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Temple
Oh, that makes me so happy and honored that you would say that; to have been able to give you something is all that I would ask of my writing. And thank you for helping me ...Elie Wiesel, of course!! I think that book should be required reading for everyone....such an incredible story of courage and spirit. And to see the man interviewed was unreal...that Norah Jones song, "You Humble Me, Lord" comes to mind. I have read some of your posts, Temple; you have the fearless heart I write about so often....you will find the right path for yourself....you have a mission in this life and it is not done.
posted by
Krisles
on July 11, 2005 at 10:28 AM
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anthony1wiley
I love you, too. Hope you have a wonderful week, too....and that it's wonderful weather for you to enjoy the yard and the bird....and that beautiful black cat!!!
posted by
Krisles
on July 11, 2005 at 10:22 AM
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This is my most favorite post I've read here.
Outside of things written to me, for me, sentimental things...this is it. Maybe it's because it's perfectly what I believe said in a way I have never thought to say it. Maybe because it's unfortunately timely. I believe I need to do a repair job, but it's the fact that I can that allows me to keep loving. It's those that give up and put their rubber bands away that don't let love in any more. It's tempting in these moments. Truly, in the year and a half I've been here, this is my favorite post. Beautiful spirit and analogy. It's how I try to live my life. I have been feeling this place out to see if I can stay, or if I will cancel my subscription for a while (I've been gone for some weeks). I wonder what finding this means.
Oh, the writer's name is Elie Wiesel. I have heard of the book, but not yet been able to read it. You've inspired me, maybe I will now. :)
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Temple
on July 11, 2005 at 8:31 AM
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Krisles
Yes, I love you.
How beautiful a post.
Good, old rubber band loves you. 
Now deal with it and have a happy week.
posted by
WileyJohn
on July 11, 2005 at 8:14 AM
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Kris, btw, Offbeat has still not 'given it up'
posted by
Passionflower
on July 10, 2005 at 9:43 PM
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I'm leaving you this link to a blog I just posted...per your instructions.
Strange Days are ahead.
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Passionflower
on July 10, 2005 at 9:43 PM
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Lensman
You are taking my heart and starting to wrap it tighter and tighter - using one of those sailor knots! Thank you. I love those dolls and have a set somewhere.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 7:36 PM
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Offbeat
will do!
posted by
Bel_
on July 10, 2005 at 7:34 PM
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MW
Send me an email so I can forward this to you okay??
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 7:32 PM
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Someone you like is always good, but I did discover a ride on a Harley has a pretty good effect too LOL!
posted by
Bel_
on July 10, 2005 at 7:31 PM
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MW
Passion and Kris said I need to get laid, that is how it all started. So I sent a picture of the one I have been talking to alot. Got their approval and made a date. I will send you the picture too. Tell me what you think, it has been a long dry spell. They say I have to "give it up" sometime, so it may as well be with someone that I like!!
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 7:28 PM
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OFFBEAT!!!
YOu have a date? Details, come on I want DETAILS!!! I gave you details!
posted by
Bel_
on July 10, 2005 at 7:24 PM
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Krisles
You're like one of those Russian nesting dolls. Each time you open one, there's another one inside.
posted by
Lensman
on July 10, 2005 at 7:24 PM
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Ms_N_Dependence
Thank you....what a nice compliment. I learned from my heartache....my daughter learned from her's....now we have two, soon to be three, granddaughters.....sigh.....if one could just
tell them....
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 7:23 PM
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KRIS
I made that date we talked about~~
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 7:23 PM
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Kris
So very wise you are! Your comments and posts always move me.
posted by
Transcendental_Child
on July 10, 2005 at 7:10 PM
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Ms_N_Dependence
Sure it hurts, but spit in the face of fear.....it doesn't kill you and pain is just part of living a rich and full life. I think anyone who gets to the end of their life without having had pain in it must have had a really boring and one-dimensional one! I really think once you've had a broken heart and survived you have a wonderful gift...you now you survived...and you can go out and get back in the battle knowing that if you do end up with another one, you'll go through pain but you will survive. One of the hardest things you will go through as a mother will be the first time you watch your daughter cry with a broken heart....you will want to somehow touch her and just have her know that she will survive it....let me tell you,
that is when you will know true pain and a feeling of helplessness!
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 5:59 PM
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Kris
Hmmmm.... maybe that is why I am so afraid of a broken heart. Nothing hurts quite so much as a rubber band that has been stretched to the breaking point then THWACK!
posted by
Transcendental_Child
on July 10, 2005 at 5:47 PM
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Kris
Did you see the email I sent you?
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 5:46 PM
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Offbeat
I say check that out...check it out thoroughly...do not pass go...do not collect $200....just check it out!!!!
