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araceli
Your whole comment was very thoughtful and you said a lot of truth. I have to improve in a lot of issues but I also have to be easier on myself, that is something the Psychologist said. Tim did love me but it didn't work in a large part because of him...
As for the sexual factor, I erm... already know about what you are talking about. I guess what I crave more is the connection and affection that comes with sex.
I am so sorry you aren't going to be able to blog here anymore. I wish you the best. Whatever happened to your dogie?
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 5, 2007 at 8:00 AM
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What I mean is
You don't need a man to relieve yourself, there are other ways where you can take care of it on your own. As embarrassing as it may sound, we are human, and the release of these endorphins are a necesity part of health,and well being.
posted by
araceli
on October 5, 2007 at 7:52 AM
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I'm Cutting out.
If you listen to psychologists, you will always be the problem. Take it from me. I have been in counselling since my dad was shot before me at the age of seven. I have also worked very close to these professionals as a mental health techIII. and in nursing homes,and hospitals. So issues with hitting....Yes you know its wrong,but you do it as a defend mechanism...you have anger bottled up. When you get upset you can learn to hit a pillow or go for a walk. you finding the wrong guy? That is not true you have to see, that in today's society,its hard to find someone to care.Too many women putting it out, and men have been desensities to respect women. even when you find a man with good qualities, still it doesnt mean can love. Don't blame yourself, and don't settle for any one you don't approve. As for mommy issues. You have to comprehend, that your mom, didnt know how to address you. she wasn't taught how to be a parent.you'll learn this when you have kids of your own like myself.There fore try not to harbour resentment. once you understand you'll stop wanting her approval. You are not needy or broken, please understand that what you had was a slip up. you married and it didnt work out,at least he loved you enough to marry you.From here on. you can see that a relationship is hard work, and it takes both to work at it and put effort. so don't put all the blame on you. As for the not getting any. you don't need a man to relieve yourself of those yearnings. Thanks to other people I learned how to take care of this trouble. my trouble is feeling loved by some one.Finding some one that will take me serious, and so I tell you. You are probably beautiful... so don't feel frustrated. My mom told me once"la muerte y el velo del cielo baja" meaning you and I will be tired blue in the face, but if marriage is not for us, we can't go against god's will. Take care, I will no longer contribute here, because I cant' afford it. but if you read my first entries in the voice in the crowd you'll see, we almost have the same fit.Good luck.
posted by
araceli
on October 5, 2007 at 7:46 AM
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Whysper
Yes, I am pretty sure he is at least 95% human
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 5, 2007 at 6:53 AM
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Mademoiselle
I think it was worse having him read it to me. LOL
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 5, 2007 at 6:52 AM
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opheliablue
Perhaps but I have been known to reveal too much too soon so that's a problem too and not too healthy.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 5, 2007 at 6:52 AM
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You have a human psychologist?
Wow, I had to settle for an extra-terrestrial, all the humans were inferior. My new list is narcisism, go figure.
One thing to add to your list. Get an oil change. Everyone needs one sooner or later.
posted by
Whysper
on October 4, 2007 at 1:42 PM
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At least you don't have to say the list out loud. (Although, then again, I guess you will be discussing it afterwards.)
Oh, well. Most of those are pretty common issues, anyways.
I hope that someday we will be able to
put away our fears and prejudices
and just laugh at people.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on October 4, 2007 at 1:36 PM
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I think it's good that you can say it and put it in the list... a lot of people would be repressing it or something... it's more healthy the way you can talk/write about it..
posted by
opheliablue
on October 4, 2007 at 1:27 PM
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TAPS.
Or maybe completely different issues
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 12:59 PM
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riri0322
You are right, LOL
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 12:59 PM
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le_divorce
No need to be embarrassed. Your psychologist is only human and is likely trying to work on his/her own list which is probably very similar to your own.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 4, 2007 at 10:27 AM
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it's your life-- no need to be embarrassed-- don't you know he has a list
too!!!!!
posted by
riri0322
on October 4, 2007 at 10:05 AM
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afzal50
LOL
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 8:23 AM
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Interesting List !
posted by
afzal50
on October 4, 2007 at 8:17 AM
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richinstore
LOL, I do suppose I am a big girl now...
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 8:17 AM
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le divorce
you're a big girl now... sexual issue is just one of the other issues you have to take care of. Consider it as one of your biological needs and try to overcome it..OOPs.. easier said than done... so sorry. You take care. and a
for you.
posted by
richinstore
on October 4, 2007 at 8:14 AM
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White_Elephant
It is probably true that most of the other issues are connected to the low self-esteem... as for my ex's approval it's just something that I haven't been able to control, when he treats me bad, I feel awful when he is being nice, I feel better. It's ridiculous, and I got to banish that for sure.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 7:21 AM
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Le Divorcee
Good Morning
... I think you'll find that if you work on your
"low esteem" you'll be able to do most of the other changes - you gotta pick yourself up, dust it off and start a new chapter! ... and why do you have to ask for your ex-husband's approval - he's not called an
ex for nothing you know
...
posted by
White_Elephant
on October 4, 2007 at 7:18 AM
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