:35 AM
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Kabu,
From what I've read, it sounds like you were an amazing parent--your kids were lucky to have a Mom like you in their corner!
Thanks for reading 
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Sira890
on May 14, 2008 at 8:30 AM
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Re: Actually, there's a world of how-to manuals about how to raise kids.
Pat,
I don't know who Dr. Spock is, but he sounds like a nut-job. And for the most part, I think you're right--kids come pre-programmed to a certain extent, and parent's really just need to make sure they're nurtured, and have a chance to live their lives.
I suppose I turned out alright. But then again, I was adopted. My biological mother had the good sense to realize that she couldn't take care of me properly, so she gave me to a family that could. And I think that makes me one of the lucky ones.
Thanks for reading, and for the comments! I'm off to google Dr. Spock now...
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Sira890
on May 14, 2008 at 8:28 AM
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Sira890
That was a great post luv. Well thought out and I admire your caution about having a baby. I wish I'd done more thinking on it but then maybe I wouldn't have had any eh?
PatB had a great comment for you there luv, and I betcha she remembers a thing we used called; 'Gripe Water' that quieted 'em down when they were cholicky. I think it was booze.LOL Good luck with your thinking luv
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WileyJohn
on May 13, 2008 at 9:28 PM
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I think I was lucky when I had my babies. I was so young I didn't think about it ....I just had them and then muddled through. I did read books and follow modern trends though.
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Kabu
on May 13, 2008 at 9:07 PM
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Actually, there's a world of how-to manuals about how to raise kids.
And there are grandmothers, mothers-in-law, pediatricians, Dr. Phil, nosy neighbors, the church of your choice, social workers, schoolteachers, child psychologists, etc. There's a world of free (and useless) advice. Everybody has a theory.
There were times I wanted to strangle Dr. Spock who seemed to think once a person becomes a parent her entire reason for existing is to make a perfect world for the infant she brought into it. How's a kid who grew up with a mother as crazy as mine supposed to know what to do? Turns out they're not little lumps of clay that you can mold any way you want. Although you can mess 'em up if you're not good to them. Kids come equipped with brains and personalities and the natural desire to be and do and learn. It's not easy, but you turned out okay didn't you?
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Pat_B
on May 13, 2008 at 3:57 PM
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Re: Sira
LOL Naut! Sounds good to me!
posted by
Sira890
on May 13, 2008 at 1:41 PM
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Re: Tests
Azur, I take your point--it would be a difficult sort of system to regulate. And of course the government isn't infallible; just look at the number of horrible, yet licensed, drivers on the road today!
I love the suggestion of using the resources to educate and inform! There should be help available for people who need it, especially where new babies are concerned.
Thanks for reading, and for the great comments 
posted by
Sira890
on May 13, 2008 at 1:40 PM
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Sira
All we need is a SCREW! That's a Federal
Selection
Committee for
Responsible,
Elite
Wombs...
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Nautikos
on May 12, 2008 at 6:02 PM
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Tests
Life and parenting are tests in themselves. And they are tests that are not completed in a sitting but are ongoing. The license to breed idea comes up now and again. I don't think the government should be telling people when it's OK for them to have children. I don't think it has the infallibility. And who decides? People often talk about planning for children but although it happens naturally, it is not something that actually can be planned quite like applying for a firearms license, or taking a driving test. Sometimes it's hard enough to get pregnant, or stay pregnant, and when the baby comes, that's when everyone has more questions. And it is impossible to anticipate some of your questions, and feelings, about child-rearing until that baby is in your arms, or screaming for five hours.
I think it would be a waste of resources to test many people, and any resources should be delivered to education and to services, and care, so that people would know where to find guidance, and assistance to steer them through difficult decisions and trying times. A lot of people need a little help now and again. Well that was thought provoking.
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Azur
on May 12, 2008 at 2:48 PM
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