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ahhh that is so sad....to hurt his feelings like that....bless him.
some people are so un-thoughtful!
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 28, 2006 at 1:00 AM
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I'll never understand how low and petty some
people can be -- but I've seen such stupid behavior all too many times. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of knowing it had any effect whatsoever on me or my child -- next time I saw her, I'd give her the usual cordial greeting and go on about my business. I'd tell my son (no matter how hard it was to do it) that his name was left off the list by accident, that his schoolmate and the mother didn't intend to hurt his feelings, and then let it drop. No sense giving her more power over your day and your mood than she deserves. If you make a big thing of it, your son will suffer longer and harder. Life isn't fair.
posted by
Pat_B
on June 27, 2006 at 6:10 AM
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Hey, 8-ball...I hope you're enjoying your vacation! Miss ya!!!
posted by
shelly_b
on June 26, 2006 at 3:18 PM
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Poor little guy.
That's pretty typical for most people, though. It's a hard lesson for him to have to learn so early on. Jerks!
I hope he's feeling better after your weekend at the cabin!
posted by
Spudnuts
on June 25, 2006 at 8:02 PM
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Okay, 8-ball,
After reading more of the below comments, and seeing that there is the chance that this "parent" pulled such a stunt to hurt you, another adult, let me add this: Shame on her! It doesn't get lower than doing that kind of crap. Here's hoping it's a misunderstanding.
posted by
BlackPearl1
on June 24, 2006 at 4:01 PM
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8-ball,
What's this???! (Picture my eyebrows wrinkled and furled). What an inconsiderate, immature thing to do... Shame on such grown folk. Okay, now that I've gotten that out, is there any chance that it might have been an over sight? A genuine mistake? No, huh. Well, you just let me know. I've been known to be reallly creative at leaving mean messages on people's answering machines. Of course, I'd have to dig into my mental archives, as I'm a much more mature person now. Anyway, hopefully, it won't do any real damage to your son and his t-ball buddy's friendship. Kids are more resilient than adults, thank God. Try to have fun at your cabin. :)
posted by
BlackPearl1
on June 24, 2006 at 3:48 PM
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Drakke
Thanks for the tip, your son is very lucky to have you, you have the answers for everything.
posted by
8-ball
on June 24, 2006 at 7:51 AM
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Passion
I am scared too. I don't think it would be wise to stir the pot wider plus we are leaving Sunday for a whole week and it will be far from our minds.
posted by
8-ball
on June 24, 2006 at 7:50 AM
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Brett
Yes and I have a small townhouse and just invited a small group of kids and this child was invited because they are friends. It was really mean to include everyone but him.
posted by
8-ball
on June 24, 2006 at 7:48 AM
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WritersBlok
Yes your right I have learned a lot and changed myself from my kids. Aren't kids great?
posted by
8-ball
on June 24, 2006 at 7:47 AM
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Wiley
It is a tough situation he is still not invited but I think we will just ignore this day and have fun. Thanks for reading.
posted by
8-ball
on June 24, 2006 at 7:46 AM
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I would ask...
if I could do it without getting angry or accusing or anything. Just want to know why my kid was left out when everyone else was invited. I thought they were friends, am I missing something? If you don't know why, then it seems like it might have been a mistake, or an assumption that you knew he was invited...or something????
There's a good Junie B. Jones book where she doesn't get invited to a birthday party and ends up having a much better day...but she didn't actually LIKE the kid who left her out. ("Junie B. Jones and that Meanie Jim's Birthday") Reading the books does help my son get a handle on some of the tricky social situations kids face.
posted by
DarrkeThoughts
on June 24, 2006 at 7:38 AM
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I think you have every right to tell this rude parent
Exactly how much it hurt your son! Don't be scared to address the situation.
posted by
Passionflower
on June 23, 2006 at 7:40 PM
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Awful! If you're going to invite the team, invite the TEAM!