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 5:44 PM
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KRIS
Your endorsing Passion wish for me to get laid? He is all of 39. OKAY, if I am gonna do it, he may as well be young and breath taking~~I think, right?
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 5:25 PM
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Offbeat
Passion is right!! Age is all relative...it's the spirit, the thinking, the attitude...all that....plus, the energy!!!
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 5:21 PM
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KRIS
I will send you the new one I am going to meet this week! He is a
tad young, but Passion says I need to get laid!!
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 4:58 PM
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Offbeat
Actually, if I were really picky.....like you!!....I'd prefer 6' for the neck's sake, like you say!!!
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 4:53 PM
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Kris
Then you are a perfect match. Someday I am going to find one too....maybe!
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 4:48 PM
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Offbeat
I don't really care...it is nice to be able to wear heels with them without them being self-conscious....I'm 5'6 1/2" so that means 5'9-10 at least is best for me. Hubby is 6'2" and wears boots a lot so he is usually on up there so I'm used to the atmosphere.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 4:45 PM
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Kris
See I am not wild about tall men anyway. I like them around 5'7 to 5'9. Anything over that and the heels get real uncomfortable!!
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 4:38 PM
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Offbeat
She's 5'6" or so, like me....compared to you...yep! But she's in Littleton, Co!!!
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 4:35 PM
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Offbeat
Once, with the coindealer who moved me to KC, I realized that the reason I had this sore chin all the time wasn't some zit that would just not surface...it was from my chin rubbin' on his sternum when we made love!
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 4:32 PM
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Kris
Is Brenda tall?
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 4:30 PM
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Kris
If I dated a man who was that tall, everytime we would dance, or make love, my neck would hurt. Yep, I did it, superficial me. Too tall for my nerves g/friend. He was good looking, clean cut and educated, he was an excellent kisser because we did that for a while, but TOO TALL...I sorry...
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 4:30 PM
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offbeat
Please do not tell me that you discarded a great man based solely on the fact that he is too tall?! I mean...with all the shortage I hear about out there....well, just on general principle....please....OK....I love ya....you know best....and, I'm glad you like the rubber band theory.....too tall.....OK....you know best....I guess...(whoa!!! girlfriend! I am not even gonna tell my poor friend Brenda about you!!!)
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 4:26 PM
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Kris
The rubberband theory is a great one! I like it. Somethings are forever going to ping at our hearts, but not on a daily basis. Now you asked me about the Border date so I am going to tell ya.
We met, he was everything he said he was and more. We made a date for Sat. night. Yesterday I thought about him. He is 6'4" and that is just too tall for me. Over a foot. So I emailed him and told him I didn't think we were a good match. We were just good kissers!
posted by
Offy
on July 10, 2005 at 4:19 PM
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avant-garde
Thank you so much for checking back! I think the heart we talk of is the human spirit and it is as strong as we let it be. Thanks for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 3:47 PM
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krisles
glad you're doing better. yes, the heart is inexplicable, but very real and resilient.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 10, 2005 at 3:27 PM
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HolyGrail
After all that blathering back to you I did....if you didn't mean broken irreparably, ignore it!! I just find so many people who are afraid to put their hearts out there because they've been broken that I jumped to the conclusion that you were coming from that place - and I jumped on my persuasion box (I'm afraid I carry it around with me!!).
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 12:37 PM
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Military_Wife
I agree with you....I guess when I'm saying broken I mean in terms of irreparably, which is what people always seem to be talking about when they speak of not wanting to fall in love again, etc. I should have "spoken" more clearly. I've had mine crushed, stomped on, etc.....it is full of scar tissue...but I think that, if anything, it might be like a broken bone - having been broken and formed the calcium where it heals, it is stronger for having broken. I know what it feels like, know I can survive, am more willing to put it out there, willing to take more and, therefore, end up getting more.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 12:34 PM
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Krisles
I do believe that hearts can be broken...but I also know in time they heal. There may be a bit of scar tissue left over but somehow that tends to make them stronger.
I also believe we all have a path in this life and denying ourselves the beauty and the joy that can come with some of them, even if they hurt from time to time, is denying ourselves something so incredible!
