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U-H,
Listen, the only thing I can suggest here is to TELL your boss how you feel and the logic behind it. Tell him that you feel confident that
your method is the best route right now. If you are continuously stressed and harrassed about all these projects, maybe it is time to move on. Such stress and pressure on a daily basis just ain't worth it.
posted by
SpitFire70
on May 23, 2005 at 11:10 PM
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UH,
You're under pressure right now because your managers did a shit job of planning the project. It always goes that way in programming.
The best thing to do now, if you can take it long enough, is to keep in mind the light at the end of the tunnel. If you can keep reminding yourself that the project is almost over, you can usually keep yourself going until the end of that. I hope it's almost done, or will be done, by the end of this week. That's your survival hole card. Once ''The Big Push'' pressure is off of management, I'm sure they will let you have a couple of days off, paid or unpaid. Then you can get your moving shit straightened out. Tell them that's what you need time off for, if you need an excuse.
Get moved ASAP. You're getting stress from two sides, and that isn't doing you any good.
So, if the project is almost over, hang in a few days until it is. Stress one is cut, at least temporarily. Then get moved. Stress two is over. Once you have a few days of break, think again about the job. Don't make a snap decision on that if you don't have to. If you have good family relationships, your parents can be a good source of strength. Use that if you can.
Once you are back on your feet, stresswise, then you can think rationally. Make important decisions then.
Keep your head on. Good luck. 
JJ
posted by
Jack_Flash
on May 23, 2005 at 10:57 PM
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When he's out of his office, stick his phone receiver down your pants and rub it around a bit. Then put it back and walk out like nothing happened. THEN call him a bunch of times on the phone and try not to laugh.
posted by
roofpig
on May 23, 2005 at 7:03 PM
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Okay UH I have been at this point myself although for different reasons
Here is the deal. Take a good look at why it bothers you. Do you really care if you keep working there? Do you believe you can find a job you'd like elsewhere if you tried? Can you take a "leave of absence" for medical reasons, even if it is unpaid? Is the problem personal pride, that you just cannot admit it is time to "just say no?" That was me. I burned myself out due to pride...I did not want to say that I could not do it even if I would feel a hell of a lot better if I just walked away. Eventually I just quit. Cold turkey, no scaling back, no job waiting. If I were to go back and do it again, I would have stood up to myself sooner and cut back my hours or whatever. And if someone pushed too hard- tough!! It's my life, my health, my body, my sanity, we are talking about... I was only 28? when I bailed out and I soon started contracting. I never went back to work full time (other than this mom thing!) and it has been so much better for my health. Think about what you can handle financially, and give up your drive...easier said than done, but you will find other things to fill the area where this job was....
Hope something in that helps. I recognize being at the breaking point...I was there. any questions, let me know.
posted by
FactorFiction
on May 23, 2005 at 6:06 PM
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Hacker,
Take it easy, kiddo...This guy and your job aren't worth your sanity or hurting yourself phyiscally. Tell this guy off and then get the hell outta there!!
By the way, I use messenger, so feel free to put me on your list. Let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on May 23, 2005 at 2:18 PM
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Unidentied Hacker,
Before you blow a gasket, quit the g.d. job! Wrap up whatever you can or don't, but you can freelance like Jimmy68 and others suggested. JUST QUIT, IT'S NOT WORTH YOUR SANITY.
posted by
Blanche.
on May 23, 2005 at 2:12 PM
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hang in there...
Soon you will be moving into the place at your parents, if I'm not mistaken, then maybe it's time to work somewhere less stressful. I know how hard it is to admit that you need to make adjustments, but I work for myself now. I haven't worked out the kinks, but you wouldn't have to worry about money as much (my big issue) and you could contract out all kinds of things. Be gentle with yourself and remember, things are changing now, but that could mean new good things.
posted by
Temple
on May 23, 2005 at 1:39 PM
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