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Re: starforyou, good to see more than a rose by way of comment :-)
Regarding the Duke Case. There is much need for women who need the protection against rapist to cry out against the oppression of the civil court system. I was raped by a rich kid, and the way that works out is that you become the one on trial if you report the crime. The tale is a bit more complex if you happen to be me, and happen to be working in a less than credible business at the time of the event. The bottom line in this that I agree there is always more to most stories than meets the courts. We are being held hostage by the way we deal with rape cases in this country as a rule. And that has been going on for quite some time. Justice should not be for sale. But it is, and it happens EVERYDAY in this country. Look around and you will not have a hard time finding a woman who knows better than to report a rape against her. The reason is fairly straightforward, it is because she does not want to be on trial! She knows that she will be on trial, and she knows that she will have to be the one that is judged. This is why most rapes go unreported in this country, and when a woman does have the courage to break the silence of a rape she should be taken seriously. Chances are that any good shrink can sort out the details and tell us all if it happened or not, and the way we present that information to the courts must protect the rights of victims and acknowledge them as human beings. Rapist know this game, and so do the lawyers who let them get away with it, and we need to hold accountable those judges and those lawyers who have let rapist and criminals rape our legal process.
If we begin to believe that this is possible, it will become possible. It all begins with the belief that it can change. The rape of a woman, or a child must be taken seriously in this country. We have let rapist have free rein to do whatever the fuck they want to the victims of the crimes for so long that we forgot to ask permission to go fuck ourself!
That is just my take on it- I don't see any easy way out on rape cases. Except a change in the way we present the information to the courts and a sensible approach to dealing with the REALITY of not dealing with it all. Leaving this situation unchecked only makes for a more hostile and dangerous place for our daughters, mothers, and the people who we do not want raped to live in.
Dealing with rape, and processing the crimes, and approaching the way the people who do rape are dealt with in a sensible manner is the only thing that makes any sense at all. The urge to rape comes from anger, it is not a sexual thing, it is a response to a angry feeling. People who rape need and want help, they take more pleasure than we credit them for getting from the process we put a rape victim thru in courts.
I never reported a rape, and looking back it was a mistake. I encourage every woman to at least call someone and report the events and record them as soon as they happen. The other problem with rape is that because it goes unreported, often it is the case that the victim never gets the help he/she needs.
It is a grooming process for many cult like cultures to rape their women over and over, this does go on every day in this culture. I know that many people will not believe this to be true, but rape is a way that many cults use to keep women silent, or to scare them if they have spoken to an outsider.
Rape is a form of abuse, and in my experience and in the experience of many of the women who I have met who have survived the conditions of the sex/slave trade in this culture there is no form of abuse that makes a woman feel worse.
I learned to keep quiet about my abuse, and I learned the rules from very early on. I also learned that if I spoke to an outsider that I would be punished. I was well groomed for keeping secrets, and this would have all worked out to turn me into a CIA agent or get me killed from a drug over dose.
I can only tell you this, I have worked in industries where women are USED to babysit diplomats in this country. I know better than most the value of a fucking secret, and I have had to keep quiet about a lot of stuff or people might have been hurt. Then there were other times when I had no fucking idea what was real and what was not anymore because I was in so much pain from the process it took to get me there.
Rich brats rape people all the time. They get away with it all the time too. Our government knows that when diplomats come over here they will want to experience the fun of being around the American girl, but they also know this presents a very big risk, because if one of them breaks a rule we are going to have a mess over here in the media about someone from another culture that we put boots in their ass raping some drunk American girl.
So, we do our best to make sure those brats are kept on a short leash. But from time to time a brat breaks the fucking rules and he rapes a woman just because he wants to. He does this because he has no respect for women, and despite the efforts that are made to manage rich brats that rape we can not seem to stop it all the time.
They still seem to think that there is some reason why they should be allowed to rape a woman and then make a mockery of our courts while it rapes her. It is not something that can never get better, but without a very real discussion about how we manage the sexuality of everyone (the rich brats and the poor) we will never come up with a system that works to protect everyone.
The time is long overdue, and when people stop acting as if we do not sell justice as if she is a whore on the corner we will begin to solve the rest. It will, I think take some open and honest conversations to work and re-work the policies out about how government and sexuality should interact.
Again, we are living in a changing world, and those who adapt to those changes will lead that world the rest will watch. I think it is very important to start showing that this ideology of freedom can be fixed. To prove that is important if we are to expect the rest of the world to give a flying fuck about what we have to say about anything for the next 100 years.
That is just my humble opinion.
Best,
Tammie Anderson
Summer 2007
posted by
Harvardgirl_global
on July 5, 2007 at 1:12 PM
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starforyou, good to see more than a rose by way of comment :-)
posted by
Straightforward
on April 27, 2007 at 9:16 AM
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excellent.
posted by
Amanda__
on April 27, 2007 at 8:40 AM
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IN BETWEEN, THERE'S A SAFE PLACE..
posted by
star4sky5
on April 19, 2007 at 8:34 PM
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Thought inducing post .
posted by
afzal50
on April 18, 2007 at 7:02 PM
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