The night my husband left the armory, I could have sworn I felt my heart physically break. But it's that same heart that refuses to ever let go that keeps me going everyday.
posted by
Bel_
on July 10, 2005 at 12:28 PM
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MysticGmekeepr
Thank you...it is one of the blessings of going through heartbreak that it teaches that lesson. Once I learned it, I never again feared risking the pain of loving and losing...a wonderful freedom. The old, if it doesn't kill me it will make me stronger.... Thanks for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 12:26 PM
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Military_Wife
Thank you! I know from what you've written that you know a lot about this. And, see the comment I just wrote back to HolyGrail...isn't it amazing all the differences that we all have in our lives..this incredbly, wonderful hodgepodge of humanity that we are. I don't know the specifics of all the stories behind the comments...I just have faith that there is always a way...I guess I really will always be like a child in a lot of ways.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 12:23 PM
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HolyGrail
Thank you for the compliment on the post! And, as for the rubber bands, you are so very right - and I have also used that analogy on workloads in training classes with managers for that very reason; they can be stretched but do break. However, that's the great thing about analogy...it is just an analogy. The human spirit, which is what this is,of course, actually about isn't an analogy and cannot be broken if we choose not to let it. I do not know if you have ever read the book by the Holocaust survivor - I'm blanking on his name, dang it - I'm almost positive the book is titled
Night - it is just the most powerful example that comes to my mind of what I mean. Love is but an example of the human spirit....horrid times, painful times, unimaginable betrayal...those are events that happen and we pass through them as we go through pregnancy and childbirth to get to the time when we have the child....or we get through the illness to a time of health. We do not have to let those things "break" our hearts. I do not agree with you....a rubber band can be broken....a "heart" cannot.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 12:19 PM
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Quirkyalone
Thank you....and you have certainly learned of it's strength a very hard way...and continue to do so from what I have read in your posts. It is always so sad to me when I see how many people don't realize that the strength is there is they will but use it. Thanks for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on July 10, 2005 at 12:11 PM
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Krisles
This is wonderful!!!
posted by
Bel_
on July 10, 2005 at 12:05 PM
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Kris
very nice description...we do have rubber band hearts...thank GOd!
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on July 10, 2005 at 12:00 PM
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That was a lovely post, and a great analogy! But unfortunately I can say from experience that rubber bands do break when they are stretched too far or become weak.
posted by
Holy_Grail
on July 9, 2005 at 6:01 PM
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wonderful post and perfect analogy...you're right, it does take an awful lot to break a rubber band. The human heart is also more resilient than most people give it credit for being.
posted by
Julia.
on July 9, 2005 at 5:53 PM
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Ariala
Thanks....I know it's really tough for you right now still. I bet you can really relate to the woven pad that these folks around here can form. I bet your mom had one helluva rubber band heart...I just know she did to have bound you so tightly to her....and that stretch reaches all the way...
posted by
Krisles
on July 9, 2005 at 5:51 PM
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mmm_w
I thought about you when I was writing this...you have certainly had to have a heart like this. Please...you have been there for me...and you are there whether you get to read all the posts are not....I know you are there. And, if I don't say it enough, thanks for that.
posted by
Krisles
on July 9, 2005 at 5:48 PM
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MedusaNextDoor
Thank you....and, yes, you spelled it correctly....I love that word!! It's how I spend my day when I go shopping!! I have to check my spelling a lot now, too....and I used to be such a good speller...if I stop to think about it...that's when I get in trouble! Thanks for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on July 9, 2005 at 5:46 PM
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Enjoyed this post...couldn't agree more though at times it's been hard.
posted by
Ariala
on July 9, 2005 at 5:40 PM
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such a great post. i feel so bad because you have been such a support and very kind to me, i would like to be the same.... thought i THOUGHT that i had all of your pages in my favorites, apparently i didn't have this one. i am sorry i missed your bad day, sorry that you had a tough time and i missed it. it may seem like a silly thing to apologize for but it matters to me.....
this post, your "day after" post was so beautifully written..... very provoking.... i am glad that things seem better, perspectives are magical that way!
posted by
mmm-w
on July 9, 2005 at 5:36 PM
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Hey Krisles...I like your rubber band theory...
it's very accommodating. Glad to see you've ricocheted back. Did I spell that right? I used to be a great speller, but as I get older, heck, the words don't always look right spelled that way...
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on July 9, 2005 at 5:12 PM
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SpitFire70
Chewing on a ball of tin foil! That's great!! Yes, I'm having a much better day..thank you very much! And, I know from your animals what an incredible heart you have...not a single one of them reports any singed fur!! Thanks for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on July 9, 2005 at 2:57 PM
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Krisles
You see that? Your posts make me think about things.......all this time I thought rubberbands were for newspapers and shooting things that could put someones eye out!
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on July 9, 2005 at 2:57 PM
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ANTIMATTER
Thank you. From your writing, I can already tell that you have a most excellent grasp of the rubber band and its uses.
posted by
Krisles
on July 9, 2005 at 2:55 PM
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Krisles,
Interesting. I never thought about it that way. I usually think of love as chewing on a ball of tin foil. No, I'm kidding. Great post. Hope you're having a better day than yesterday.
posted by
SpitFire70
on July 9, 2005 at 2:45 PM
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Very nice analogy. Good job
posted by
ANTIMATTER
on July 9, 2005 at 1:59 PM
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