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Just keep trying to reach her Jemms
This is so very hard, especially when you can't just hop on over and comfort her. She might be avoiding the computer so maybe just leave her little phone messages every day, to let her know you love her and are there for her.
I hope she is able to pull out of this soon, hang in there 
posted by
DivineDiva
on January 26, 2007 at 4:23 PM
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I hope she feels better soon...
can you go to her house and force her to get some sun?
posted by
homegirl
on January 24, 2007 at 9:27 AM
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Keep being there. Don't try to cheer her up, just offer support.
Sometimes when someone is depressed the very fact that they fail to be 'cheered up' feels like another failure. I live with a clinically depressed husband and my best friends are both suffering from different types of depression. Ask your Higher Power for help, whomever you pray to, ask for guidance to help your friend. Maybe all she needs is to feel that you still love her, even in her deepest depression. I assumed the female, if I'm wrong, then you get the idea. Be well, love. Hang in there.
posted by
Schatz
on January 24, 2007 at 9:22 AM
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Jemmie
I'll be thinking about you and your friend. This circumstance hits very close to home for me.
posted by
Presley
on January 24, 2007 at 7:50 AM
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Presley
Sadly, no, I can't drive to her house. She's on a different island. I could take a half an hour flight then drive another half an hour, but I'd have to wait until I get paid again even to do that.
posted by
Jemmie211
on January 24, 2007 at 7:49 AM
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PecanSis
Yes, I have been in blackness myself because of my worry for her, but she's also been there for me at my worst times--like when I lost Daddy! I can't forget that! Never!
posted by
Jemmie211
on January 24, 2007 at 7:47 AM
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kidnykid
You do have a point, but I can't leave her. I swore I'd always be there for her. I'm not going to go back on my promises.
posted by
Jemmie211
on January 24, 2007 at 7:46 AM
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Jemmie
Is she in driving distance where you can land on her doorstep? I realize this is a bit manipulative, but could you provoke a phone call by leaving a message for her of an urgent nature - something to lead her to think you need her to call for something that pertains to you? This is how I've had to handle my brother on many occasions. It's manipulative, but it gets him to call me back so I can talk to him and find out how to help.
posted by
Presley
on January 24, 2007 at 5:42 AM
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Yes, My Jemmie...I do know you too well
I don't want to see you dragged into the blackness again. I love you.
posted by
CatLadyintheAttic
on January 24, 2007 at 5:37 AM
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Jemmie...
I know other people have said this before, but it bears repeating. You can only do so much for your friend. I know you care for her a great deal, but in the end, you can only do a certain amount for her.
posted by
kidnykid
on January 24, 2007 at 5:35 AM
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Jadelynn
I've been there too, so I know something of what she's going through. I just wish I could be with her on Maui instead of stuck on another island.
posted by
Jemmie211
on January 23, 2007 at 10:40 PM
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I've been on both sides before.
I've dealt with depression, and I've also had friends dealing with it. It can be tough to talk about but equally tough when you don't know what's wrong with your friend. It's great that you're there for her; hopefully she will come to you and let you help.
posted by
Jadelynn
on January 23, 2007 at 9:51 PM
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afzal50
I certainly hope so! Thank you!
posted by
Jemmie211
on January 23, 2007 at 6:44 PM
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PecanSis
But . . . but . . .
*sigh*
You know me too well.
posted by
Jemmie211
on January 23, 2007 at 6:43 PM
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Trust God and he will protect your friend . Take care.
posted by
afzal50
on January 23, 2007 at 6:35 PM
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Do what you can to help your friend...
but remember, whatever happens with her, you did what you could. You have a habit of blaming yourself...I don't want to see you do that if she doesn't come out of the dark.
posted by
CatLadyintheAttic
on January 23, 2007 at 6:18 PM
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