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Man, Mayb
This is pretty horrible stuff. I hope you don't hear from your stalker again. That's pretty scary.
posted by
Joe_Love
on August 25, 2005 at 5:43 PM
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I've had a similar situation on a different blog site. Someone who I have very clearly pushed out of my life, and then he suddenly found me and started coming on to my friends on that site. Its frustrating, and difficult. If it happens again to you, find out how to block his IP address from your site. That seems to be the only solution...
posted by
Dreyma
on August 23, 2005 at 8:28 AM
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ola, bellisima
posted by
benzinha
on August 23, 2005 at 2:33 AM
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We probably were MayB...
...at least I know I was/am? :)
posted by
ginnieb
on August 22, 2005 at 8:42 PM
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Krisles, we all need some nonsense in our lives ... but there's nonsense and nonsense. I guess that makes no sense
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:15 PM
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Avant-garde, I agree that hiding is not the answer. In fact I think it is best to be straightforward and I feel better that all is now very clear. Thank you for your kind comment
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:14 PM
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MayB
Thanks for this post....I learned so much. I had no idea there was such a world within....what a bunch of....stuff!! It's just nonsense....keep on keepin' on....you do it so well!
posted by
Krisles
on August 22, 2005 at 4:59 PM
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Original Influence, it is often more entertaining than TV
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 4:25 PM
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MsVision, I think it is possible to reply from the heart without telling the world our personal details and vital statistics. In fact those details don't matter at all as long as the words are from the heart. Re stalkers: yes the blogit staff warn and remove such people. Most of the people here are community-minded and do consider the feelings of others. I realize too that people may not know how it feels until it happens to them. It is an insidious thing
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 3:24 PM
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NCwriter, it is mostly good. Sometimes other things like this get in the way
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 3:16 PM
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mama.dragonfly, thank you.
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 3:15 PM
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Pat B, I don't give out details readily either. It takes me a while. Sometimes we trust and then are let down.
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 3:14 PM
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Ariala, I was quiet as I thought loud bloggers would blow my cover....
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 3:12 PM
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mayb
the annoying people here are few and far between. i've had a little taste of what you talk of, and i can only say that i empathize with you, but you can't hide because of it. you only hold yourself back. keep up the good posts.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 22, 2005 at 2:13 PM
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What gave it away to me months ago the word "Quiet." I knew how you
disliked LOUD LOL
posted by
Ariala
on August 22, 2005 at 2:09 PM
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Scoop, don't worry about it. I started out trying to be different to keep the pests at bay. I thought you might think me foolish to return. I probably was.
I sent you an email
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 2:07 PM
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Scriber, it's a shame flybaby had to be swatted. I recall you commenting once, "who the hell is flybaby?"
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 2:06 PM
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I can't believe you're flybaby, one of my favorites.
posted by
scriber
on August 22, 2005 at 1:49 PM
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Mia Ella, it is funny isn't it? I had some faithful readers who used to comment regularly who never made the switch. Sometimes I wanted to wave my arms about and say "it's me, it's still me. I'm over here."
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 1:43 PM
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Symphony, you are a true friend ;-)
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 1:41 PM
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Blogitics is a funny business Dave Cryer. SilverMoon7, thanks
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 1:38 PM
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May
I had no idea you were Beachbelle ...how funny, I read her but never read you...and you were the same person....lol....I must be insane...Or you had a good cover.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 22, 2005 at 1:36 PM
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GinnieB, I can't believe that either and yet it took us ages to meet. We were probably shy. You're lucky not to catch the No.1 bug. It's dangerous but I escaped
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 1:36 PM
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Majroj, I liked the map idea.
Things do happen inadvertently sometimes...that's life
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 1:34 PM
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You are great....
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 22, 2005 at 1:29 PM
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Blogitville is full of all kinds....glad you are still here.
posted by
Original_Influence
on August 22, 2005 at 7:46 AM
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Thanks for providing some insight into the risks associated with blogging. When I read a post I like to respond to it from the heart,however I guess that there is a fine line you must draw when blogging to protect your privacy and identity. Most people I have read so far seem really community minded and supportive. I wonder if there is anything that Bloggit or the Bloggit community can do to protect people from these kind of situations arising?
posted by
MsVision
on August 22, 2005 at 7:33 AM
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Blackcat, yes it can be scary and it can happen to anyone if someone has gained your trust and something changes.
