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Blanche
You and I are of the same opinion. Seriously, if I thought that this wedding wasn't going to put them in debt and LEAVE them there it would be one thing. He has a $10.00 an hour job, she has another year of school and is not working...HOW do they expect to pay on the credit card debt they already have, pay rent, insurance, etc... and pay off a loan as well? I don't get it!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 13, 2006 at 7:21 PM
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Bel,
It sounds like the differences between you and your friends really became obvious after the men came back. Your priorities naturally went back to your husband and family and theirs is still a little less mature. I don't understand the whole big wedding concept.
It's one thing if the bride's family has the money, but these days when couples are usually older and paying for it themselves, it seems like such a waste of money that could be better spent on a house, furniture, something real, not just the big fantasy production.
posted by
Blanche.
on June 13, 2006 at 5:17 PM
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Getting a loan for a wedding
is like buying a big old fantasy. It is a suspension of reality. I never understand why people can't think of the hangover to follow.
posted by
Azur
on June 13, 2006 at 3:42 PM
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Bel,
So true, things do change.
posted by
Amanda__
on June 12, 2006 at 12:50 PM
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Friday afternoon at 5 p.m. is an insane time to have a wedding.
Surely these people know that ALL the guests will have to miss a day of work in order to attend. That's not only stupid but it's rude.
I guarantee you that the groom isn't in favor of most of this. He's just being dragged along by the woman and her mother. At least that's the way it normally is.
posted by
Passionflower
on June 12, 2006 at 10:29 AM
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bel_1965
People evolve over time and friends come and go for a variety of reasons because of it. Growing apart, drifting away, whatever you want to call it, it happens to everybody. It's difficult, but what can you do? You move on.
posted by
Talion
on June 12, 2006 at 10:13 AM
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Factor
I do too.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 9:51 AM
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Immaturity...
not much you can do but sit back and hope they grow up...
I hope that baby stays safe.
posted by
FactorFiction
on June 12, 2006 at 9:49 AM
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Tigerprincess
If her main concern was about more than the wedding, I suppose it wouldn't seem so odd to me. You have to understand that there are alot of surrounding factors. He had actually suggested eloping, taking the money and having a great honeymoon, then having a nice reception when they got home. She cussed at the young man in front of a room full of people over this and then stomped off. Had your husband suggested you elope because he could not wait to marry you, would you have agreed? I suspect you would have probably said yes, I doubt you would have humilated him in front of a room full of people. As I said, she has her priorities not quite straight. A beautiful wedding is nice but a marriage should last a lifetime and not hinge on that one day.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:55 AM
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My husband, and I actually had to take out a loan for our wedding, 3,000.00, and that was for a bare bones reception.
posted by
tigerprincess
on June 12, 2006 at 5:50 AM
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Sturgis
I think we have all tried to recapture what we had last year and at least for me, it's not there. We all have lives and are moving on in our own ways.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:07 AM
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Passion
I suspect you are right. I had never heard of taking out a loan for a wedding before, I always thought you simply went with what you had and that was it. To make matters worse they are having the wedding on a Friday night to cut costs and it's scheduled at 5PM which means most of the guests are going to have to either take the day off or leave work early. I know for Carl and I we can't afford a lost day of work and given where the wedding is located(distance) he would have to take the entire day off in order to be there. We just can't do it. The whole thing is just mind boggling for me. And yes, I am afraid you are right, I expect at this rate the divorce will come before the debt is paid off.
posted by
bel_1965
on June 12, 2006 at 5:05 AM
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Bel...such is life. The girl who is jealous had your utmost attention
while your hubby was away. She's now been reduced to a smaller role in your life. I don't say that in a mean way she's just obviously having difficulty adjusting to her new role. You've certainly done nothing wrong. This is just life. Hang in there. I'm glad you have Courtney.
posted by
Sturgis
on June 11, 2006 at 10:43 PM
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I really hate to see young couples go into debt to pay for
An expensive wedding. Usually, the divorce comes along way before the wedding debt is paid off.
You're changing and evolving. Your values and principles are changing. I don't see you as the type of person who would really want to spend time with someone superficial and selfish.
posted by
Passionflower
on June 11, 2006 at 9:37 PM
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I think I will stay in my little
cow town! We can pull out the grill and have any kind of party we want!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 11, 2006 at 9:12 PM
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Bel... welcome to NY.... LOL... that's about the lowest you'll find at a
big wedding hall reception place for a Saturday night wedding. It's insanity, I tell you.
posted by
-blackcat
on June 11, 2006 at 9:07 PM
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Blackcat
$80.00!!!! Geez, what are they feeding them?
posted by
bel_1965
on June 11, 2006 at 8:58 PM
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things definitely change....
btw... you should see the weddings in this area. Most cost over $80/head. Yeah, you figure that one out! It's pure insanity.
posted by
-blackcat
on June 11, 2006 at 8:51 PM
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