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MandaLee
I know....it's not.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 11, 2006 at 10:36 AM
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sunny, its not easy.
posted by
Amanda__
on October 11, 2006 at 9:45 AM
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Bhaskar
If you haven't read Nickie's joke
HERE, you have to go read it. I busted a gut last night laughing so hard at this.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 11, 2006 at 7:55 AM
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Bhaskar, thanks.
I have tried to get out of the relationship with him in the past, but he always finds a way around it.
He only accepts what he wants to believe, no matter what I say. It will take him seeing to accept it, I think.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 11, 2006 at 7:53 AM
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Sunny
Don't get into something too sentimental or something. I'm not qualified to comment, but as a woman you can assess the situation better. I'm not really good in practical life. But wish you all good that I can.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on October 11, 2006 at 7:43 AM
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Bhaskar
My son's father is not happy with my love for someone else....so he makes my life miserable with his neediness
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 11, 2006 at 7:25 AM
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Sunny
O Gawd No! I'm not having any problems, because despite my liking so many girls, no one seems to fall for me.So I guess until then I shall have to be content with what I have. One in hand is better than two in the bush! Hahahaa. By the way how can you have problems Sunny? That's just not done!
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on October 11, 2006 at 7:21 AM
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Bhaskar
Are you having problems? I thought you were happy?
I have less problems because I am not married to him, it would be fairly easy for me to get away from him...accept for my son.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 11, 2006 at 7:12 AM
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Sunny
In my custom you cant call quits. Now tell me whose problems are bigger? Mine or your's?
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on October 11, 2006 at 6:54 AM
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afzal
I know you have had problems also.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 11, 2006 at 6:43 AM
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I faced a problem and said good bye to my first wife although
I din't just divorce her because I thought that I should not leave her stranded . In my custom and law I can take a second wife without divorcing my first wife and this can happen upto four . So when I can have four wives at a time then why divore any of them if they want to remain as my wife .Acccordingly my situation is much better than yours .
posted by
afzal50
on October 10, 2006 at 11:36 PM
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Hi Shelly!
Everything is not so well...but I'm glad you'll be blogging again soon!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 9:10 PM
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Hey Sunny...sorry I haven't been around. I'll be blogging again soon!
I hope all is well.
posted by
shelly_b
on October 10, 2006 at 9:04 PM
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Ann and Ben
Thanks
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 7:01 PM
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Rumored
That's exactly what I'm thinking...but of course, he would disagree with this logic...strongly.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 7:00 PM
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star4you
Yes, I'm trying to do that. LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 6:59 PM
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Change is always difficult. The sympathy, empathy, and other emotional strings are attached. Best wishes for your happiness.
posted by
A-and-B
on October 10, 2006 at 3:47 PM
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I havent been through it, but I totally agree with you, Sunny...
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..I would definitely say, "time to move on."
posted by
Rumor
on October 10, 2006 at 3:45 PM
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ok, you decide what's best for you
posted by
star4sky5
on October 10, 2006 at 1:45 PM
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OFFBEATS
Thanks! I appreciate you're support on this!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 11:24 AM
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Whysper
I think I understood all of what you are saying, and I agree with you. The main factor is the lack of anything changing, the lack on his part to hold any kind of conversation with me because not only don't we have similar interests, but he doesn't seem to have ANY interests at all, and is content just living with his wife and not working towards anything for us to be together, even if it were possible.
The one I am in love with right now is more of a selfless relationship between us.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 11:23 AM
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Sunny
Absolutely you are not a bad person...
posted by
Offy
on October 10, 2006 at 11:20 AM
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OFFBEATS
It didn't take me 5 years to figure it out. But there was no one else involved and I didn't feel like breaking it off was eminent. LOL. Does that make sense? Does that make me a bad person?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 11:18 AM
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AbsolutelyPositive
Thanks...this helps put things in perspective, as I have tried with little success in the past to end it. He's always gotten around it, but there was never anyone else involved till now.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 10, 2006 at 11:16 AM
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Sunny
Not lately I haven't been, but I don't think it would take me 5 years to figure out..at least I hope not~
posted by
Offy
on October 10, 2006 at 11:16 AM
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Should I quit, or order the ribs and shrimp?
So, things aren't perfect and life could be better if I had been born independently wealthy(although I'm sure my mother would have figured out a way to blow it all before I was old enough to take possession).
If you love someone, you should be willing to work harder to make that relationship all that it can be. It's never really about, what's in it for me. It's about how can I do things to make it better.
It's those moments when we want to give up, that we have to look for ways to flip to the other side and do whatever it takes to make the relationship stronger. Put more into you and whichever and move away from that yearning desire for take, and move back to give.
If you love someone, the more you give to them, the happier you feel the more you appreciate that smile on their face and the glow in their complextion. You will be happy, they will be happy, good things return from good things given.
posted by
Whysper
on October 10, 2006 at 11:15 AM
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Yes I have been through something like this
I ended a relationship after 4 years and I have never regretted it. I could have ended it after 4 months, but the guy was so upset when I suggested it, I stayed with him for 4 more years.
posted by
AbsolutelyPositive
on October 10, 2006 at 11:13 AM
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