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Alf,
Interesting thoughts...
It's true, long-lasting love is a choice. It's easy to love someone for a moment. To do it forever requires skill beyond the grasp of many.
posted by
myrrhage_
on May 21, 2005 at 6:43 PM
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Alf, don't let this get out, but
Romantic love is a trick nature produces to increase the likelihood of species survival.
posted by
ARGUS
on May 21, 2005 at 5:19 PM
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Well put.
posted by
FactorFiction
on May 20, 2005 at 12:12 PM
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Alf,
Well written post here. When you said, "Like a house on fire it burns hot until the structure is weakened and then it collapses on itself." I agree, but if the fire is put out by the faith and trueness of genuine love before the total collapse, there is a strong possibility of rebuilding. That new structure may even be stronger than the first.
posted by
SpitFire70
on May 19, 2005 at 9:58 PM
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posted by
Passionflower
on May 19, 2005 at 3:52 PM
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Alf, you did a really good job of explaining things. "Happy ever after" takes lots of committment and lots of work.
posted by
TAPS.
on May 17, 2005 at 5:51 PM
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I would say that I don't liken the first phase to insanity at all, but the intoxicating part is true enough...and that would be more indicative of an addiction, wouldn't it?
posted by
Julia.
on May 16, 2005 at 9:13 PM
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Gosh, Ya'll ... All I know is that for me lately, love seems like that old saying "can't live with it, can't live without it!"
posted by
Georgia
on May 16, 2005 at 5:53 PM
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ALF
Yes, romantic love is good, and it takes work to get to the next level. Sometimes it is just okay to have romantic love if you are not looking for anything else. Now I love my children, and a few of my friends, one dawg, and that is a different kind of love. It doesn't matter what they do, I would still love them. Romantic love takes a long time to reach that level, it takes hard work. Personally, I like romantic love, lust love, and it would take someone real special to put me over the edge into real life long love. It would mean a big "C" (committment), and that eludes me at this time...
posted by
Offy
on May 16, 2005 at 12:08 PM
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A_Norseman
I've noted before that my experiences with love are somewhat limited. The only woman I've ever loved I married, thus somehow avoiding much heartache and anguish through the years. To be perfectly honest, I don't know why I love her. She's beautiful, but so were other women I dated. She's intelligent, compassionate, caring, the list goes on and on, but those qualities are not unique. Other women possessed them, yet what I felt for them does not compare with what I feel for her. I knew she was the one immediately. After the first date, I knew. All I had to do was figure out if she felt the same and how we could could make it last. That's the hard part. That's what makes love so messy. Love is what's left after the passion and thrill of the unfamilar becomes familiar.
posted by
Talion
on May 16, 2005 at 11:56 AM
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As always, your post is full of wisdom and well-thought-out.
Yes, I do agree with everything you said. And I wish more people understood love the way you do. We wouldn't have near so many divorces. In my own life, I've pretty much made up my mind to expend my time and efforts in a different direction...my writing, my job...and just let that whole "Falling in Love" thing go for now or maybe even forever.
But people who know me say that I'm too passionate, I have too much love to give, that it's folly to believe I could actually do that. I'll tell you this...I'd think long and hard before diving into anything. And that's not just my commitment phobia talking.
I have my life like I want it. When you get into a relationship with someone, it fucks up everything bec it changes so much of the way you feel and your priorities. Don't you agree?
I will say this though...and please excuse the long comment--you always bring that out in me...at this point in my life, if I ever WERE to get into anything with anyone, I'd want it to be the kind of relationship with NO expectations. The kind where you and I (or whoever!) except each other exactly the way we are with no plans to change all those little idiosyncrasies we don't care for in one another.
I want a man that I love so much that the idiosyncrasies don't bother me at all....not that I don't see them...not that I'm ignoring them....and not that I'm looking at the guy thru rose-colored glasses. Simply that they don't matter bec they FAR outwiegh the other amazing qualities this person has.
Does a person like this really exist??? Only time will tell.
posted by
Passionflower
on May 16, 2005 at 10:53 AM
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