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ms bradock

Thanks. It is an exercise in love.

posted by avant-garde on January 28, 2007 at 3:27 AM | link to this | reply

richinstore

Yes, and our society is primarily geared this way. It is little wonder that depression and insomnia are huge dilemmas for many.

posted by avant-garde on January 28, 2007 at 3:27 AM | link to this | reply

Julia

Thanks. I enjoy your posts as well.

posted by avant-garde on January 28, 2007 at 3:26 AM | link to this | reply

Avant,

Nice post with words that ring true. Letting go is difficult to do...

Blessings...

 

posted by ms_bradrock on January 27, 2007 at 2:03 AM | link to this | reply

avant-garde

too much expectation may lead to disappointment.

posted by richinstore on January 26, 2007 at 7:15 PM | link to this | reply

avant--

another very nice post. Your words have a way of settling around me, like a soft blanket, very much poetic prose. Interestingly enough, I started writing a post last night on letting go. Haven't finished it though. see you soon!

posted by Julia. on January 25, 2007 at 10:40 AM | link to this | reply

Whacky

Thanks so much. Are you thawing out any there? We have come under an arctic cold spell here.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:51 AM | link to this | reply

faholo

Thank you! Blessings to you, too!

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:50 AM | link to this | reply

appleworks

Any sage would iterate that the answers are within the person posing the question. It is tricky business to help another look within himself. The very pointing out lends itself to dependency.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:50 AM | link to this | reply

sannhet

Yes! That is precisely what I am alluding to.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:49 AM | link to this | reply

malcolm

I am seeing that now, only on a smaller scale. I am determined to give my kids as much power (through self-knowledge and knowledge of the intracacies of the world) to be able to be successful at anything. It's hard to step back and allow the mistakes and disappointments to occur, but they are essential to learning.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:48 AM | link to this | reply

mneme

You are right. The letting go of 'how' is the hardest part.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:47 AM | link to this | reply

Ciel

I'm beginning to see and accept that more and more, especially in myself.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:46 AM | link to this | reply

Troosha

Of course. Positive expectations is faith in action. What I am referring to here is the expectation of the past repeating itself, and the way we self-sabotage it by fearing it.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:45 AM | link to this | reply

Rcky

Your present husband must be very understanding. Thanks for reading.

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:44 AM | link to this | reply

bel

Precisely!

posted by avant-garde on January 25, 2007 at 3:39 AM | link to this | reply

Deep thoughts as always!

-^..^- Bo is smiling!

posted by Whacky on January 24, 2007 at 7:50 PM | link to this | reply

What powerful words the last paragraph contains, Avant!

I identify with this post this week! My light switch was broken, but God fixed for me. Blessings on you and yours! faholo

posted by faholo on January 24, 2007 at 6:32 PM | link to this | reply

avant

and so he held onto the porcupine, chasing what gave chase. i am thinking of a parable that goes along with your write.

some expectations are for answers, and those who turn their heads seem to justify the want by turning in know. i have no respect for that agreement when the signposts are everywhere.

posted by appleworks7 on January 24, 2007 at 6:17 PM | link to this | reply

Avant -

But it is not such a peculiar world for those who have let go. It is heaven on earth.

posted by sannhet on January 24, 2007 at 3:43 PM | link to this | reply

I think your last sentence

is especially apt. I know that, though I want to be there for our children, one day I really must be content with them knowing that I'll be there whenever they want me to be. Leaving Ivan on the underground yesterday was as awful as leaving him in Reception class when he was three. But I do try to smile more than I frown! Thanks for your generous comment on my blog; I really appreciate it.

posted by malcolm on January 24, 2007 at 1:27 PM | link to this | reply

avant-garde

I think about "letting go" more as letting go of struggle - as in the serenity prayer. Patience is a virtue too. It takes time to learn that...

posted by mneme on January 24, 2007 at 12:53 PM | link to this | reply

I think the key is keeping expectations realistic:

To be observant and accepting, that people are who they are, including myself.

posted by Ciel on January 24, 2007 at 10:31 AM | link to this | reply

Avant

I don’t think we can let go of “expectations” entirely – certainly not the ones we have of our self. It might result in an uninspired mind and heart. And failure needn’t result in discontentment but rather it can fuel us to search, reach, or love just a little bit better. But I understand what you’re saying about “letting go” so I’ll concede that often our expectations are unrealistic or misguided thereby setting us up for disappointment. An open mind is a freedom and the smile you refer to. Good thoughts – good post.

posted by Troosha on January 24, 2007 at 8:35 AM | link to this | reply

It is easy for me to let go of things or situations...it's the letting go

of loved ones that I have a problem with. For cripes sake I still keep in touch with both of my ex-husbands! Good words of wisdom here Avant!

posted by RckyMtnActivist on January 24, 2007 at 7:00 AM | link to this | reply

The unknown is always scary

but it can be filled with wonderful discoveries as well.

posted by bel_1965 on January 24, 2007 at 6:18 AM | link to this | reply