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Re: Tell her what I want in bed
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posted by
asurvivor58
on January 23, 2014 at 4:14 PM
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posted by
asurvivor58
on January 21, 2014 at 12:35 PM
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Tell her what I want in bed
I used to counsel men on sex through a tantric business I had. I heard over and over that their women were not interested in sex. If you start from a place of love then it gets easier. There is a game that is tantric. You grow with this game into intimacy. You each get an hour (either the same day but preferrably a few days apart).
When it is your hour you get to (respectfully, honouring her) tell her what you want. No judgments. You could ask her to massage you sensually, or to dress up, or to meet you in a public place and pretend to be a stranger, etc. Whatever turns you on but.. maybe not the kinky stuff right away. It's about developing trust. But beware. She gets to do the same next time.
She may ask you to prepare dinner naked lol. Or just take her to the movies and talk dirty. Whatever she is comfortable with. The more you do this without judgement, in a playful way, the easier it gets to open up.
I always felt it was one of the saddest parts of my marriage, that we couldn't talk about sex openly. It took years for me to do that. I started out by exploring my own needs after my marriage. If a woman is having sex and doesn't even have the slightest idea what turns her on, she may find sex confusing or worse, boring.
posted by
asurvivor58
on December 17, 2013 at 6:04 AM
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katzs
posted by
richinstore
on October 25, 2007 at 8:38 AM
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Tell her what I want in bed? I don't think so.
"I'd like to watch Match of the Day" wouldn't go down to well...
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on October 25, 2007 at 3:03 AM
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