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Rame
That was me an entire year of our relationship. But I was taking hit after hit and enough became enough. A good women can really hurt you if you do her wrong. I thank you for your advice. I do listen. And I hope you are right.
posted by
cosy
on October 4, 2005 at 5:25 AM
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Cosy,
Believe me, when your one TRUE love really comes along, you and he will both know it. People who are in love, really and truly in love do not treat each other the way he did you and you, in turn, did him. When the two people are really in love, they want only the best for the one they love, what that person wants is what you want, whatever makes that person happy, is what you want, when you have an argument or fight, you never, never ever say hurtful things to each other because, even though you are disagreeing, you still love each other. When you truly love someone, you always put that person and his/her well-being before you own. When you both do that, then you know what you have is the real thing.
posted by
RAME
on October 3, 2005 at 3:07 PM
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Usualsuspect
If you would only know how much in the way he is...it wouldn't be funny. I think its my fault too though. I allow it and still hold on for some reason. We've never been able to be just friends...so it makes it even more awckward...thank you for the support....you definitely know...I can tell. I'm glad to hear you two can be friends...and yes, we both were at fault...perhaps I was maybe more so than him...how do you make that up? I don't think I can...
Thank you.
posted by
cosy
on October 3, 2005 at 10:00 AM
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Cosy-
I recently went through a divorce and I understand what you mean about the finality of it all...it is weird. We are better friends now than we ever were married and we can both be big enough to own up to the mistakes we both made and try not to repeat them, but it is hard feeling as if you may have failed. The important thing to remember is that you can't get to the person who really loves and cherishes you when you're ex is standing in the way...good luck and feel better.
posted by
UsualSuspect
on October 3, 2005 at 9:48 AM
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Quirk
I know...but I got a horrible confession two days before valentine's...all my suspicions were true. It broke my heart to know he lied all the times I had directly asked him...he should've told me right then and there not two years later. There are too many resentments between us...it's very complicated. And I hope you are right about the love part
posted by
cosy
on October 3, 2005 at 5:59 AM
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fwmystic
But what would we do without love?? I have little regrets and yes, he did love me but sometimes love isn't enough...thanks from the heart for commenting
posted by
cosy
on October 3, 2005 at 5:54 AM
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FactorFiction
There is alot more to it...on both sides. Thank you love...
posted by
cosy
on October 3, 2005 at 5:49 AM
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CoSy
I'm over on my bloggs checking out comments. I keep finding the most lovely thoughts from you. Thank you SO much. I really need the love as you so clearly know. If there is anyone that I could be telepathic with she would be someone like me, like you.
Sheesh CoSy, you really touch me. You make me feel valuable which is very important for me because I think I am an undeserving, lowly yuck. I work now in this area. You take the time to encourage me....what a heart you have... Sparkly Diamonds (((((((((CoSy)))))))))
Super Mooochies To You
You don't have to worry about love by the way. I can tell that you will have your pick of the finest things in life, including love... 
posted by
mysteria
on October 2, 2005 at 9:40 PM
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Hey--you know what?? I think there has to be more than one or two "true loves" for everyone--so get back on the horse and find him! But filing for divorce on Feb. 14th--ouch!!
posted by
Julia.
on October 2, 2005 at 5:12 PM
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This proves love is worse than heroin!!!!
You know he's no good for you, you know he doesn't care, and still you miss the good old days which where ... tell us exactly when the good old days were? I hope to God my youngest daughter never falls under the love spell. Love sucks!
posted by
fwmystic
on October 2, 2005 at 4:17 PM
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Hmm seems there is a lot more to this... but take care of yourself and don't give in to any behaviors that are bad for you. Time...only time helps some things...
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FactorFiction
on October 2, 2005 at 1:23 PM
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Militarywife
oooh don't I know it. Thank you for the well wishes...I just don't see myself in that "new" life...but I will soon, won't I? I hope...love Cosy
posted by
cosy
on September 30, 2005 at 1:40 PM
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cosy,
The shock comes from the finality of it all, the end of something that once brought happiness, the not knowing the future, the letting go and knowing that it is over. It probably feels like 'this can't be really happening to me.' You have my love, you know. I really know, what you are going through right now is so difficult and it hurts me. Hold that precious little son of yours' to your heart and know that life sometimes plays twists and turns that are very surprising. Again, I send you blessings from my heart!
posted by
jacentaOld
on September 30, 2005 at 1:39 PM
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Ariel
you don't have to thank me for what comes so easily to do with someone like you...of course I will be here when you need me and so are many other's...
About letting go...we have...I have...he has...and we seem to always end up together no matter where we turned. He asked me out to dinner...I said no...I know he loves me and I know I love him, yet where are we? Soon to be divorced, isn't that an irony?
Thank you ariel for giving me support...love you.
posted by
cosy
on September 30, 2005 at 1:39 PM
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Even when it is very obvious that the relationship is over
It's still very hard to have a legal stating that to be the case. Healing never comes overnight, but it does come in time. I wish you the best on next leg of your journey and you new life.
posted by
Bel_
on September 30, 2005 at 1:33 PM
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Cosy
Altho' I've always thought, and believed that the true test of true love is to let the loved one go ; to death, or another, parting is invariably hard. There's no such thing as a quick, easy divorce.
And that jealousy that one feels is so stupid and so incomprehensible, isn't it?
I must thank you even more for giving me your support and friendship while you are no doubt in an emotional turmoil. That was very selfless of you, and I appreciate it very much. Thank you
posted by
ariel70
on September 30, 2005 at 1:32 PM
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Jojostar
I am dreading the day...I don't know how to not burst out crying in that courtroom...I simply wonder why? Why did it all go so wrong? But, yes, time does heal all wounds...although the scar is there to stay. Thank you love
posted by
cosy
on September 30, 2005 at 1:29 PM
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Oh Cosy!
This is so sad! It must be such a difficult time for you. I've not been married but I did find the love of my life and lost him. I just felt stunned, and desperate and it was so strange that the world kept going around while I was in such despair. I hope time will heal your wounds!
posted by
jojostar
on September 30, 2005 at 1:25 PM
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