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Realist souns great, but I know i am a pessimist and it stinks...
posted by
Original_Influence
on April 17, 2005 at 8:50 PM
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I guess I just try to be positive about things. I don't quite fit into the Pollyanna type of optimism, but I try to keep my head up and smile.
posted by
Ca88andra
on April 17, 2005 at 4:35 PM
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UH<
Exactly, even though, to be honest, I am postive from your blog that I wouldn't like him, because someone who cheats so easily and cavalierly seems symtpomatic of a disconnected, cruel nature, rather than overwhelmed by his feelings. Mens rhea, actus rhea=the motivation and the act, two parts to the law, those whose motivation are judged more sympathetic are sentenced more leniently. It seems like a good idea, to judge a person's motivations and make a judgment as to whether they will "repent" and not do it again. Sadly, he seems likely to do it again, since he has so little feeling for either woman or, probably, himself.
posted by
Blanche.
on April 17, 2005 at 4:25 PM
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Mary
Ahh I understand. You could have said "Your roommate did a scummish thing" and been in the clear I suppose.
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on April 17, 2005 at 4:19 PM
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UH,
Hmm, however, I gave in to my temptation to label someone I don't know, even though I believe his behavior is contemptible, I've commited a wrong, against my own beliefs, and words are too powerful for me to be slinging them around carelessly like that. So, I retract the statement.
posted by
Blanche.
on April 17, 2005 at 3:57 PM
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Mary
No worries, you were correct in your earlier statement. He is. He doesn't feel anything for the girl he cheated with, she's just sex to him.
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on April 17, 2005 at 3:51 PM
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Let me qualify that, your roommate seems like scum to me. Passion overwhelms judgment, and common sense, temptation seems irresistible. Everyone falls sometime, consequences invariably ensue. End of moral tale.
posted by
Blanche.
on April 17, 2005 at 3:49 PM
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Unidentified Hacker,
I think that taking each situation as it comes has been key to your resilience, keeping an open mind. I tend to catastrophize, which is one of the key indicators of pessimistic thinking. Martin Seligman defined them in his book, "Learned Optimism". Pessimism is pervasive, meaning if one little thing goes wrong, it means nothing will every go right. It's permanent, one thing went wrong, it can't fixed, nothing will ever go right. There's a third "P" I can't recall, but you get the picture. I would get into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy if I could find one I could afford, but mostly I'm not looking, only working on my own. Thanks for your comment.
ps, your roommate is scum.
posted by
Blanche.
on April 17, 2005 at 2:40 PM
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U-H, I am both most of the time.
I try to protect myself and not be naive by my pessimism, but optimistic to see my way through a situation.
posted by
SpitFire70
on April 17, 2005 at 2:22 PM
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I was a realist once. Then I got antidepressants and now I am a happy realist. Not quite an optimist, but at least not a pessimist.
posted by
FactorFiction
on April 17, 2005 at 12:56 PM
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