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It's good to spread the word. My mother and father both married abusers who isolate, it's classic and they do it in very subtle and sneaky ways: like putting down other family members, incurring jealousy and envy, creating divisiveness. It's evil.
posted by
Blanche.
on April 25, 2005 at 3:47 PM
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I agree about the sneaky ways abusers isolate us.
My former boyfriend was into taunting my family. Now, keep in mind that my family was not perfect in any way, but that doesn't mean you taunt them.
posted by
kidnykid
on April 25, 2005 at 3:41 PM
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KDNY - I was in a relationship with an abuser who also loved animals
but talked trash about people and refused to let me see my family and friends. It got to the point where he locked me in a room because the UPS man complimented me. My mother and brother came and rescued me--today I wonder what the hell I was thinking. But oh, how he could pour on the charm!
posted by
Hollee
on April 25, 2005 at 11:36 AM
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Having been married to an abuser,
I can tell you that he was so charming most of the time that I simply did not see the signs of his trying to isolate me from my family and friends, and then I finally saw it for what it was. It was a definite control mechanism. I could write volumes on the isolation attempts alone, but this is just a comment. It is very important to recognize when someone tries to isolate you by alienating you from your family and friends. There are different ways to do this. One is, obviously, by simply refusing to let you see your family and friends, but other ways include making your family despise him by his being rude, or disgusting to them, and making the family and friends not want to come around. Oh, they are sneaky!
posted by
RAME
on April 25, 2005 at 11:30 AM
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