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Wiley--
what you say is true, but I had to "study" (in a manner of speaking) what was occuring for me, because it hindered my ability to be here. So I could look at it, or I could leave Blogit. I chose to look. Thanks for the visit!
posted by
Julia.
on January 15, 2007 at 5:28 PM
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Julia
I think sometimes things just 'happen' between people and there is no understanding for it luv. I don't 'study' these people, I just move on. Good post luv.
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WileyJohn
on January 15, 2007 at 5:20 PM
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posted by
Amanda__
on January 15, 2007 at 3:44 PM
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Moon--
well, I'm certainly willing to consider the possiblity that it occurs for a reason other than past life experiences (because as I said, a closed mind is a waste of a perfectly good lifetime, lol)...but for me, this explanation makes the most sense so far! Thanks for the visit and comment!
posted by
Julia.
on January 14, 2007 at 3:59 PM
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katray--
absolutely, it goes without saying that one can experience this sort of thing offline--probably MORE so, I think! Thanks for dropping in!
posted by
Julia.
on January 14, 2007 at 3:50 PM
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Not silly at all; not at all. I understand this completely. I have similar positive and negative experiences regularly. I think it is past life stuff. MoonSpirit 
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syzygy
on January 14, 2007 at 3:49 PM
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nautikos--
I'm going to have to do some chewing on that comment. LOL. Thanks though, for the elaboration!
posted by
Julia.
on January 14, 2007 at 3:49 PM
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Whinge--
Whether online or in our physical world, we're always going to meet people who "being who we are just doesn't cut it." We can't be anyone else, though...so as you say, it's best to try to move through the emotions. I sincerely appreciate your visit here!
posted by
Julia.
on January 14, 2007 at 3:48 PM
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Not silly at all Julia, I can relate to this from experiences offline too
Understanding leads to resolution and wisdom gained, by God's guiding grace, which paves the paths of liberation chosen...hopefully...:)
Posting of hope - Thank you.
posted by
Katray2
on January 14, 2007 at 1:38 PM
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Julia,
it is pretty clear that we do have a 'sub-conscious' life, where memory traces are 'imbedded', and are often 'altered' and 'connected' with other such 'remnants' in ways that are not necessarily 'rational.' (I put all of these terms in quotes because they are overly simplified, but they'll have to do.) . Also, we are never fully conscious of the various sensory inputs impinging on us. It appears that some of these inputs, we can call them 'impressions', 'vibes' or anything else, connect directly with the subconscious mind, 'triggering' a response that cannot be expressed in words, because only the conscious mind can 'speak'. Instead, the response is strictly 'emotional', i.e. either pleasurable or not.
Thus, when you meet someone you don't like at 'first sight', it is as the result of previous experiences that you may not be aware of at all, and that may have nothing to do whatsoever with that particular person.
And when the feeling is 'mutual', typically it originates with one of them, with the second one quickly 'picking up on' the fact that the first guy doesn't like him, which then creates the situation I was referring to.
If I were to treat this as a research project, I could possibly unravel the 'history' of the dislike existing between the guy I was referring to in my previous comment and myself, but it ain't, and I really don't give a damn, since that case is of absolutely no importance or consequence to me, I just used it as an example...
Okay?
posted by
Nautikos
on January 14, 2007 at 7:48 AM
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I get the same reaction to certain people, I try to make an effort on my
part to 'get over it' in case I'm doing someone an injustice by just getting an 'off' vibe from them.
Funny though, I also get feelings of unsurety from some people when it comes to me leaving comments on their blogs.
Oh, I don't know, sometimes it's much easier in real life, you have a better sense of who doesn't like you, so you can just be civil and on your way. I hate putting upon people to put up with me and be polite to me if I'm not their cup of tea.
I'm not selling myself short here, as I do think I'm an alright person, but have to leave room for the fact that being who I am just doesn't cut it with some people.
posted by
CringeintheUSA
on January 14, 2007 at 3:39 AM
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Nautikos--
well then, since you admit the feeling, what do YOU believe is the reason for it?
posted by
Julia.
on January 13, 2007 at 6:36 PM
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Julia
interesting post. I have occasionally experienced a visceral reaction to someone's physical presence, without any apparent reason, but it has never been terribly strong. There is a fellow who uses the same indoor track that I use, and we just don't like one another, although over a period of three or four years we have not exchanged more than an equal number of words, if that. Whatever the reason, I doubt that we have met in any previous lives...
posted by
Nautikos
on January 13, 2007 at 4:51 PM
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whacky, ciel, richinstore and word.smith--
thanks for all very much for dropping in!
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Julia.
on January 13, 2007 at 12:11 PM
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avant--
yeah, it happens. As I said to Troosha, there could be an entirely different reason why, but it's important to look at the "feeling" of the situation.
posted by
Julia.
on January 13, 2007 at 12:10 PM
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greenfields--
Yes I do feel better. But it wasn't so much about forgiveness as it was about finding a way to replace negative with positive.
posted by
Julia.
on January 13, 2007 at 12:08 PM
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Ody--
thank you, I think it was too.
posted by
Julia.
on January 13, 2007 at 12:07 PM
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Presley--
My first reaction is usually to think of running away. And then I think it over and come up with a better plan!
posted by
Julia.
on January 13, 2007 at 12:06 PM
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Troosha--
It is true that there could definitely be another explanation for that feeling--what matters most is not figuring out the "why," but transcending the feeling to allow a more positive one to emerge.
posted by
Julia.
on January 13, 2007 at 12:06 PM
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Good for you, Julia!
posted by
word.smith
on January 13, 2007 at 7:26 AM
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Julia
I think you might be onto something here. I have felt instant dislike for certain people, without any valid reason. The chemistry is just off.
posted by
avant-garde
on January 13, 2007 at 3:49 AM
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Hey.