Otherwise, opt for a small party and no one gets hurt because everyone's not going. I'm sorry this happened to your son.
posted by
brettnik
on June 23, 2006 at 11:15 AM
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It so sad when
adults act so petty. They could learn a lot from kids. I hate it when others hurt kids like this and there really isn't much you can do to take the pain away.
posted by
WritersBlok
on June 23, 2006 at 10:49 AM
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8-ball
How hurtful, I certainly would ask them though, you deserve an answer
posted by
WileyJohn
on June 23, 2006 at 10:26 AM
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Bel LOL
I'll try that instead if we don't get a phone call tonight. I'll call her and tell her off I think she wants to start something with me. That's what some of the other mothers are saying anyways. I just want this to go away and everything be great again.
posted by
8-ball
on June 23, 2006 at 9:57 AM
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Thanks fourcats
you are right they will be in their lives for a while and I will take the high road out. My son made him a birthday card and sent it to school to give to him today. So we will see what happens from there.
posted by
8-ball
on June 23, 2006 at 9:54 AM
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Thanks Bonnie
He is five but turning six in a couple of months. He is really smart for his age well at least I think he is.
posted by
8-ball
on June 23, 2006 at 9:51 AM
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8-ball
Maybe a way to approach this is: You know my son is confused as to why he wasn't invited and quite frankly, so am I. Did something occur that I don't know about? If he behaved badly at anytime, the only way I can correct that is if I am told about the incident."
At that point you are a concerned parent, concerned that your child is behaving as he should and if the mother doesn't have a good answer for you, tell her to go blow it out her a** and take your son out for a special day!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 23, 2006 at 9:50 AM
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Whacky you are too kind
I think she wanted to hurt me for some reason that I've yet to uncover. My other friend is going to the party and she said she will uncover the truth if she can.
posted by
8-ball
on June 23, 2006 at 9:49 AM
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Bel
Yes I would like to know why too but I think I would look worse if I asked her why there must be a reason but my son does not know and I don't know. I'm confused.
posted by
8-ball
on June 23, 2006 at 9:47 AM
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Good idea Shelly
I think I will take him to the park and the petting zoo. I don't know why she would do that I must of done something but I can't think of anything.
posted by
8-ball
on June 23, 2006 at 9:45 AM
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and that should read "forgive OUR trespasses"
posted by
fourcats
on June 23, 2006 at 8:52 AM
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oh, and btw, i left a little note for you on my dog trainer blog.
posted by
fourcats
on June 23, 2006 at 8:51 AM
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yeah, i think a non-confrontational approach would be best. "my son really
enjoys the time he spends with your child and would love to come. may he attend?" or something to that effect. poor little guy. if there was some way of easing life's lessons but that's how it is. you don't learn how to handle disappointment and stupid people until you're disappointed by a stupid person.
i would personally choose the high road if your son still can't go. i'd have him send a card wishing his friend a great day, see you at the next game. no time like the present to learn about "forgive out trespasses as we forgive those who trespass" and all that. they're going to continue to be in each other's worlds for awhile due to age/schooling so keeping things friendly would be a good thing.
posted by
fourcats
on June 23, 2006 at 8:50 AM
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Poor little guy! Distraction is always good. Act as if it doesn't matter
and that there are bigger and better things to be done. Tell him you had made plans to do something funner anyhow. Kids can be so cruel to each other...and dealing with the parents can be even worse at times. Do whatever it takes to make him feel "worthy" again....and if all else fails...get drunk and call the *****! hee hee! good luck! How old is he anyhow?
posted by
BonnieM
on June 22, 2006 at 8:55 PM
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8-ball, there is no reason to hurt you. Call her and find out it was just
a miscommunication. I would start the conversation very positive. Say, like, how well their child is doing on the team. Then ask about the party.
posted by
kingmi
on June 22, 2006 at 8:41 PM
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I agree with shelly! Also maybe you should tell them how you and
feel. Unless you think they wanted to hurt you. Hope you feel better soon.
posted by
Whacky
on June 22, 2006 at 8:36 PM
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I would confront the mother and ask her WHY
There was no reason for her to hurt your child like that and I personally would want to know why.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 22, 2006 at 8:35 PM
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That is so rude!!! Maybe on that day, you could do something extra
special for your son?
posted by
shelly_b
on June 22, 2006 at 8:32 PM
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