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Pat
Thank you so much! We try to cover the kids as best as we can, when we can. When they are with us, we make sure they have school clothes, etc... to take home from stores that can't be returned in their hometown (I am not joking, we found out the hard way that this was needed).
Carl also sends a check to the school every month for extra events and field trips when he is notified of these things (again, we have to be careful or the kids never see it).
We do our best to make sure the kids are covered no matter what the issue is with the mother...hopefully they will realize that Carl is truly doing his best. Of course, the fact that his daughter moved back here as soon as he got home from Iraq made it pretty clear she could see the difference even at 12!
Thanks Again!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 13, 2006 at 8:36 AM
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Carl is lucky
to have a woman like you at his side. And you are lucky to have him, too. Don't worry about the nasty stuff his ex tells the kids -- they've got eyes and ears and they know. If she keeps on with the bad mouthing, she'll turn her kids against her, not against her target. Maybe he can do the extras directly for them, not through their mother, and when it comes to child support, etc., do exactly what the legal agreement is and no more. She clearly does not appreciate it.
posted by
Pat_B
on June 13, 2006 at 8:31 AM
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Blanche
I sure did!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 13, 2006 at 5:44 AM
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Wiley
There comes a time when you know you ahve done all you can. They know where you are if they need you and all you can do is be there when the time comes.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 13, 2006 at 5:43 AM
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bel 1965
I can relate to all of this kiddo. I was Carl once but I had custody of all my five kids.
And I paid the mortgage, her rent, the shop rent etc. etc. and then she wanted an increase in support for herself.
Then she turned the kids, a bit at a time over the years, until now I have a sort of relationship with 2 of my 5.
Oh well, I'll never understand how she did that, but I learned to accept and back away finally. They were all adults when I put them out into the world. Hang tough you guys.
posted by
WileyJohn
on June 12, 2006 at 9:16 PM
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Bel, now I get it.
Boy, you really need that chai, don't you?
posted by
Blanche.
on June 12, 2006 at 7:45 PM
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Factor
It is a relief! I am just glad the situation is taken care of and hopefully OVER with!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 6:40 PM
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Kingmi
I will keep good thoughts for you as well. It's sad that these people that there are children in the middle of all of this. One would think that if two people cared enough about one another to have a child with, they would care enough about that child to do all they can to ensure good relationship for that child with BOTH parents. Sadly, it does not always work that way.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 6:36 PM
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bel, congratulations! It seems she needs "Children in the Middle" again!
posted by
kingmi
on June 12, 2006 at 6:18 PM
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Bel,
I am glad to hear that things are sorting out properly. I know it is still stressful, but it is good to see decisions being made for those in the right!
posted by
FactorFiction
on June 12, 2006 at 6:17 PM
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Yeah, bel, it is.
posted by
MaggieMae
on June 12, 2006 at 6:00 PM
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You know ladies, we are all too close to not ever meet up
I'm thinking we might need to plan a weekend at some point!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:59 PM
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I'm in Ohio, 100 miles east of Cleveland.
Sorry, bel, didn't mean to steal your thunder! hahaha
posted by
MaggieMae
on June 12, 2006 at 5:58 PM
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Maggie
I keep hoping she will jump off the Macinac Bridge! Granted she is too self serving for that, but it's a nice fantasy when she does stuff like this!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:57 PM
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OH HELL Sturgis!!!
I live in Michigan....right down I-94 a bit! Girl, we have to find some time and meet halfway or something!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:56 PM
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bel, that lady needs bitch slapped. Carl is just getting his llife back
together and that lady tries to mess him up like that. You had good cause to be upset. Well, thank goodness all turned out well.
posted by
MaggieMae
on June 12, 2006 at 5:56 PM
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Maggie and Bel...we would have TOO much fun. By the way...how far
are you two from Illinois? I'm 2 hours south of Chicago.
posted by
Sturgis
on June 12, 2006 at 5:55 PM
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Yeah, Sturgis, I think we should all get together for a slumber party..hehe
posted by
MaggieMae
on June 12, 2006 at 5:53 PM
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Sturgis
It would be awesome!!! I always have visions of the group of us getting tossed out of a coffee house LOL!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:50 PM
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That is so cool! I'm glad he enjoyed it. I love this website, but
everyone is miles away. Wouldn't it be cool if we could all get together for a "get together"????
posted by
Sturgis
on June 12, 2006 at 5:48 PM
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Sturgis
I remember that. I used those photos in one of the video's I sent to Carl. He asked about the places he didn't recognize and I told him...those are from people who support you! He thought we were all crazy but you know he still has that video and showed it our daughter just recently.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:47 PM
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Bel...why, the sounds of sleeping could be considered a blessing.
I trulyl, TRULY am happy for you. I remember sending you photos on the 4th of July. You've always had my support. It's just too damn bad we didn't live closer to one another. Could've driven down and hand delivered the photos.
posted by
Sturgis
on June 12, 2006 at 5:44 PM
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Whacky
To say the least I am very relieved. Thank you!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:43 PM
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Sturgis
Thank you! I seem to recall you were one of the folks who made me smile. having him back home, even if he is already asleep because he didn't get much last night and then had a 6 hour drive home, it's good to hear that sound coming from the bedroom!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:43 PM
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Thank goodnes it turned out all right!
posted by
Whacky
on June 12, 2006 at 5:42 PM
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Amen to justice NOT being blind. Bel, I feel like I know you so well.
(Hey, that rhymed). I'm so glad you're willing to share yourself and Carl with us. I do enjoy your updates and I'm so glad Carl is FINALLY home with you.
posted by
Sturgis
on June 12, 2006 at 5:38 PM
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