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richinstore
on January 13, 2007 at 1:42 AM
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posted by
Ciel
on January 12, 2007 at 11:48 PM
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Good for you!
You did good!
posted by
Whacky
on January 12, 2007 at 9:31 PM
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Well done
I am sure you feel better. Forgiveness is the ultimate gift we can give - to oursleves and others.
posted by
Greenfields
on January 12, 2007 at 7:23 PM
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That is a great accomplishment. That you could conquer hate.
posted by
telemachus
on January 12, 2007 at 3:48 PM
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Julia
And this is why I think you're a keeper! You've got such a mutable spirit! I'm so glad you
tried another way and didn't leave this little community for good!
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Presley
on January 12, 2007 at 3:28 PM
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Julia
Sometimes we’re not to sure why we have such a strong reaction to criticism or judgment. Depending on the source, sometimes we can just blow if off and other times it hits us to the core – as you said causing even a physical reaction. It’s the latter scenario that always stops me cold. “Why?” I ask myself. “Why do I care what this person thinks and why is it bugging me so much they don’t like me?” Driven, I suspect, by the inner belief that we are fundamentally good people, we can’t imagine why someone would dislike us. Is it because we crossed paths in another life – I don’t know. I just know that every now and then we have an encounter (be it cyber or face to face) and the “vibes” just aren’t good. It’s best to just blow it off and move on as you seem to have done.
posted by
Troosha
on January 12, 2007 at 10:57 AM
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LOL I am not sure I have that much energy
as my cat at the moment is trying to climb the wall because she is chasing a lazer light spot.
posted by
bel_1965
on January 12, 2007 at 10:44 AM
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Mia--
Very often they can change naturally or in this case, they can change with conscious effort.
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:43 AM
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bel--
yeah but are you up for the challenge? LMAO.
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:42 AM
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Julia
Isn't it amazing how feelings can change over time...
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2007 at 10:39 AM
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LOL!
Yes, I should probably start posting via my feline personality and they will believe it all LOL!
posted by
bel_1965
on January 12, 2007 at 10:37 AM
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thank you Ariala.
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:37 AM
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bel--
you know, I'll bet it wouldn't take much for us to get bloggers to actually believe it! What fun that would be, eh?
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:36 AM
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Good for you for reaching this conclusion! Much health & peace to you!
posted by
Ariala
on January 12, 2007 at 10:26 AM
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LOL! Let them wag!!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on January 12, 2007 at 10:25 AM
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afzal, thanks for dropping in.
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:24 AM
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bel--
Maybe we're actually the same person using two Blogit accounts? LMAO. That will start the rumor-mongers tongues wagging...
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:23 AM
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ariel--
ok, thanks for the info! I can now say I learned something today!
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:22 AM
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Nice post .
posted by
afzal50
on January 12, 2007 at 10:18 AM
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Ok now enough is enough
you go make Furby let Rocky go NOW!!!! Rocky is my friend...how is it that you have a cat with the same name as my Raccoon and a cat with my name? Hmmmm?
posted by
bel_1965
on January 12, 2007 at 10:17 AM
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Julia
It's a Jewish word ( Yiddish or Hebrew?? ) Means one who's dishonest, greedy, criminal, disreputable .. that kinda thing.
posted by
ariel70
on January 12, 2007 at 10:16 AM
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bel--
Furby has him cornered in the living room and won't let him get out until he cries "uncle" which you KNOW he will never do!!
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:16 AM
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hahahaha
It's not really important who but as for Furby....how is Rocky doing today?
posted by
bel_1965
on January 12, 2007 at 10:09 AM
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bel--
I know people are naturally going to wonder "who," but that is really not what was important here, it's not relevant to the point I wanted to make.
Besides, you already know that Furby and I love you!
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:07 AM
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ariel--
it did indeed hurt me more than them, in fact, I am quite positive they were oblivious to how I felt. I don't know what a goniff is, though...something not good, eh??
posted by
Julia.
on January 12, 2007 at 10:05 AM
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And I thought you were going to confess your secret love for me!
Since I don't do screenwriting, I am glad it was not me and honestly I have no clue who this might be.
Past lives can come back and bite you in the butt!
posted by
bel_1965
on January 12, 2007 at 9:57 AM
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Julia
Altho' one can't help it, such feelings hurt you more than the object of them.
Know what you mean tho'. Very well! I've taken an instant, atavistic dislike to many people in the past ; one can almost feel psychic hackles rising.
Can't say that I've ever been proved wrong about such people. They invariably turn out to be goniffs.
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ariel70
on January 12, 2007 at 9:57 AM
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