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Thank you very much for your input, faranya!
Where is it that you live, anyway?
posted by
SpitFire70
on June 3, 2004 at 8:50 PM
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Right On!
Where I live, the records are inaccessible to either party unless they both register with the passive reunion registry. Then our benevolent government will institute a search and place the parties in contact with each other. Meanwhile, we search, and die without ever meeting our blood families. Or they die just before we find them.
The excuse used is "confidentiality". Only problem is that birth mothers in our region have NEVER signed any papers that ensured confidentiality; they were given no such "official" promise. Many searching adoptees are 30-50 years old, for goodness' sake. What good do sealed birth records serve anybody now?
I'd better stop or I'll rant, too. I have my own adoption blog, which will grow by degrees over the next while. If we don't speak out, who will? Good for you!!! ~ faranya
posted by
faranya
on June 3, 2004 at 9:24 AM
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TeddyP,
I completely understand your frustration and no, it isn't fair to the ones who are left to only wonder. Wonder where they "came from" or what others share their flesh, blood, traits, and medical history. No, it isn't fair. I can only feel the aspect on the other side as to the ones who gave up their own either due to giving them a better life or those who forced to do so. I guess I can respect their anomosity, however, their anomosity is not always of
their own choice either. Thanks for the comments and best of luck to you, too.
posted by
SpitFire70
on June 3, 2004 at 2:09 AM
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I want to know why they don't just open the damned records. Who are they protecting? Who asked for their protection? Are we not intelligent enough to handle truths about ourselves? Do we not deserve to have access to files which may contain medical information that might be of some help to us or another member of our families...do our family members who were adopted into another Life not deserve access to medical information about us? The people we are not allowed to see without some insane struggle go through this Life with our blood in their veins! Maybe they eat the same things we do; share interests, habits, desires...
My situation is far from the Heart-wrenching nonsense that so many others live through. I just want to find my half-sister. And my niece. If they are not under the dictates of some witness protection program, why can't we attempt a meeting without all the red tape? Say what they will about privacy, protection, welfare; etc., etc. ...I have blood relation out there somewhere. I want to meet the members of my family who were given to others to be raised under another name. I want nothing from them but that they know that I exist and want to become acquainted with them if they share that same desire.
posted by
teddypoet_TheGoodByeFade
on June 3, 2004 at 12:44 AM
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Crabby is driving yer g'dang band wagon!!!! It is ridiculous... and the
laws are just not evolving quickly enough. You deserve to know everything there is to know.... for yourself and your children or children to come. Keep on venting!!!!! Crabby and many others are listening!!!!
posted by
Crabby
on August 24, 2003 at 8:37 PM
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