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:41 AM
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JJ Wilde, I don't look for slights but I can't miss torpedoes when they whizz by ;-)
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:35 AM
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BrightIrish, thanks a lot. I realise that I probably confused as many people as I informed. Sorry about that
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:34 AM
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Sassyass64, strange that someone should email you about it. I used this account instead of the other not in tandem.
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:32 AM
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Caelia, I have been reading your posts. Don't worry about your rant. Most of us go through a similar reaction when we arrive. Yes I agree that it is best to have a code on things such as how we refer to others, an unwritten understanding
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:30 AM
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johnmcnab, I don't know why it would matter to anyone else. It was behind me or so I thought
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:28 AM
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FactorFicton, it is best to miss the commotion. Anyone with kids knows that ;-)
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:26 AM
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timmytales, thank you. I like things to be quiet which probably means I am in the wrong place ;-)
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:25 AM
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May, I've known from close to the beginning...
And through our emails I knew of your struggles with this. I hadn't heard of any hints, but I haven't been around much. I'm so sorry that you felt you had to out yourself. You should be able to protect your privacy, and having someone else expose it is just tacky and mean spirited. Did you mean that the person causing you such problems before was leaving hints? I certainly hope there are no further problems with that. You're still Bella in my mind. :)
posted by
Temple
on August 22, 2005 at 6:25 AM
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Katray, I think it is wise to carry on only when it feels good to do so. In some ways it does and in others not. I imagined that you would spot me
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:23 AM
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QuirkyAlone, not such a secret but the air feels clear. The number by my name doesn't matter these days but I admit it once did
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:21 AM
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MayB,
I too have only known you as MayB and have come to respect your blogs as well. It's interesting though, I spent the weekend wondering whether I would continue blogging....this whole situation with you has forced me to put a check in the "negative" column. I plan on posting on it now...
posted by
NCwriter
on August 22, 2005 at 6:20 AM
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Word.smith, thank you for your comment. I recognized that you were being discreet and I value that.
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 6:18 AM
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MayB, I've only known you as 'MayB'...BTW, I like that handle a lot! I sincerely hope nothing like this happens to you again, but if you feel a need to change, please let me know via email so I can keep up with you! I have come to respect your comments on my writing. You are a great encouragement to people like me, hoping to catch a break in the writing industry.
~Mama.Dragonfly487
posted by
Mama.Dragonfly
on August 22, 2005 at 6:13 AM
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Thanks for being May
The world is full of annoying insects. Even Blogit. Too bad there's not a can of Raid that can make a cyber stalker disappear. Years ago I was a host in AOL chat rooms, and was surprised how often we had to remind people to be cautious with personal info online. Never reveal your home town, real name or specific details that could be used to locate you. Not all chatroom visitors and bloggers are benign.
posted by
Pat_B
on August 22, 2005 at 4:55 AM
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Ann, hopefully that will now be the case. Yes I knew that it was obvious --couldn't do a thing about that.
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 3:48 AM
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It was quite obvious but I would let sleeping dogs lie. Anyway, your call.
Ann.
posted by
A-and-B
on August 22, 2005 at 2:54 AM
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A brave, brave post. A week is a long time in Blogitics.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on August 22, 2005 at 2:15 AM
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Good for you, MayB.
((((((((((MayB))))))))))))
posted by
SilverMoon7
on August 22, 2005 at 12:13 AM
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Wow MayB!
Can't believe I've been here longer than you! And I've never made it to #1! Never will I'm guessin'!
That's a funny comment about you being "Crabby". I remember that blogger. We are a couple of oldies, MayB...me older than you in oh so many ways!
posted by
ginnieb
on August 21, 2005 at 9:57 PM
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Ariala
No need to remove your hints now I've "outed" myself.
I don't understand why me, and my I.D. change, suddenly became fodder. You had been supportive over all that in the past.
My advice to you is get your shovel out and dig up some new material.... that stuff is old now!
Thanks for your apology.
posted by
Azur
on August 21, 2005 at 9:49 PM
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No, but someday ...
posted by
majroj
on August 21, 2005 at 9:28 PM
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No, not really.
