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When my 8 month old daughter passed away - I was there!! Holding her in my arms!!!!!
I was there when my biological father who never wanted me as a daughter died of cancer. When he got sick who do you think he depended on? ME Eventhough I could never depend on him. I drove 8 hrs twice a week to take him to chemo while raising a family of my own, going back to college, and working.
When my Grandmother became ill --- I took 3 weeks off to stay with her to make sure that her needs were met, take care of her, make her funeral arrangements, and help my mother. Again I was there!
When my grandfather was diagnosed with cancer - I took off of work each Friday drove 4 hours one way, stayed up all weekend sitting around the clock to make sure he was comfortable as possible, returned home again another 4 hours on Mondays. I did this for 6 very short weeks and again I was THERE when he took his last breath.
When my dad's mother passed last August, AGAIN I WAS THERE!!
When my husband's step mother - a woman that was vicious and despised me was in the Hospice unit for 53 days.. AGAIN I WAS THERE on one side of the hospital bed holding her hand while my husband was on the other side doing the same -- as she took her last breath. AGAIN I WAS THERE!!
In case you can't figure it out Family is VERY important to me -- and no one should die ALONE.
posted by
StrickGold
on August 9, 2005 at 5:42 PM
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Sassy
I know what you mean! When my grandfather (Papa) passed away 4 yrs ago
I was at his bedside. I wouldn't have had it any other way and would do it all again in a heartbeat. I did write a poem for him 2 days before he died.. It was something that was private that I had to do at the time to prepare myself. If there really is such a thing as a soul mate my grandfather was mine. I have had many published poems that I have written because of him. I am currently putting the finishing touches on a book about our relationship - one that has taken me 4 yrs to write.
posted by
StrickGold
on August 9, 2005 at 5:32 PM
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I have also wondered about this myself
I think back to when my Poppop died, and I remember my world falling apart at the news of his death. I was a blubbering zombie. It took me a few days before I could really function again. I guess that everyone mourns differently though. Myself, I withdraw from the world, and reflect back on their life. I couldn't write if I wanted to, but that is me personally.
posted by
Sherri_G
on August 8, 2005 at 4:47 AM
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Goldie
Wowie, I can't argue with that post luv, you do make sense and spell it out. What a good person you are to sit with her like that. Bless ya luv
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 7, 2005 at 8:58 PM
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but most don't think about the money. Of that I'm sure
posted by
Azur
on August 7, 2005 at 5:00 PM
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StrickGold, everyone handles these things differently. There is no right way just your way.
I don't think that most people are thinking about money when they are here, well maybe one or two consciously try to push up their earnings.
posted by
Azur
on August 7, 2005 at 5:00 PM
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Strickgold, thank you for your sympathy. I would have loved to be with my mother but my parents live on the other side of the country to me. As it was it took me over 24 hours to get to my father.
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 7, 2005 at 4:52 PM
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I didn't find it offensive and I
don't know all the details. I just know that if my own mother was ill I would be by her side. As I said I don't know the details of your mother's passing. Where my prayers are with you when I read your post it just reminded me of how many other members have lost loved ones since I have been a member of BN. Some were sudden others were not. It also reminded me of what a family we are here on BN we share our lives with others so openly. Again my syphathies.
posted by
StrickGold
on August 7, 2005 at 2:29 PM
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Well StrickGold, as you are talking about my post, I will let you know how it came about. My computer was on when my father called me with the news of my mother's death. Actually I was reading through some blogit posts at the time. It was 10.26pm and I spend my evenings on blogit as I work full time. As blogit was already open and running, I thought I would leave a short message to alert my friends here that I would not be online for a while. It was easier than emailing each and every one of them. I'm sorry if you found it offensive. I liken it to all the phone calls I had to make to my mother's friends and my family's friends to advise them of her death.
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 7, 2005 at 6:05 AM
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when my grandmother died
I wrote a poem for her and posted it here. She lived interstate and by the time I had organised plane tickets and accommodation (all online). I still had time to spare. I was upset and crying on and off, so was not in the mood to talk to people but I felt like I had to say something. I did that by posting here. It meant I could air my sorrow but not have to deal with people in my face.
posted by
littlemspickles
on August 7, 2005 at 12:59 AM
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No money here
I have been a member for approx. 18 months and you can see what I have earned. I have a real life and don't have time to waste sitting for hours a day reading and posting. I wish I did have that much free time on my hands!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is a outlet for me to try and relax a little, perhaps laugh a little too.
posted by
StrickGold
on August 6, 2005 at 6:15 PM
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No money here
I have been a member for approx. 18 months and you can see what I have earned. I have a real life and don't have time to waste sitting for hours a day reading and posting. I wish I did have that much free time on my hands!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is a outlet for me to try and relax a little, perhaps laugh a little too.
posted by
StrickGold
on August 6, 2005 at 6:15 PM
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I do know what you mean.
I understand that, the more we blog the more likely we are to build up income. I don't do that well financially on this.Probably won't either, because I write mostly poetry. It doesn't come to me every day. I only submit what I think others will enjoy.A lot of those brainstorming bloggers are really high profile. But you know, I don't get it either.
posted by
yafanna
on August 5, 2005 at 11:38 PM
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