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jacenta, that's sweet
thankyou.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 10:49 PM
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Wiley, thanks for the men's eye viewpoint
it's good to hear the other side. I've been completely supportive of his job, and I've done my part to help the finance too. I've helped do physically demanding DIY over the years too. I've managed the children and a job alone, many times, on occasion up to a month at a time. Most of this has been with no family backup, and I've never given him a hard time about the job, only about its effects when he's been hard to live with. All of that is forgotten, unacknowledged, undervalued and now I'm supposed to be willing to start fresh. I could have, once, but now I'm not so sure..I'll figure it out one day.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 10:47 PM
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mneme...
hugs!
posted by
jacentaOld
on October 25, 2006 at 10:42 PM
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Taps,
sometimes I think I can but most of the time I doubt it. I've been through a lot, so has he. I don't have the control here, he does. when it gets to me, it gets to me, but most of the time I just keep busy. what else are you to do when you can't go home and you can't manage here on your own? Thank you so much for commenting.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 10:30 PM
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mneme
Well sweetiepie, TAPS said it like it was for me too luv. That part was my fault, but I needed 3 jobs at times to feed the children. Still, that alone is terrible for you as it was for her. Divorce freed both of us up.
posted by
WileyJohn
on October 25, 2006 at 10:16 PM
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mneme, When love progresses/regresses to that point, its mighty hard to turn it around and liven things up. It takes a special person to even want to try. Its not impossible and its worth every effort but, I didn't make it when it was my turn.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 25, 2006 at 8:02 PM
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Thanks Azur
I've had plenty of practice, easier on paper sometimes. I'm okay though, still getting up and getting on with the everyday. As you do.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 3:19 PM
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Mneme
you express your feelings in a raw effective way
posted by
Azur
on October 25, 2006 at 2:56 PM
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Mneme, I am full of good ideas, did not you know???
It might not put him in a good mood, but you might feel better. I suggest you go for a run after you do this and may be not come back till night time or the wee hours of the morning. I feel slightly better, but it has been a very peculiar night.
posted by
marieclaire66
on October 25, 2006 at 2:35 PM
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I hadn't thought of that MC..
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 5:29 AM
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put an ice-cube in his shirt, that will wake him up.
posted by
marieclaire66
on October 25, 2006 at 4:52 AM
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Goodnight Blanche, it's been nice
I'm amazed you're even up at 5am.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 4:49 AM
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I like it, especially when I get to go on house calls with him to nice
houses!
posted by
Blanche.
on October 25, 2006 at 4:49 AM
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Marie-Claire
more like dynamic indifference..!
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 4:48 AM
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Mneme, I'm getting very sleepy and it's 5 am here, I think I'll say bye!
posted by
Blanche.
on October 25, 2006 at 4:48 AM
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Balnche, that must be heaven
- like having a partner who's a chef.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 4:47 AM
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Mneme,
sounds like my ex-, democracy in inaction.
posted by
marieclaire66
on October 25, 2006 at 4:47 AM
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We've wokred it out. He's in furniture sales, so he's into design anyway.
posted by
Blanche.
on October 25, 2006 at 4:46 AM
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Blanche,
I think I would have had trouble if I'd chosen that too..
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 4:45 AM
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It is wrong. Was wrong. I don't know why he didn't get that at the time - actually two times, two houses. Don't get me started.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 4:43 AM
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Good. i did it the other way. I painted one wall a bright citrus orange
when we first moed in together. I still hadn't adapted to the idea of being a couple and I thought of this as "my' apartment. He was shocked and horrified, and I had to realize that it's "our' apartment. He had a point. I still hear about that.
posted by
Blanche.
on October 25, 2006 at 4:43 AM
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Well, he knows better now.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 4:42 AM
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That you can't choose the paint or the drape? That seems wrong.
posted by
Blanche.
on October 25, 2006 at 4:41 AM
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Sad but true, Blanche
there are a lot of wives like me who spend too much time on their own. that's why I do post-grad studies, and he didn't like that either. a guy thing. some guys anyway. he''s used to it now.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 4:39 AM
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That's very sad, Mneme
posted by
Blanche.
on October 25, 2006 at 4:36 AM
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