I accidentally...no, ill-advisedly "outed" a returning blogger early this year and I've been sorry ever since. I didn't know it ws an issue then, but I do now. That's why I didn't pursue your location for my ill-starred map project
Your secret's safe with me, C...BBelle!
PS: Seriously, be well!
posted by
majroj
on August 21, 2005 at 9:27 PM
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G'dang funny you are Majroj!!!!!!!!!!!***
posted by
Azur
on August 21, 2005 at 9:26 PM
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Gee, and I thought you were "Crabby". G'Dang!
posted by
majroj
on August 21, 2005 at 9:24 PM
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mayb... wow that's some story. stalkers are scary.... you've made me
think twice about what I reveal. I didn't know you then... but glad to see you didn't get run off.
posted by
-blackcat
on August 21, 2005 at 9:04 PM
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MayB,
Don't worry about it. Looking for slights is the quickest way known to man of acheiving true paranoidal thinking. As was once said, ''Damn the torpedoes! Full speed ahead!''
JJ
posted by
Jack_Flash
on August 21, 2005 at 8:18 PM
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I have never read you before I came to blogit.. It seems to me that people are reading you faithfully and you are doing a great job with your writing.. I missed all of the conterversy and don't understand what this is all about. I wish you well and it is ovious from these comments that you are liked.
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 21, 2005 at 7:50 PM
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I've known for quite some time
I was sent an e-mail by another blogger, and then after reading both your, and Beachbelle's posts, I knew that you were the same blogger. I personally do not care who you are. What people do is their business. I just wondered about the two accounts, and how one could keep up with both.
posted by
Sherri_G
on August 21, 2005 at 7:45 PM
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one of the reasons for my own paranoia
when you described your previous encounter with another obsessed blogger. i'm hoping everything has turned out well, and that you can continue to blog here without being imposed or intruded upon by others unwelcomely. despite all of our differences and differeing opinions here on blogit, one thing we should all agree on is to not personally smear or "out" a particular person. I joke and rant, but never direct it at a single person with intent to harm. wish you continued success here.
posted by
caelia
on August 21, 2005 at 3:37 PM
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bb
Your dual identity was rather obvious to your fans, MayB, but it was your decision to seperate them and it is nobody's business but yours.
posted by
johnmacnab
on August 21, 2005 at 3:28 PM
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Well Beachbelle was leaving as
I was settling in here... so I missed all of the commotion apparently. It is good that you have stayed even in another incarnation because it is obvious that you are well liked and appreciated here!
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 21, 2005 at 3:27 PM
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mayb
I have only read you as you are now.......I like what I read. I think it is a shame that one butthole can ruin something fun for someone else. Continue with who you are and what you write........there will be many of us that will always be there by your side.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on August 21, 2005 at 3:00 PM
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Oh May, I thought so for a long time
but I was so glad to read your posts again, I never would have dreamt of "outting" you. Not my business or place to expose anything I know or think I know about anybody here nor should it be the concern of anybody else, in my humble opinion. What childish and outrageous situations you have been dragged through. Jealousy is such a monster. I'm so sorry you've had to endure this; hope you are able to continue on because you do have a readership that enjoys and respects your work.
posted by
Katray2
on August 21, 2005 at 2:43 PM
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MayB--
ah...so the truth comes out at last. I hope that you will not now be bothered by unwelcome attention--but if you do, you've proven that you can change your name, come back and still have people who want to read you faithfully, regardless of the number that's after your name.
posted by
Julia.
on August 21, 2005 at 2:33 PM
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Well, if I'm one who has somehow upset you in all this, I totally apologize
and will remove any hints or posts that bother you at all. Tell me and they're gone. I do joke a lot and don't mean to upset you or anyone else with my jokes.
posted by
Ariala
on August 21, 2005 at 2:25 PM
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I knew it!
When it finally came home to me was when Ariala asked if you're sure you weren't her after one of your posts. I kept seeing hints of it in your writing about your relationship, and your new teaching job, but did not want to intrude by emailing you to ask. Your life and what you do with it are yours. It's time you took it back. You go girl!
I'm glad you've written this.
posted by
word.smith
on August 21, 2005 at 2:20 PM
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